How can I help my grandson after he tried to commit suicide?

Question

My grandson had been abused by my husband for a while. I found out and talked to him, letting him know that's not the way to raise kids. So we agreed on what we would do for diciplinary issues, etc.

Now my gandson is in the hospital because he tried to commit SUICIDE. Yes, SUICIDE. Thank god his sister found him and called 911. I'm wondering how the hell did it get to this point when I read his journal and realized that the abuse had been a lot more then he let on.

His grandfather had been MOLESTING him ever since he got out of prison. Often he would flat out hit him for no reason. I learned that he was a lot more depressed, too, and hadn't been eating properly. My husband is now sitting in jail, but how can I help my grandson?

Answer 1

I am a grandmother, of 14 grandchildren, if I knew that my husband was mistreating one of them, I guess that I would do some harm to him, because I adore my grandchildren and I cannot tolerate anyone harming them in any way. Why didn't you see the signs before this happened? I am not going to sound like an old record, because you must be hurting enough as it is, What is important right now is the welfare of your grandson,it must be hard not knowing what to do to make him realize that, he is not alone that he has you to console him and reassure him that he was not at fault for what happened. Give him unconditional love and always tell him that you love him and make him feel special, by all means find him some help so, he can talk to someone and tell them how he feels about what happened with him and his grandfather. Sometimes we, as grandmothers feel like the whole world is collapsing on top of us when, we are passing through a crisis, and we do not know where to turn, but we forget that the lord is the only one to whom we turn to, and although we feel like he does not hear us he does. My oldest Grandson, was murdered two yrs. ago at the age of 23, and since we have been a closed knit family I felt like dying when we found out, I even blamed God, because in my sorrow, I felt that he could have prevented it. I still cry for him. I asked God to help us avenge his death,but I guess that it is up to the almighty when he will do justice for him, not when we want him to do it. I am going to pray for you and your grandson, asking, to make him realize that there is nothing to gain by taking his own life.

Answer 2

glad he is in jail,poor kid God how to answer this; I hope he helps me find the words.just let him know you love him so very much and it was not his fault,get him into counseling for sure. why oh why do people do this; should they even be called a person that is just evil.I still have hate for my grandfather ,he did the same to me. I'VE BEEN IN AN OUT FOR COUNSELING FOR YEARS, the flash backs never leave and gets worse as you get older.maybe if I;D OF TOLD when I WAS A KID I COULD OF GOT HELP SOONER.he told me don;t tell your Mamie it;; will kill her !guess I WAS AFRAID IT WOULD, she died at age 85 in august I NEVER TOLD her; just my doctor; and found out a few Mt's. ago 3 of my cousins had been molested by him too .they were lots older than me, if they would of just told it could of saved me from being a victim too. I PRAY HE WILL BE OK just love him ,and hug him for me .May God give you strength this has to be so hard on you too,God bless you both.

Answer 3

You have done the best thing possible if your husband is in jail for the abuse. If he is not, charge him. Go to your grandson and tell him that you will not let your husband hurt him anymore. Keep that promise.
Be there for him, it is going to be a very rough road. Take him to councelling and go with him sometimes.

Answer 4

I can not reccomend much, but I strongly say that you should file a divorce against this monster you call a husband. You seem like a very decent person and may not easily be able to file a divorce, but you must keep you husband away from your grandson.

Just somfort your grandson and say that his grandpa will never be allowed near him again

Answer 5

WOW....that's a hard memory to let go of for a young kid. But you need to tell him that it's over now...you'll be safe and away from him...tell him uh....there are people who love and care about you a lot and they'll always have his back whenever he needs help. Just be there for him....and talk to him ever once in awhile and ask how's school going and how's life treatin ya and stuff like that. After you get to know more and more about him and his personal life...take him to a physicals or doctor...good luck

Answer 6

Keep him away from whoever was abusing him.

Cook good food for him. Lots of extra TLC and attention. Rent some good movies. Take him to museums and parks and zoos. Just listen to him a lot and let him know you care and are there for him.

Answer 7

One way you can help is showing Him that love and allow Him to get more involve in family discussions and family gathering. Start doing some of things He likes doing instead of forcing Him to do things you like to do. Get his input and opinion on things. Always remember that kids has a voice too.

Answer 8

Are you still married to this creep? Let your grandson know that you support him 110%. talk to him and let him know that you will listen to what he has to say no matter how painful it is. Hopefully he is in therapy and getting some outside help.

Answer 9

well for starters keep him away from the creep u call his grandpa. ur grandson needs to know that someone is there for him. listen to him and be there for him no matter what. also get him a good Doctor to talk with.

Answer 10

Wow! That is alot for a child to deal with. He has been through alot & he had no one to talk to. His life was miserable & he wanted it all to end. So the only way he thought that it could end, was sadly suicide. He needs YOU to talk to. Tell him that you are here. Give him a shoulder to cry on. & most imporantly, tell him that you love him & that he is safe.

Good Luck