Why do married guys....cheat?

Answer 1

This will be a long, involved response, because there are numerous possible answers to this question - and really they all depend upon the status of the relationship or the stability/trustworthiness of those involved, however, I will touch on a few major motives. Men are physical creatures who are primarily stimulated visually... society tends to embrace that aspect and lure many of us away from monogamous thoughts, desires or goals through provocative clothing, advertising, the secular media, the internet, pornography and various other forms of entertainment. I believe monogamy is possible, but it takes openness and communication from BOTH sides of a marriage as well as a true selfless love willing to fulfill your partner's needs first. If one or neither partner puts their partner first, then selfishness enters the relationship, upsetting the balance, which is where most issues of trust and suspicion surface from, causing thoughts of outside fulfillment of their needs. Also, if the wife (or husband) is thinking of their sexual relationship as a 'chore' they dread and that becomes evident to their partner, that could also lead to seeking outside fulfillment since they rationalize that their marital sex is such a 'hassle' to their partner.

As one currently married who has cheated on his wife, I can honestly say it was a two-way street as to how it happened... she lost sexual or physically intimate desire after the first two years and childbirth and felt that way about our sporadically extended non-existent sex life and well, quite frankly... I lost patience. I gave her six months of being celibate... and well, when offers started coming my way, I finally yielded to one... allowing myself to be pursued and eventually, captured. I was extremely vulnerable to flattery, desire, attention and ultimately affection as are most men, married or single. Also, men in general are vulnerable to the desires of other women (or men), especially if they do not feel as appreciated bi their wives as was I. The key is for the husband is to not put yourself into situations that could easily compromise your judgment and/or values such as other women who are friends/acquaintances needing consoling, friendship or attention... let them get it from UNmarried men... that is the biggest trap there is.

Also, unbeknown to most women, many men choose to have sex with other men to avoid emotional entanglement or financial commitment and rationalize that as not quite cheating, but they are indeed doing just that. They figure "a mouth is a mouth" and their accomplices are not competing with their wives, so why not? It does not mean they are gay or even bi, just open to pleasure and indiscriminate as to whom it originates. I honestly can state I am one of those emotionally unattached men, however I am orally bisexual giving or receiving. According to recent statistics, well over half of all married men at some point during their marriage are bisexually-permissive of other men fulfilling their physical needs... those men are said to be "on the down-low" as the recent slang has come to mean. Another popular spin on rationalized cheating is for married men to cheat with other couples, usually married, in MFM (straight) or MMF (male-to-male contact) threesomes.

I am sure all this 'revealed' inside info will make me unpopular with many other married men out there, but this is the dark TRUTH most will look you in the eye and lie to you under oath... MEN CHEAT. It's in our human nature, but we should be able to rise above that nature being faithful with a devoted partner. We all have that capacity to cheat, BUT if you truly take care of your partner, have an open, communicative, honest, giving, selfless, loving and even God-centered marriage, that capacity will be greatly diminished. I hope this was insightful as to a few of the main reasons why, how and with whom we men cheat... as well as a heads-up to all of us men who ever have ever thought about it and/or acted upon it. Cheating kills relationships... and families... no matter why you do it... dividing your heart or body and maintaining the appearance of a monogamous relationship is a full-time 'job' keeping all your spiralling stories/ lies straight and will eventually engulf you in a tremendous amount of stress from the overwhelming guilt. Take it from me, it's not worth it.

Answer 2

I was engaged when I was 24 and married when I was 26 Our wedding colors were a pale peach and chocolate brown We each had our brothers as witnesses (2 total), it was a very small wedding (14 people were there including us and our reverend) Our reception was held a month after our wedding, and we did not have assigned seating, most people didn't sit, it was a cocktail party We had a small chocolate cake and then a variety of desserts for people to choose, I think there were 5 different choices We went to Maui for two weeks We got married in Gleneden Beach, OR, a tiny town on the coast, just outside of Lincoln City

Answer 3

If a husband (or wife) is cheating, there is probably something missing in the relationship. Sometimes the person that cheats they feel like a they have to fulfill a fantasy. For example the man could have a mistress in hopes of having a threesome with his wife. If you feel like you are cheated on you should confront your husband and ask him, and if you feel comfortable in a open marriage and knowing who is is with is better then not knowing the other woman. and eventually it can bring your relationship closer and he will not cheat again.

Answer 4

I think their are a thousand different reasons for this question, not enough money, not enough time with spouse, their interests might clash or a combination of many diverse interests especially when it invloves emotions or children I think things can become very heated. What ever it is I think it snow balls like an effect with one thing not getting taken care of and another thing adding to the problem until their are to many problems to deal with and divocing seems like the easiest way out.

Answer 5

Sometimes when they feel that everyday life needs more excitement? not that im saying cheating is a good thing..but thats why i think they cheat..

Answer 6

Men's hormones often run amok. We can't help it. It's all about evolution. We were put on this earth to be fruitful, go forth and multiply. When our spouses do not wish to partake in satisfying our instinctive desires, (as many married men will tell you), we look elsewhere. It's terrible but true.

Answer 7

that is a BS question why do married women cheat for the same damn reasons mostly they are not satisfied by the other sex

Answer 8

because their wife isn't doing what they need.
sometimes guys cheat because their wife is lacking in some area...could be a number of things....if a wife/husband doesn't keep their spouse happy it leads to cheating

Answer 9

a man cheats because he is too much of a coward to let his/her partner know he/she no longer loves her/him. when one cheats, it is NEVER at the fault of the cheated. EVER.

Answer 10

they sometimes cheat because they feel like they are being tied down.men/women are so insecure that they will do anything they can with anyone they can to feel like they have that power again.that power to feel like they are doing something that is making them feel better without their spouse finding out.it makes them feel like they are young again.