is it real bad to break up with someone over the phone?

Question

cuz i NEED to break up with this guy and i dont wnat to do it in person cuz that means waiting till monday cuz im NOT going over to his house and my friends says over the phone is real bad?
is it really bad or should i jst do it?

btw i definately wont fall for him again..i actually kind of never did

Answer 1

Just do it...There is nothing wrong with the phone...Get it out of the way and off of your chest. He will get over it eventually...

Answer 2

Don't do it over the phone, have him meet with you in a public place in the day, like a restaurant or a coffee shop and sit and talk with him. If you do it over the phone there will be a great deal of tension and he'll be more hurt that way, and most likely will probably be very angry.
Once you sit and talk you can tell him it just isn't working, but be gentle with him and offer a friendship. You don't have to stay friends if its awkward, but at least if you do then there's a chance you could make this less paingul for you both and hey you mat remain friends.
Don't wait until Monday, do it tomorrow afternoon if you can and again, do it in a place with others around so it won't turn into an argument when he finds out...then at least you can talk it over and maybe rsolve it nicely!

Answer 3

It depends upon your age and the situation.

If your a teenager and this is just a run of the mill bf / gf attempt. Yeah when you talk to him next say look. "Do you have a minute?" This is not my thing.. yada yada..

If your a bit older and mature yeah you maybe really care about the person, then of course!! in person is better, just make it brief.

If the person cannot be trusted however for any reason then just respectfully let them know in a call and that you will see them around, no hard feelings.

I read in a mens magazine the other day if it is LESS than 3 dates the phone is fine. Rule of thumb.

Answer 4

It depends on how long you've been seeing him. If you're not out with him on a Saturday night, I'm wondering how serious the relationship is.

You also don;t tell the reason you need to break up so quickly. If he's abusive, then go ahead and call him to break up. If you need to break up so you can go out with someone else tonight, better that he hear about it from you than someone who sees you and the other guy-- so if that's the case, call him.

If you've had a good relationship up to now and this break-up will be a surprize for him, you should wait until you can see him in person.

Answer 5

Breaking up over the phone is the worst thing to do...along with aim and text and writing a letter...

my advice is to wait till monday and then talk to him

Answer 6

I don't think it is a mature thing to do. I think if you are a mature adult that you would do this face to face. Be kind to the person that you once had alot of love for. Remember your first date? Well there is a possiblity that you can remain friends. After all you have grown to know one another. That would be the mature way and the proper thing to do.

Answer 7

50% of AMerica is obsessed with the phone, all the others are watching television. I don't see why you can't break up over the phone. Pretty impersonal overall, but you probably met over the phone so c'est la vie.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

over the phone yes it is. wouldn't u want to feel disrespected if he were to break u with u over the phone when u would'v wanted to see him instead cuz im betting 95% that he'd feel the same way u would

Answer 10

you are going to have to tell him in person. for future reference, if you aren't falling for a guy, don't go out with him. its unfair to him because what if he is seriously falling for you? he gets hurt. you wouldn't like to be put in that position. (i am in no way trying to sound mean =D) anyways, just be really nice in person about it. say there are no hard feelings, but you don't feel like you think of him as a boyfriend but instead a friend. things aren't working and you aren't there to hurt him but thank him for everything. don't be immature about it, ya know? good luck.