he dumped me , hurt me , now we are talking again and starting to get back to where we were, only some stuff that was a issue for us is no longer an issue this time. i love him & i know he loves me as well, he wants to pursue this relationship, i do too, but how can i trust him not to hurt me again? should he change his mind about us. we have been together off and on for quite a few months now. and there is someone new in my life that i have been talking to about being friends with and maybe even dating, so i'm kinda torn about which way to go here, the new guy i have not met yet but i have talked to quite a bit & he wants to meet me, i would like to go ahead and meet him too, but is it fair to go ahead and meet the new guy when i'm still talking to the old one and thinking of getting back together with him? please help me out here, have any of you been in a similer situation and how did you handle it?
2006-11-25 14:14:19 · 8 answers · asked by Almost Happy Housewife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to ask your self if you have forgiven him for hurting you? If you haven't, it wont' work. You will keep on looking over your shoulder waiting for him to hurt you again. If you have forgiven him, and can move past that, and you truly do love him, then give it a shot. If you can't/haven't forgiven him, try to move on.
2006-11-25 14:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by Suzzie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my girlfriend and I met off of myspace. In fact right before we met she was talking to this other guy who she starting to see. She took a chance and met me and we have been in a serious relationship ever since and we are both very happy. I say do what your heart tells you is right. You have the right to meet that guy if you'd like because you are not back with the other guy yet. After all he did hurt you. Make him wait a little bit, if he really wants to be with you he will wait. In the meantime meet the other guys as friends and then start making your decision.
2006-11-25 22:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by jdyzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you feel that you still have a connection with the first guy, but remember "HE DUMPED YOU." Give the new guy a chance before throwing your whole heart into a relationship with a guy who hurt you before. Its a really hard situation especially when you feel like the first guy was your "true love" and you can picture your whole life together with him. First of all stop thinking like that! You've been thinking optimistically about it, now think of it on the flipside. What happens if he breaks your heart again, what happens if the second guy is who you're meant to be with and you pick guy #1 instead?
2006-11-25 22:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont move on to the new guy until you have resolved things with the ex....will he hurt you again....the only thing i can say is with love comes hurt....its only those you love that can really hurt you....if the issues you had in the past are no longer there then i would consider giving it another go.....providing he hadnt cheated on you....once a cheater always a cheater....
2006-11-25 22:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends have the same problem. Guys beg them to go out with them and when they finally do he dumps her. My friends r crushed. But sure enough they go right back out. If you truly love them then give him the second chance but if u r tired with his attuide then talk 2 the other guy.
2006-11-25 22:18:27 · answer #5 · answered by BIG RED 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on!! Why risk getting hurt by your old bf, you know he is capable of it so why bother. Meet the new guy and see what happens. Your old bf had his chance now its time to move on. Good Luck!!
2006-11-25 22:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet the new guy, and then pick the one u like best
2006-11-25 22:16:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no if he did it once he'll do it again
2006-11-25 22:17:53 · answer #8 · answered by tmomma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋