Been sleeping with this guy, a friend of mine. I'm at the point where I want more from him or I want to be just friends again. I like him a lot, but I want more of a relationship. I know we were using each other, and it was fine. I'm just tired of it and want more. What words do I use to tell him this, without completely freaking him out?
2006-11-25 13:25:57 · 3 answers · asked by summerblue722 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont do it, you will destroy your friendsip and your friends with benefits relationship. But if you must, be more affectionate after sex, and try to kiss him more
2006-11-25 13:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by Dark Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got out of the same kind of situation last week. I gave him three options. 1) We could just be friends. 2) We could just have sex, but we would need to stop hanging out and acting like a couple or 3) We could start dating. I was comfortable with all three options so I was ok when we decided to just be friends.
I would suggest doing something along the same lines, and I would suggest doing it soon, before you really fall for this guys and get yourself hurt. Maybe he feels the same way, maybe he doesn't but the only way to find out is to talk about it and ask him. Just be forward and honest. He will appreciate that even if he doesn't want to be with you.
Best of luck, and may I recommend (speaking for past experience) that you try and avoid these kinds of relationships in the future. Women automatically connect feelings and emotions with sex so the "friends with benefits" thing really never works out well for us.
2006-11-25 21:39:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you care for him as more but let him know that he does'nt have to feel the same way about you.
I have found that it is better to be honest with women, no too many games, no hidden agenda.
2006-11-25 21:31:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋