Oh my god. Recently split with my partner of 15 years. Ive never been on my own, Will i ever adjust to this .
2006-11-25 13:04:43 · 30 answers · asked by beverley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES!! I've been there. You can't even imagine how you're life will be, right? Trust me, you'll adjust and everything will be fine. I'm not even going to wish you good luck, because i know from experience that everything will be o.k..
don't get me wrong, it won't happen overnight, but this will pass, i promise.
2006-11-25 13:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jane D 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sure you will adjust, but don't rush into another relationship right away. Seek some counseling on being alone to help adjust.
It's not bad, check out some activities that you have thought about in the past. Get that hobby going, take a personal growth class, take dance lessons, yoga, join a book club, or biking group. Physical activity will help you feel better. Try some Internet searches, even Yahoo groups.
2006-11-25 21:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by Sociallyinquisitive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you will. I am recentlt separated after a 13 year relationship (9 year marriage). It takes time and it is tough but once you realise that you are your own person and can be independent you'll be fine. I've moved on, started dating again, have started things that I have always wanted to do and never got the chance, like writing a novel (206 pages finished) and volunteering to teach kids programs like the value of staying in school.
The first 6 months were so hard...I didn't move from my house and felt so alone after being with the same person for so long, but healing takes time and now I'm so much more motivated, and I feel so much more alive again. Find something that you have always wanted to do but put off because of your relationship and then go for it, don't hide from the world instead embrace it, see other people, go out with friends, do whatever you want because now you can be completely independent.
I hope things work out well for you, but until you take the next steps it'll be super hard on you...trust me though you'll heal!
2006-11-25 21:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by bheithcao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that. I'm also alone for the first time. It's been 3 yrs. since my ex walked and 1 1/2 since my son left for the service. Try to keep as busy as possible and stay in touch with your family and friends as much as you can. Dont pull away from people. This is an extremely hard time of year to be alone. The holidays can be brutal. Stay strong. I wish you the very best. You will adjust in time.
2006-11-25 22:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by justcurious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you really never been alone? sometimes we can be our most alone when we are living with someone. Be thankful for those strange new experiences like quiet, peace, time to read, etc. Be conscious of them occurring and set a timer to purposely enjoy them for 15 minutes. Then turn on the radio or tv or whatever you need to do to overcome the quiet. Keep trying to extend the timer. Believe me, you will start to look forward to it. Pray for God to be developing just the right partner for you and to put him in your path when the time is right, if that is what you want. Give yourself at least a year to get good at being yourself, though, before venturing into dating.
2006-11-25 21:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by Sparky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a choice, it's happened, so try your best to look forward. But if that is too hard right now just take each day as it comes. Definitely try and get out and do things and stay in other peoples company as much as possible because that is where you will make contacts towards meeting someone new. Keep the head, you've time and plenty to give. Just believe in yourself. Something will happen exactly when you are not expecting it
2006-11-25 21:11:24 · answer #6 · answered by Yeah yeah yeah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you will adjust in time. But don't be afraid of this new part of your journey cos it's pretty cool really. You get to re find yourself (without sounding to corny) and remember what it is YOU enjoy; you don't have to give in to anyone else's needs or wants or likes anymore!!
Just enjoy it. Take this time to savour the good things in life and most importantly have a good time!
xxx
2006-11-25 21:13:14 · answer #7 · answered by Fay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you will adjust .Time is the greatest healer.But you have to go out and make new friends.Look for some volunteer work ,join a club.
2006-11-25 21:11:00 · answer #8 · answered by Maka 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A healthy mind will survive. Read the book The Road Less Traveled.
2006-11-25 21:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by carole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,
It takes time though. It wasn't my idea but I split with my partner of 21 years, which includes two girls.
My advise: Don't try to connect with them. Leave them alone. If you two meet up in the future, don't hold a grudge. Don't go out of your way to try and hurt them. If someone asks you why you two broke up, keep it simple, "We just grew apart".
So in a nutshell, yes, you will survive.
2006-11-25 21:08:54 · answer #10 · answered by Geo-Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋