Has any one heard of paying?

Question

To go to a wedding? I got an invitation that's $50.00 a couple. I don't Think I will be going. Not because of the price But I think it's insane.
What do you think?

Answer 1

No you are not suppose to pay to go to a wedding. EVER!!!

edit - Husband just piped up about this topic. He said you should send your RSVP back with $50 in Monopoly money.

Answer 2

I always say there are no rules for weddings now not quite true. I do believe in a cash bar as I would feel responsible if someone would in someway be hurt (drunk driving etc) and I was the supplier. This is still considered wrong by some but, if drunk driving touches close to home you probably would agree with me.(don't charge for non alcoholic drinks)
THIS IS TOTALLY DIFFERENT and COMPLETELY WRONG. This sounds and is a cash grab if you can't afford your wedding make it fit your budget you should never count on cash and gifts to pay for your wedding. A wedding is not an admission type event VERY BAD MANNERS! I wouldn't go hope its not a close relative.
If another Bride is thinking of this I will suggest a social many communities have accepted the wedding social these events are held before the wedding and are either open to the public or closed events when the couple rents a hall and throws a party still no cover charge but the run like a bar for the evening and prices are same as a normal bar usually these are themed events. NOT WEDDING THEMED and gifts are not accepted.

Answer 3

well that depends on if the couple have then stipulated " NO GIFTS PLEASE"
that sort of thing is happening quite a bit here in Aus; in fact my daughter did just that when she married ; though she didn't put a figure on it.
their invite read something like this:-

* we would like you to join with us in celebrating our marriage; but in lieu of gifts would you please pay for your own meal."
They had both been in previous relationships & had also been living together for a while beforehand & had most of what they needed. NONE of their guests objected to this request & basically the only invitees that didn't attend did so because of the distance they would have had to travel & the short notice ( 5weeks from announcing their intentions)- the guest paid individually for their meals. at the restaraunt .
having no idea about costs of restaraunt meals where you are I cant comment on the amount asked ; but here in Aus $50- woudl be a very reasonable amount .
Asking for money up front does seem a bit crass - BUT being a set amount the couple would probably then be paying the caterers in one bill
a wedding I attended a few months ago had the following words on the invitation - also asking for money in lieu of other gifts

**Because at first we lived in Sin,
We've got the sheets & a rubbish bin,
A gift from you would be best,
But we'd prefer a donation
To our Treasure Chest**

the couple then had a 'wishing well' set up on a table at the reception.
as for not paying to attend - isn't that what you are really doing by giving the couple a gift??? THINK about it
this way the couple are not receiving items they have no need of & if they live in another town they do not have to worry about transporting the gifts after the event - it also makes things easier for those attending - in that they know exactly what the couple want.

Answer 4

Brides are thinking that this will help defray the cost of their wedding. She will soon find out that she isn't going to have the guests, she thought.
The couple would be better to have a smaller wedding and treat their guests respectfully than to expect their guests to pay their own way. This is worse than rude.

I would decline such an invitation, too.
Personally I think it's a bit narcisistic, myself.

Answer 5

You can't just say you wouldn't go, especially if you care about the couple that is getting married. I must say, I agree with you, I think inviting your guests to your reception and then expecting them to pay for their own dinner is a bit tacky. They should have just had a few appetisers and punch if they couldn't afford a dinner. If you care about the couple, pay the fifty dollars and you and a guest go have a great time and wish your friends well.

Answer 6

That is insane and I would find it terribly offensive. I wouldn't go if I was you and I would be tempted not to send a gift either.

I would also find out why the couple thinks they can do that, because it has got to be an amusing story as to how they ended up at the point where guests needed to pay.

Answer 7

I think that's just nasty. I would not go, strictly on principle. If someone can't afford to host a wedding, then so be it, they should just have the number of people they can afford, even if it's just very close family. Same with even having a cash bar at a wedding - that's just not right.

Answer 8

That is rather tacky. Do you pay to go to the wedding or the reception or both? If you have to pay to attend the reception, I wouldn't go unless it was family. However, I would attend the wedding if it were free. Especially if you are close friends to the couple.

Answer 9

Never heard of it, as serious as people take weddings nowadays maybe its a fund for the divorce lawyer. I wouldn't go formal weddings are the biggest waste of money anyway. Besides they'll probably have another wedding or two in thier lifetime, hit the next one unless they charge for that too.

Answer 10

I have never heard of such a thing! That is so rude!

Where are they having the wedding? Is it at a major sporting event or concert or amusement park? What are they putting on, a reality show?