I am 14 and i hav a 19 yr old bro and a 9 yr old sis!!!My Dad shouts a lot and so do i!!!!Mostly at him!!He is always shouting at my sister and she is his favourite because she just crys and runs to her room or runs to my mum!!!I stand up for her and tel him not to do that to her but this makes him madder and he tells me im givin him back cheek!!!He loves my sister and my brother (he only lives wit us on the weekend)!!!Bt he doesnt like me because i am the only 1 not afraid of him!!!My mum doesnt really get mad at him either!!!I am always the 1 that has 2 stand up for every1 else and tell him that hes wrong but because of this he doesnt lik or care about me!!!He told me that he rathers my little sis!!!!What can i do 2 get him 2 love me???PLZ answer!!!(I no its a long question sorry)
2006-11-25 13:58:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No he is not an alcholic!!!He doesnt even drink , hes a pioneer!!!So is my ma!!
2006-11-26 00:18:45 · update #1
Often you get back what you give. You consider yourself brave for standing up to him, but quite frankly what you are likely doing is showing how little respect you have for him.
Being a Dad isn't easy for anyone, and honestly, would you choose as a "favorate" the one who is always telling you just how bad a Dad you are?
Show love and respect and the same comes back.
2006-11-25 14:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by JLanswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop the yelling first. He may only be yelling because it was the way he was raised. I know that's not an excuse but it may be a cause. Try to sit down as a family and discuss situations rather than let them become shouting matches. Only feelings and people get hurt when the volume becomes high.
2006-11-25 14:04:01 · answer #2 · answered by Peloubet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are 14 which is a really tough age for a girl> For me, it was my worst year ever. I strongly recommend talking over this situation with your school guidance counselor. If you don't have one, ask your mom to take you to see someone you can talk to. I used to do the same thing when I was your age: fight with my Dad to stop him fighting with someone else in my family. It's really hard on YOU. Please try to stop fighting with your Dad. Walk away: go for a walk, find a way to go see a friend when he gets angry: Do not keep engaging him in fights. It will just get worse. Your Dad should not be yelling. But you are just a child. He probably does love you, he probably doesn't know how to show it. Find ways to enjoy your weekends: if you have to leave the house to have a nice weekend, do that. This will work itself out if you stop worrying about it and talk to others, including your Mom. AFter you get some counseling, you might find out what I learned: You are entitled to your feelings. It is OK for you to say to your Dad: It upsets me when you yell. and I feel like you don't love me. or I wish I knew for sure that you loved me. Your feelings are your own. However, whenever you feel yourself getting angry, walk away. Fighting doesn't help anything. The person who wins every fight is the one willing to walk away.
good luck. and don't forget to talk to a professional no matter what.
2006-11-25 14:19:14 · answer #3 · answered by E L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a situation many families go through. I have my share trust me! Are you telling him about his shouting? If not then nothing will be solved. A problem started between 2 people has 2 be solved between those people. This will be a long process. BUT.. IF U PUT YOUR MIND TO IT THERES NOTHING IMPOSSIBLE. I hoped I helped!
2006-11-25 14:05:03 · answer #4 · answered by BIG RED 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 4 and half your daughter is old adequate to income that Dad is particularly like some toddlers not respnsible and not continuously life like. The court docket isnt gonna make it easier to not supply him time to be sure his youngster so attempt to get supervised. possibly somebody much less in contact could supervise the visits. Or in case you believe his mom perhaps she could take common care of your daughter so she would be in a position to be sure her Dad. she would be in a position to take your lead so attempt to place a favorable spin on it. whether her Dad isnt wanting to be spending lots time together with her of course her different grandparents choose to be sure her on the grounds that they asked approximately her.
2016-10-13 03:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people like to argue just to argue and that sounds like the two of you. My niece and her father constantly argue over everything from important stuff to what color the rug is. Try to limit your arguements to things that really matter and let the small stuff go.
2006-11-25 14:16:06 · answer #6 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he by any chance an alcoholic? Because that will mess someones mind and behavior up big time.
2006-11-25 15:17:01 · answer #7 · answered by :-) literary cappy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its good that your the only one that stands up to him.
And he probably does like you its just your the middle child, so am I.
He probably respects you more to.
2006-11-25 14:02:58 · answer #8 · answered by Bob Chaves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just frustrated.
I have no doubt in my mind that he loves you.
He always has and he always will.
2006-11-25 14:00:31 · answer #9 · answered by <3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing you can do
it happens to the best of us
even me
2006-11-25 14:01:28 · answer #10 · answered by Lidge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋