How can I be celibate?

Question

Hi, I am a 24 yr old guy with lust problem. I want to be celibate for the next 5 years or more so I can focus on reaching my dream, becoming successful, and living fulfilling life. I really can't afford to be bothered by lust problem anymore.
But it is extremely hard for a guy like me to maintain celibacy when I am having hard time even maintaining virginity. How can I maintain celibacy and resist the temptation whenever it comes? What kind of advice would you give for a guy with high hormone level like me?

Answer 1

It's not easy, but it gets easier. I did something simlar lately and I found the more I avoided long, drawn-out conversations about sex or television shows with overly lustful themes, the easier it got.
Just be sure your reasons are grounded and firm and purposeful.

Answer 2

Haha...well then, you want to fight the hormones eh? Well I think that's a good idea, how smart. If only more people were thinking like you, we'd accomplish so much more. It's selfish to divide your time in two different areas, if you plan on working hard to the point of having little energy or time it is indeed wise to focus on one thing at a time. When you have accomplished much or near your goals or your goals completely you can sit back and devote your time to a lovely lady who will certainly appreciate your intellect and mental stamina.

Now for that hard part... yes, it's true, hormones drive that insatiable desire to the point of exasperating some people. I don't know how you feel about sex or if you have any religious points, yet I can say that you can relieve yourself from time to time of any 'strain', ahem. (which may help) lol

As far as the ladies go, try and develop a healthy perspective on female value. The sex industry is based on greed and thrives because of lust - two very dangerous, debilitating desires. It's no wonder that people have a hard time not falling victim to their own desire when they're fed sex through the media day in and out. Adopt a realistic view of how people should trust and respect each other, realize that all those women who put themselves out there, the ones in the limelight, on the internet....those are women who have little esteem, have been cared for very little by the people around them and being around that will also make YOU 'little'. I believe that once a man understands a woman's real worth he will not longer place sex at such a high value; it's the love and companionship they have in their wife. She will be your children's mother, and your grandchildren's grandma, how would you want your kids mom treated? Like an object? For a thrill of the flesh? When you can accurately place a woman or the women you lust for in your mind as someone who deserves love and respect you will no longer struggle so much because you *know * it's a blight to humanity. It's called morals and self-respect, that's how you do it. Don't make yourself cheap and weak, it's your choice. There's no magic bullet, other people do it and they do it because they imagine strength and then it will be realized. I wish you many blessings in life, be well (and strong!)

:-)

Answer 3

Great question, although I question your motives. Keeping yourself pure as on offering to the Lord is great. Doing it out of desire for money and success is another matter entirely.

Chastity is a virtue, a "good habit". It means thinking pure thoughts regarding the opposite sex. You think of sex as an offering of yourself to another person, seeking their happiness and not your own. This should be practiced at all times, especially in a marriage.

If you want to remain chaste as a single person (which means no sex or masturbation), stay far away from any near occasion of sin. This includes racy TV shows, hanging around the wrong people, being in compromising places / positions with your girlfriend, etc.

Lust comes from the vice of selfishness. This can always be countered by being self-less. Whenever temptation strikes, pray and do an act of charity (love).

God bless!

Answer 4

All of you who pronounced that Celibacy permits you to not masturbate, unfortuately, with the aid of definition, are ineffective incorrect. significant get entry to: cel·i·ba·cy Pronunciation: 'se-l&-b&-sE function: noun one million : the state of not being married 2 a : abstention from sexual intercourse b : abstention with the aid of vow from marriage Now, for some ding-dongs who for some reason or yet another experience that its not precise for THEM, would say confident. and a few kooky religions and whacked out moralists who could particularly have you ever hate your penis could additionally say that "The Jerk" is a no-no. whether, you asked for a definition. And with the aid of definition masturbation would not negate the state of celibacy.

Answer 5

Why would you? If it is difficult to maintain it is distracting you from your task. Celibacy is meant to allow you to focus on your task by removing distractions, not creating them.

Answer 6

8Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 9Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.
Phillipians 4:8-9 Hope this helps

Answer 7

go see a proffesioal therapist, this can be a serious problem, well its normal for your age , but still, get help before the shotgun wedding!