This girl i really like, has started giving me the silent treatment.....weve been hanging heaps for the past 5 weeks, gone to heaps of movies, lunches, the occasional dinner, and we work together and talk heaps on the ph at work. She really likes to play with me, and touch alot, we share laughs all the time....the past week, she been acting quite wierd, she dont respond to my txt's, or talk to me as often, and most importantly, we having been hanging out?...which we do at least once in week. Everytime i go to see her, she doesnt talk to me unless she really has to...and i feel awkward around her now....whats she doing...?i started giving her the same treatment, and not talking to her...its been about 2 days like this, talking only when needing to....and today i go on yahoo messenger, and as soon as im online she talks to me straight away, saying hello, and started convo...i pretty much just answered her questions...and then briefly ended convo and left....hopefully it gets her thiking?
2006-11-25 14:12:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It could be something totally unrelated to you. Don't play any more games, ask her what is up before you both entrench in frosty attitudes and whatever chemistry you had dies.
2006-11-25 14:15:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something may have been bothering her that made her distant, or maybe she was feeling more than what you think and she was getting scared. You should just come out and ask her if there is anything bothering her and if she says no then ask her why she has been acting different. I was just recently in the same situation. Me and this guy were hanging out ALL the time, and all of a sudden the text messages and phone calls stopped, so i asked him what was wrong, he told me that he wasnt sure if he could see us being long term, and me being the understanding person that I am said ok and we are still friends.So I do highly reccomend that if you want anything to happen between you 2, even if it is just being friends, then you should just come out and ask. It will also prove that you are a good friend and can make a good boyfriend, you want to make her feel comfortable that she can talk to you and come to you about anything. Think about it, if you guys are in a relationship and for some reason she isnt talking to you are you just goin to give her the silent treatment or are you going to ask her whats wrong?? Your obviously going to ask her whats wrong.
2006-11-25 22:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by tayvrc2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"hopefully it gets her thinking"? That's game playing. If you want to play games, expect to be played with.
Just ask here if something has changed in your relationship and why it changed. See if she is upset about something, or if there is someone else. Asking her straight up is much better than playing games. It also allows you to communicate and possibly resolve the situation and heal your relationship.
If you play the silent treatment, you'd better be willing to have permanent silence. Frankly, I'm there. If he wants to talk, he can call me. I'm quite willing (in my situation) to never hear from him again and move on. Can you say the same? Sounds like you still want a relationship with this girl.
So step up and be a man. Call her and find out what the problem is.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-11-25 22:18:39 · answer #3 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be cause she was told that you like her, and she doesn't feel the same, just a friendship. The only way to truely know is to ask her though, so go for it! Ask her if you said or did something wrong. Hell maybe she's just going through a hard time with family or something personal. I wouldn't look into it too much, it might not be you. Just ask her
2006-11-25 22:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have just been having her period. We ladies have a hard time feeling friendly when that happens, because our hormones are out of whack and we're bleeding and cramping and just generally feeling crappy. If it happens again in four more weeks, you'll know that's it. Just wait it out patiently, because that's the only thing -we- can do.
2006-11-25 22:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by perelandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's someone else in the mix. she's trying to decide what she wants to do with you. take it from me, i'm a 24 yr old female, i've been there done that to a great guy. because of my stupidity, i lost him. what you need to do is ask her exactly what's up with ya'll. if you don't, she'll keep stringing you along and it will be like that again. let her know that your not going to be the "side" guy, and you're not going to play games. please, before you get your heart broken.
good luck homeboy
2006-11-25 22:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by Selena Jade's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, guys don't say "heaps" that many times. Second of all, be a grown up, ask her why she's treating you like that.
2006-11-25 22:15:42 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, ask her directly when you got the chance to chat with her again.
2006-11-25 22:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by KelO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't no if you did the right thing. she probably just needed a quick break. now that shes talking to you, you should talk to her. who nos why she was mad or if she was mad.
2006-11-25 22:24:13 · answer #9 · answered by alien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋