OK guys what is it with me.? Two children and 15 years together and i end it. There was nothing there any more. So why is it when i try to think positive for the future and being with out him. I get a picture in my head, of him finding some one new and feeling quite sick to my stomach.
2006-11-25 13:31:06 · 16 answers · asked by beverley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I mean you had been with the guy for 15 yrs or course your going to have feelings for him. He is and will always be a part of you and when you do move on in the beginning you will always compare other men to him. It's just a women thing, Men move on quickly we reply the past over and over. But when you do move on and years done the road you'll semi forget about him, but for a little bit you'll smile and then go on with the man you'll be with!
2006-11-25 13:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by A.K.A NK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard at the start to think about starting all over again because it just became a habit in the end with you both being together.
Are you sure you can't work it out, what I have found in my almost 10 yr relationship was that my bf started to take me for granted and only made an effort of taking me out anywhere if he had to be somewhere, if I wanted to do anything he would just make an excuse.
I soon put a stop to it, he didn't realise that he was doing it but I make sure he knows straight off now and everything is sweet :)
If things can't be worked out don't think to far ahead into the future, just take it day by day, you need to remember how things were when you were single, you need to get your independence back before thinking about spending time with another man.
Take it day by day and things will come easier, your kids have to adapt to the new lifestyle as well :)
2006-11-25 15:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by debs1701 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is going to seem crazy to both of you at first to be with someone else and to see the other with someone else because you have been together for so long. Also though, somewhere inside of you, you are afraid that he will find someone before you do and you will feel all alone, that you made some big mistake. You feel how you feel and if you're not in it anymore it's not fair to either of you to keep it going. Just focus on you and figuring out what you want and don't worry about who he's with. I know it's going to be hard when that happens, but yes it will happen eventually. You are going to end up with someone else too though and he's going to most likely feel the same way, maybe even worse. You said you ended it so his feelings may have still been there even if yours were not. Also their are good guys out there that would date a woman with children, they are just really hard to find. On that note you do now need to be really careful about who you date because there are crazy people out there. But when you find a good one, all the crap you had to go through will seem totally worth it.
2006-11-25 13:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by curious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but I am a 24 year old male and have not been in a position you have been in. But all I can say is concentrate on your two children for the time being. I know people have said in time it will get better. And I for one think and hope it is true. I hope one day you find the right man for you someday. Good luck and take care.
2006-11-25 21:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by Trevor 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a classic case of 'i don't want you but i don't want somebody else to have you either'. you gotta remind yourself why you called it quits in the first place. of course there would always be happy memories of being with him and the family you used to have - and that should be a good thing since you can at least tell yourself that the 15 years wasn't such a waste after all. the sooner you can move on and wish him happiness - the sooner you can allow yourself the chance to be happy again. and it is not true that all you can get now are losers - single moms have as much chance (luck and/or jinx) as any single person to find "the one" for them. look forward to the future. good luck!
2006-11-25 13:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you still in love with him? Maybe there was one little thing wrong with him that = one HUGE problem. He made and raised two of your kids. That is a reason to still like him. If your heart wants to give him another shot, you, and your kids, will he happier. Sorry if he does not feel the same way about you, but at least you tried... Best wishes!!!! And good lucj!
2006-11-25 14:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't spend 15 years with someone, have two children together and not feel something . Feeling's do not turn on and off like a tap, my guess is you still love him, so do something about it, before it's too late and please, take your children into consideration, it's not nice for them to grow up without a dad.
2006-11-25 13:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by Sierra One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you loved him enough at one time to have children with him. You have a bond with this man, that will never die, through your children.
And, finally, because, although you had control of the relationship direction by ending it, somewhere inside you, you have not gotten over the love you had for him all those years.
2006-11-25 17:33:01 · answer #8 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 Children and 15 years,come on things can be repaired.
2006-11-25 17:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you still miss what used to be there, you remember things like the first kiss and the birth of your kids...the two of you will always be linked toether with a very strong bond and within time you will be able to move on with style.
2006-11-25 13:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋