My sister mocks my depression, I'm going over the edge! Please help! (serious help)?

Question

I have severe depression, I have to take medication. I'm not proud of it, but I want to get well. I hate having my mind in the dark lonely clouds, uncertain of my future. My younger sister has always been a person who loves attention, what is it called, "center of attention". She does whatever she can to be praised and loved. I'm just trying to get by day by day and my sister isn't helping. She tries to make my life hard, she does. She perposely mocks my condition, claiming I only pretend to suffer from depression for attention! It really hurts when she does that. I've talked to her about my condition, I tell her it's not funny, she shouldn't use it as a way of attention, but she just laughs it off. I think she might be jealous of me, I don't know, but she gets angry whenever dad or mom have discussions with me about my depression. And then now she is cutting herself and tells mom and dad that she is sick, and she isn't! She justs wants to be better than me; but cutting herself, why?

She even told me she is cutting herself because we are two actors competing for glory!

She has a history of doing things to be better than me. What can I say, she is my twin sister. We must be the only twin sisters in the world who don't get along.

Answer 1

I understand what you're going through. And I hope that you will find something, someday that will make it all dissappear.

As harsh as I may sound, I don't think your sisters reaction is normal. She is being overly zealous. May be she should have herself checked out also.

Also, do you fight a lot. Is this just mere sibiling rivalry. Have you tried winning her affection?. If this is not the case, i suggest talking to your parents about your sister, and she might want to visit a behaviour consultant.

Answer 2

She is sick, but not in the way that you are. My sister suffered from severe depression, and there came a point when the police had to come pick her up because of it. I get depressed too, but not that severe, but I know what you mean when you say you hate having your mind in dark lonely clouds. I had a friend that told me she was depressed, and that she was on medicine, and I believed her. I later found out that she was lieing, but I also found out that her mother suffered from severe depression.

About the attention thing, my niece that lives with us, has dislexia (I'm not sure how to spell it) but it makes it hard for her to read, and she doesn't make good grades because of it. I'm a straight A-student, but when she gets and A, it's that biggest thing in the world. Try and look at the world through her eyes. Imagine the frustration that she goes through, but her frustration is turning into something else that isn't depression.

I suggest you tell your pschiatrist about her, ask their advice. I know it's really hard, but there isn't much you can do about her. She doesn't see the pain you're in, all she is seeing is the attention. I think she does need professional help. But I think that her problem is not chemical, I thinks it's mental.

Answer 3

She doesn't cut herself to be better than you... She's got ISSUES (as well).

Don't mind her (though, being family, I know it hurts more)... for whatever the reason, your sister is being INCREDIBLY insensitive, and if you weren't smarter than you actually ARE, her ignorance could've assisted your suicide. SO, right NOW, she does NOT have your best interest at hand...
Ignore people that choose not to be geniune in a situation like this.

Hey, as many young Americans these days, I felt suicide wouldn't be that bad of an option, too (I felt that way for many years, but luckily for me... I was waaay to chicken of any possible, slight pain I might've had to endure.... I still am chicken, and I don't want to kill myself anymore.).... guess when I felt suicidal... go on, guess.................... When I was a TEENAGER. If you're age is anywhere NEAR 19.... LET the pain pass... it WILL (and I GUARANTEE your future self will thank you!), unless you're completely psychotic.

Solution:
In the mean time (during these rough times)... GO LISTEN TO SOME tool (if you have amazing musical tastes... this music wil rid your mind of any excessive pains, Guaranteed, or your money back)

(If you're suicidal, you want to kill yourself because you're sad... give yourself a fair chance, and see if you still want to kill yourself when your happy (for whatever the reason; big or small)... AH HAH! Didn't think soooo.)

P.S.
If you think you have ADD as well (just say you do... you Know you do), you're in luck!! I take Adderall XL 30mg... It not only helps you accomplish what you need to and then some, but it also indirectly helps fight depression because you feel good about yourself from the many things you can now accomplish.

*When taking Adderall XL, side affects are generally mild and very by age. Among the most common side affects are dry mouth, loss of appetite, constipation, nausea, tremors, and seizure. There is a low risk of sudden death when taking Adderall XL... So, talk to your doctor about taking once daily Adderall XL... and get your life back on track.

*this statement has not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration

Answer 4

Your sister should not be make fun or mocks your condition because it's not something you can control. Its good that you want to get well and you will in time. It may not happen overnight, but you will get better. I honestly think your sister need to be put in a mental hospital to get the proper help see needs. If your sister is cutting herself and claiming she is sick then she is mental ill and should get help right away. I think you should have a serious talk with your mom and dad. If she cuts her vain, then she could be to death and die. This is something that you should not take lightly. If your parents think you are lying then their is nothing you can do, but hope for the best. If your sister ends up dying, its not like you didn't try to tell anyone. I wish I could give you a better answer, but their is no easy answer for your question. I wish you the best and hope you get well with a full recover. Good luck!

Answer 5

Depression is a very real thing 1 in 5 people suffer this at some stage in their life you need to get out more mix with others find friends join in some activities like art ,sport or other hobby that is the only way to get help unless your country has a mental health fellowship as we do .As for your sister cutting is exactly as you said attention seeking usually because of their parents so I would have a quiet word with them to show her more love you should understand they will love you as much but they need to show it more to your sister before the cutting ends in tragedy.

Answer 6

It sounds like you guys have a history competing for your parents' attention. Maybe they are too busy or involved in other things and you and your sister feel you have to compete for their attention. Or do your parents encourage the competition between you? That is what my parents used to do. But when I was alone with my brother, we were always the best of friends.

Have you tried arranging for a family outing, for a weekend, or even a day, where all you plan is to spend time with each other? t might take work in planning so that it comes off, but may be worth it.

If your family is not willing to do things to help improve your family bond, then that is probably the source of all this trouble.

Answer 7

She sees you getting all the attention and she wants the attention too so she is doing things to get attention. Yes, she is jealous of the attention you are receiving from your parents. Since you suffer from serious depression I suggest you see a therapist. I have suffered from depression and found that therapists can really help you work out your feelings and your problems. Don't worry about your sister but be more concerned about yourself because you need professional help before something worse happens to you.

Answer 8

ignore her continuously and the next time she cuts herself tell her that she didn't cut deep enough and then turn and walk away.

Your spending to much of your energy on her. Let her have what she wants and put all your efforts into yourself and getting well. This will make your life much easier and hers more miserable. In the end as you two grow older she is going to need you at some point and she will be alone because of the hard times she has caused.

Answer 9

mentalillness is hereditry dont treat ur sis like she treats u. Its very possable she dose have depression 2. tell ur parents u both need help n get it quick.No one harms them selfs just 4 attention its a scream 4 help. N nether of u ever be ashmed of ur illness,s.Would u be ashamed if u had a physical illness? U both deserve as much respect n love as the next person, be ur sisters mentore as u seem 2 have a better handle on ur illness then she dose on hers help her.She,s in a dark cloud just as cruel n real as urs. u go girl more power 2 u n ur sis. be there 4 each other always.

Answer 10

ok wow seriously?! first of all...her cutting herself does not make her better then you...it makes her need help to..is it possible shes covering up something by pretending to compete with this cutting insident? my older sister used to cut herself and i never really did understand why...but you having depression is not something she should at all mock! you need to set her straight and show her how u really feel...tell her why ur feeling like that and the side effects of it...tell her and set her straight...and u 2 need to stop competeing...no matter how fun it is it cant be healthy to compete about something that is harmful to both of u...honestly...let her know shes acting pathetic by being that way...but also show some compassion for her cutting herself...2 wrongs dont make a right...dont try to worsen urself to stoop down to her level...try to bring her up and maybe that can help bring urself up..its always helps to raise another soul...ik that sounds majorly corny but hey it might work...I hope I helped...you can e-mail me or IM me if u want ([e-mail])...if u ever wanna talk...hope u feel better and I hope you can help ur sis stop that