love, is a wierd thing.. i had always thought i am never going to fall for someone. NEVER. But then last year, i met him, and i fell in love... Now i found out he always lied to me, i can never trust anyone ever again. Why did he hurt me like this??? I didnt do anything to deserve this....
2006-11-25 13:47:17 · 13 answers · asked by i get what i want 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We all get hurt, welcome to the club. Letting a past relationship affect how you treat other relationships is called "baggage." Release the bags as soon as you can and start fresh. You'll eventually get over it.
It's not a question of whether you deserved it or not, but more like what kind of motivation this guy who left you has. He may be a lying player, or he may be a nice guy who found someone he relates to better. It's hard, but dwelling on it hurts more and delays the process of getting over it.
2006-11-25 13:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by Mike H 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you probably didn't deserve this. If you don't trust someone then they can't hurt you, can they? There are a lot of bad ones out there - both guys and girls - and the bad ones stand out a lot more than the good ones (and tend to be very good at playing others). Also remember: The good times that you had with him were because you trusted him and when you do find the right one in order to have good times like that again you will have to trust this new guy - but if he is the right one the good times will last.
2006-11-25 13:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by boogie2510 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The obstacle is that the connection failed to particularly end, it just form of ran out of fuel. That lack of closure is what's making you uncomfortable and now at any time when he goes out on a date with someone else, it looks like he's cheating on you. Furthermore, it really sounds like he is main you on, seeing that he's no longer making a smooth spoil of it both and he's stretching things out. (He sounds a little bit possessive of you, virtually. Don't confuse that wit love.) The crisis he is acquired you in is one where he's allowed thus far and you're in an emotional retaining pattern except he comes back. What you need to do is make a clean spoil. Tell him "we're finished." tell him that you can be pals, however nothing more. Neighbors simplest. Whilst you try this, you're going to suppose higher. You're going to consider like the chapter has ended and a new possible begin. Do not beat your self up over this, though. It is now not your fault. Make a easy destroy and move on. Some folks are meant to be pals but no longer lovers.
2016-08-09 23:33:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never let your guard down anymore people are out to hurt now days because so much cheating is going on and they make it so easy,you must move on and hope for the best,no one deserves to get hurt but we do,sorry I wish you well.
2006-11-25 13:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are very selffish creatures, they are only out for one thing and that is score with sex! they don't care who they hurt and care less if you are hurting.
Stop making it so easy for men for sex. Keep your self pure and and safe! Make sure that you are preparing yourself to be a wife, not a one night stand, or something on the road, until something comes better!
Keep your trust limited! Watch out for you emotional being!
Don't give your self a pity party, but pick your self up, and move on, have fun with friends, and start shopping for the right man thay you have dreamed to be the one!
You landed this guy, so use your body, smile and looks and fish out another fish in the sea! That is why we call it fish in the sea, because so many bad ones comes out before the perfect one just right for us!
2006-11-25 13:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OH MY GODDDDD u couldnt be more rite....i just came out of the same thing....i liked a guy-told him i loved him he liked me-told me he loved me...BUT...then a week later he was lyke...oh no-i was just going along...didnt wanna hurt ur feelings...HOW DO U THINK I FEEL NOW??? is what i screamed in my head-and i was SOOOO depressed the rest of that week...but things are okay now...xcept for the fact that he wants to have freakin sex with me...no thx...but love pretty much sucks....nobody EVER deserves to br lied to-esecially by someone they love...or LOVED...but dont let it get u down too badly like it did me....teenage romance hurts like hell...but after awhile-u kinda get used to it....=[
im sad it has to be that way....
2006-11-25 13:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
noone desserves to be hurt and lied too.you think that you will never love again and that he has doomed you forever but you will learn that you will pick yourself off and you will find that perfect someone out there that will love you and not lie to you and that will make you very happy.good luck and give things some time and you will find the one that your heart wants.
2006-11-25 13:54:15 · answer #7 · answered by outlaw_addiction2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what happened, WHY can't you trust him?
If he lies to you , you are right in not wanting him.
We get hurt really really badly again and again, but we have to keep trying. Love is everything. It matters more than anything.
2006-11-25 13:51:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is okay. don't let it drag you down. it only makes you stronger, and make you leery. but don't let it get you down. i had a guy who did the same thing but it went on for a few months before his baby mama came looking for him. and that hurt really bad. we were talking about marriage and kids, looking at houses. but it made me stronger, it made me cautious, but it didn't make me bitter. i found someone, i knew the right questions to ask, gave him the can i came to your house test and everything. he passed. we've been together for six years and married for a couple of months. don't let it get you down. i always say love yourself during this period of mourning and get back out there. there is always a few bumps and bruises until the right one comes. so don't let it get you down. god bless you, and Good luck.
2006-11-25 14:13:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand you, and you know what..... if the hurt was bad enough, it might be that you don't want to put your heart through the ringer again; I think that is ok too.
2006-11-25 13:54:47 · answer #10 · answered by Survivor 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋