Me and my sister are ten years apart we both have children and choose complete opposite ways to raise them. I go to church, don't curse, and spank with my hand. My sister on the other hand does go to church, but curses like a sailor around her children, and spankes them with a wooden spoon. We are both very close to my mother, and I am very close to my father, and so is my daughter. We just cannot get along. Her oldest child is out of control and takes her anger out on my one year old. I love living close and being close to my mom and dad. How do I put her sailor mouth and bossy attitude out of my life while still staying close to my mom and dad?
2006-11-25 14:39:33 · 6 answers · asked by May_May 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have tried to talk her out of being mean to her children, and she is also very mentally and somtimes physically aggresive and abusive to other peoples children, I have also tried to talk her out of that, but she just will not stop.
2006-11-25 14:48:53 · update #1
Why can't you still be close to your parents without dealing with your sister. If your sister is at your parents' house, then just don't go over there. If she comes over while you are there, then pack up your kids and leave. If her oldest child is mean to your youngest child, grab her oldest child and tell her to stop. You're sister and her kids will only do what you let them get away with. You can't change how your sister behaves or how she raises her children, but you don't need to let her stress you out either. And nobody is forcing you to spend time around her. If you want to spend time with your parents, do it when your sister isn't there.
2006-11-25 14:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that you and your sister both go to church you don't say which one but if you guys read out of the bible then it will tell you that you should forgive each other, After all she is your sister and sisters fright and a lot just do not get along it just the same with a lot of sisters, Would you really want to lose you sister and your nieces and nephews
may God bless you
2006-11-25 14:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by jan d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man i thought i had a harsh life read this tell me wut u think tell me i f u wud write somethin like that Best Answer - Chosen by Asker
Sounds like my mother except mine doesnt drink.
Well I can tell you love her regardless but you have to understand what you have withh your mother is what I was told is a TOXIC realationship and it wasn't health and I was told to just to cut her off no more contact. But I didnt listen. So really it would be up to you is this behavor you can handle if so just learn to laugh it off. Thats what I did I dont let her get to me anymore and I happier so try it be happy and learn to block out when she acts like that.
Thats just the way they are .
Just like Love is unconditional for children well even for parents love is unconditional. I love my mother even though shes ruins my life time and time again and put me through hell and back. But yet I still love her. I try to think maybe in her own way that how she expresses her emotions because maybe she doesnt know how to show feelings.
Sometimes children end up being the parent towards the parent.
2006-11-25 14:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by rodrigez_mariah 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand your frustration. i'm not likely to sit down down right here and make it easier to recognize all approximately myself and what terrible circumstances i've got had yet you may desire to realize which you at the instant are not the only one. I grew up and not using a father and my mom and that i've got continuously disputed. My sister and that i've got had fist fights and continuously ratted one yet another out. Teenage years at the instant are not undemanding and could be so complicated in case you do not shop your head on. In my concern i got here across Jesus. i'm not attempting to transform you or perhaps propose something, in basic terms that Jesus made life relaxing. What i believe could assist you to is to coach your mom this letter you wrote. I don;t understand her character yet honestly she loves you and this letter could wrench her heart and wake her to the choose which you have. this is not undemanding being needed yet once you cry out as you have this is important to be acknowledged. i'm not sure what else to assert. I in basic terms honestly think of she could study this.
2016-10-13 03:07:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a church person i thought you were suppose to love people for who they are not judge and try to show them the rite way... what i here you saying is that you dont agree with her and dont want to try to help but just get away from her...and sailor mouth bossy attitude ummm sounds judgemental to me
2006-11-25 14:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by crazyme 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
keep trying!
2006-11-25 14:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋