fed up with my husband of seven years he does not spend enough time with me but every weekend he goes out with his friends and I am in the house alone with the kids what would you do? I've already tried talking canceling and etc but he will not change he does not even spend enough quality time with the kids . If your were 25 and married with three kids would you divorce now if you were not happy?
2006-11-25 13:01:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How long has your marriage been in trouble, and what steps have you taken to truly fix it? I feel like people give up too easily these days. If things were different, would you want to stay? If so, then it doesn't sound like you are ready for divorce.
Dr. Phil is great--perhaps you could catch his show or read a few of his books...
Good luck to you and your family
2006-11-25 13:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by єЖтяα ¢яιѕρψ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a relative who will watch the kiddos while you go out on the weekends? Do you still love each other? Maybe he is staying away from all of you because he doesn't want to be married with kids.
My sister had a husband like that and after about 18 years of it, she finally got a divorce. He was hardly ever at home, spent most of his free time at a bar, and went on vacations (boating) with his buddies while she stayed home with the children. Sometimes, he wouldn't even come home at night because he was so drunk he would stay at a friend's house.
I'm so sorry you are going through this mess. I guess what you have to do is decide if love is still there for both of you. If not, don't waste any more time. It doesn't help the kids to stay together for their sake, they only suffer. Good luck to you!
2006-11-25 13:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seven years is always the hard year. I think that your family has to sit down with DAD and let him know how improtant it is for him to be in their lives. Please think about some of the good things in your marriage. Maybe you can suggest that his friends and their wives or girlfriends get together with you and your husband. Maybe there is something you can all do in common. If they have children also that would be a start. Is it a constant thing on going with the friends. Maybe chat with the other wives and find out how they feel about it. Is this unhappiness effecting the children are they unhappy also? Is there alot of fighting in front of them. I would suggest counceling to try to save things and if that does not work then nobody should have to live unhappy. BUT just think of this. If he is not spending time now and you do love him if you end things chances are there will be limited time with the children and no time at all for you.
2006-11-25 13:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by remar0 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to save your marriage for your kids, then one idea is to go to marital counseling. If you want to separate, you can have full custody or you find a schedule where both of you can be with the kids. An example is during the week you get the kids and every or every other weekend he gets them. The kids are going to have a hard time with this. Good Luck!! :)
2006-11-25 13:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have gotten married for nothing marrge is abond between husband and wife and you have 3 children 3!!! you possibly can't leave them without thinking! they will be sad living with one parent then moving to the other.man do you even have a brain! everyone have fights even chidren might even hate the other person for a period of and soon forgive eah other but think before oing the wrong thing but don't ruin you life soon you'll pass the stage of hating and start loving more than you can bear! probabilly you will regret that you were thinking to be separated and married a another man and love the past.ok
sorry i just got mad because there shouldn't be marrige if you are going to separate i mean 7 years that's a long bond of time isn't it!
good luck and be happy
2006-11-25 13:46:36 · answer #5 · answered by R5T6H9KF 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No No No woman, & years is the hump you have to get past that. They say that 7 years is one of the larges humps you will go threw in a marraige. You Have to stick it threw when you married you said fo ever.... Amen You kids will suffer and if you have maid it this far don;t give up now please. I am 25 and a mother of 3 and am working on my 3rd husband is just can't seem to make it past the 3 year hump. May God give you the strangth you need. I will pray for you and your family.
2006-11-25 13:21:31 · answer #6 · answered by KEL971 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you care for your chlidren, you would really think about what kind of effect it will have on them. Are you sure that you can't change things between you and your husband?
Tell him that he needs to re-evaluate his priorities as well as the relationshop. And that you are serious about this matter. If he does not consider his family, his main priority, then may be he won't mind
losing it at all?
It is important that you are happy and your children. Then may be, you are thinking about the right solution.
2006-11-25 13:08:27 · answer #7 · answered by worries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend you and you husband seek counseling for this issue. After just seven years, I find it hard to believe you are ready to throw in the towel. I'm also thinking you shouldn't have married so young, but that's only my opinion.
2006-11-25 13:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, everyone says stay together for the kids but sometimes it isn't that great for you. Yes it might be hard in the long run, but you will be much happier and your kids will see you as much happier. Plus in the long run they"ll know who the jerk is!
2006-11-25 13:16:11 · answer #9 · answered by A.K.A NK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yes I would....if after you went through all that and he is still spending more time with friends then you...then maybe he has already made the decision for the both of you.
2006-11-25 13:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by shywiz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋