I don't know what to do?!1 I'm so scared. Please help me! How do I tell the father? Would he have to pay for child support if I kept the baby? I'm so scared and confused! help!
nobody knows im pregnant yet. only 2 months. how can I hide my pregnancy in school?!!
2006-11-25 13:39:42 · 31 answers · asked by seasofoceansscareme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well...Only thing you can do now is tell ur family and ur baby's daddy.... At school they'll proboly excpet it before they reject it.... A girl at my school was pregnant and she is only 14. Everyone accepted her so u don't have to hide it.... Just find someone you an talk to.
2006-11-25 13:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by kelsey 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As frightened as you are, you need to tell an adult NOW. I don't know what your family life is like, but your mom is at the top of the list. If not her, than a trusted teacher or other adult. This person can help you make the right decisions for yourself and your baby, should you decide to have it. You will feel much less scared when you don't have to face this situation alone, and you will be taking steps toward resolving the big issues. Obviously, the situation is not going to go away if you ignore it, and you should start seeing a doctor for prenatal checkups ASAP. Having a baby at such a young age is not an easy road, but many before you have done it and done well for themselves. You need to put your support system in place now, because you will need people to get you through this. Good luck, and take care of yourself. Please don't hide this any longer. It could have serious consequences on your health and your baby's.
2006-11-25 13:50:31 · answer #2 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sit down, take a deep breath.
You tell the father by sitting him down, in a semi-public place if you think he's going to flip out, but not at school, and saying "I'm Pregnant". They're big words, they'll be hard to say. Give yourself time and don't rush it.
If you decide to keep the baby, yes, he will be obligated to pay child support for the next 18 to 25 years. Offer him a paternity test if that's what he wants. Make it clear to him, even if you have to do it via letter, what your choice will be, and that as the father he will be bound to you by this child for the next 18 years, so it's in both of your best interests to try to be as calm and rational about this as possible.
You can't hide your pregnancy at school. Eventually it will come out. You may ask your parents if you can take your next batch of classes using a correspondence course. Or you can take a semester off and go to night classes. Even then, everyone in your circle will know eventually. Something like that doesn't stay silent.
If you feel you can tell your parents, tell them. Again, this isn't really something you can hide and letting them get over the shock/disappointment early on will help. If you can't tell your parents or his, look for another adult you trust to help you through this.
2006-11-25 14:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by Kiari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon relax. Stress and freaking out will not help you at all. Stress is not safe for you or the child.
I know it's scary and confusing. I had many friends in high school who had babies. One of my best friends is a father now. The mother is in HS still. Being pregnant and in school is not the worst thing in the world. Just keep in school. You need that education.
The first thing you need to do... tell your parents. This is probably one of the most difficult things to do but you will need them more than ever during this time and when the baby is born.
Along with telling your parents and pretty much everyday until the birth or whatever you decide for the future of you and the child... pray that everything goes well.
After breaking it to your parents and talking things out with them, talk to the father. If he isn't willing to stay, you will need your parents especially. Child support will be pretty mandatory by the father legally.
Once that child starts showing, you will not be able to hide it in school. Don't worry. It is not the end of the world. Keep in school. Do not drop out whatsoever. If you have best friends, they should be there for you. Don't stress yourself out. Pray. No matter what your choice is for keeping or giving up the baby, do not give up school.
Just get through to your parents first. You'll need them.
2006-11-25 13:56:22 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill. Take a deep breath.....now release.
First, you gotta let your family know. Tell them now. Then, tell the father. You'd better hope he'll take care of you and that kid. If he doesn't care, you'll really be in somethin awful-but you are left with 2 options: 1.) Keep the kid and raise it. 2.) Give it up for adoption.
Anyway, the third thing you gotta do is just act natural at school. Try not to be too jittery or else people will really stare at you and know something isn't right. I'd say you should wear loose fitted shirts if it really bothers you. But keep in mind, that over-sized shirts are easily showing you are pregnant.
You might lose some friends because of this decision and life changing thing you've put in your life-but try to just move on and make the best of it as you possibly can.
Calm down and just relax. You're gonna be OK.
2006-11-25 13:45:14 · answer #5 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no point trying to hide your pregnancy unless you are also planning to hide the baby when it arrives! You have to tell someone responsible now, so that you are sure to have the care you and your baby will need throughout the pregnancy.
It's hard to tell you what to do as I don't know you or your family circumstances. If you feel that your parents or guardians are supportive and love you, they will continue to love you no matter what happens to you, no matter how "bad" you might feel you have been. Don't be afraid to tell them. If you don't have a supportive home life there are still people you can talk to. Just search online for teen pregnancy advice or counselling.
Please don't try to hide this. You have to deal with the problem eventually and earlier is better than later, for both you and the baby. Good luck to you.
2006-11-25 13:45:36 · answer #6 · answered by lauras_jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u need to tell your parents first, don't be scared, just read all u can about being pregnant. if u decide to keep the baby then yes he will have to pay child support, piece of advice, find out everything u can about the father like - social security #, drivers license # (if he has one yet) , full name, birth date and so on, so that way when the baby is born u can give all of that info to the attorney general or a lawyer and they will find him based on that info if he decides to run. if u just have his name then he can be hard to track down later, this is all in case he runs when u tell him u are pregnant. get all of this info before u tell him u are pregnant. anyway, u can feel free to email me, i had a child at your age and i know what u are going through. so if i can help u in anyway then let me know or if u just need some1 to listen to u.
2006-11-25 13:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ gina ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you telling me what you should do I'll tel you what to do you go and amitt you did a crime with a guy you have loved and deal with your parents!! thank goodness you are not 12 it is better have a child when you are 16 then 12 hu? then deal with it many people have done same and you must go with it just like the others you'll make it. call the father that you are pregnant ok if he gets mad just soothe him ok not so hard you have to suffer the consequences for what you have done!!! soon you'll have the child in no time. don't kill the child when in you! that's murder everyone know's that.when it comes let the baby stay with your folks and baby sit it and go to school while your parents help raise yur child graduate get job and get married. Not so hard is it
good luck
2006-11-25 14:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by R5T6H9KF 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents and seek medical help. You have to tell the father and he should pay support if you keep the child. It will be difficult to hid it in school but I know lots of girls that did it with out hiding it. They had a lot support and were able to make it.
Maybe the father will be good he might volunteer to pay support. THis is not going to be easy, but you have choices, talk to your school councellor and they can help you. you do not have to keep the child you can put it up for adoption also. One of my friends was pregnant at fourteen and her parent adopted the baby.
2006-11-25 13:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by live4logan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents, they're far more likely to be supportive than you might think. And tell the father, he's just as responsible for your pregnancy as you are. Have your parents go with you if you're scared to face him, but he deserves to know. You can't hide this, you'll begin to show in another month or so.
2006-11-25 13:43:50 · answer #10 · answered by That's a Stupid Question 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I want you to know that it is not the end of the world. You learn from bad decisions. Don't look down on yourself because you're pregnant. Know you have to start planning for the precious little one that's growing on the inside of you and prepare your self mentally. Don't let this stop you from achieving you dream, let this be a motivator for you. Know you have something to look forward and someone that will be totally depending on you. Good luck! Well, you can't hide a pregnancy but be very confident in everything you do. Don't be ashamed just love yourself and feel good about yourself.
2006-11-25 13:52:42 · answer #11 · answered by whinniepooh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋