2006-11-25 12:41:01 · 9 answers · asked by sunrisesover12th 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk to your sibling about it. Chances are, they might feel the same about you OR they might feel guilty because they grab more attention (or whatever it is that makes you feel as if you're in shadow).
My sister died just recently and I became closer to my only other surviving sibling. As we reminisced about the life of our younger sister, whom I always felt was perfect, I learned that she actually felt that way about me. Sad part is we never got to tell one another.
If you are young, consider the fact that one day you may both be able to open up to one another and discuss it. If you're older, try to realize that in the big scheme of things, they are just a person like any other and that your time spent with them is more precious than the ball of envy you may be holding.
Examine your own feelings of "why" you feel the way you do and if you can find a way to push those negative feelings, you might gain a better relationship. Hope that helps...
2006-11-25 13:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by L R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have that same problem and i dont even KNO my half sister i met her one time when i was a baby (and she is 16 years older than me soits not even fair 2 compare me 2 a 29 year old...) but my parents constantly talk about her its drives me INSANE!!! i mean its not even fair she is 16 years older than me of corse she has done wayyy more stuff than me... they r always talking about how perfect she is grrrrr... but after a while u just have 2 ignore it and stop competting with ur sibling it helps if u do everything deiffrent from them so u cant b compared 2 what ur sibling did in my case tho i just faced facts that she was always ganna b my parents favorite and 2 stop feeling bad about it cause its not anything i have done...
2006-11-25 21:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by ... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough love, and I mean this in the nicest way possible, but get over it! Accept both your sibling and yourself as unique individuals and work hard at finding your own, separate identity. You don't have to be like them, be the best "you" you can be, and life is too short to be living in the shadows.
2006-11-25 21:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I delt with this alot of the time.. I am still going throw with it. Make a statement with yourself. Do things that ur older sibling would never think of doing.. but make sure ur happy while doing it!
2006-11-25 20:51:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something outrageous!!!!!!!!! Just don’t get your self into more trouble then you can handle. Like having sex or doing drugs ect… OR you could talk to your (sibling) parents and tell them how your feeling.
2006-11-25 20:48:46 · answer #5 · answered by Bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find something you are good at and succeed in that because your sibling will be jealous you do something better than them just be you and do the best you can do
2006-11-25 20:45:11 · answer #6 · answered by moaehahi1979 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dealt with it by doing everything differently than she did. I had completely different likes and dislikes, different studies, different friends, and did what ever I could to make my own personality different from hers.
2006-11-25 20:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh, i feel ur pain, try to ignore it it will eventully go away or fade just in a matter of time!!! GOOD LUCK!!
2006-11-25 20:47:57 · answer #8 · answered by E M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it does not stop until you are older, or grown. It happened to me until I became an Adult!!!!!!!!!
Then I learned to ignore it and it stopped!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-25 20:43:07 · answer #9 · answered by purpleone726 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋