I am always giving support to others when they need it. However, when ever I have a crisis, it seems to me?

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that whenever I have a problem no one is around. Everyone is wrapped up in their own problems. What can I do to get support from others? I always feel alone. How can I not feel so alone when I am in a crisis situation?

Answer 1

My answer is not a religious or spiritual one, but here's a few tips...

1) Learn to depend on yourself for comfort and advice, rather than relying soley on others. It is hard, yes, but it can be done.

2) If #1 seems extreme, then learn ways of coping with issues and problems. Try soothing things such as painting, drawing, writing, taking a bath, thinking, dancing, etc. Find something that is a sure-fire way to take your mind off of your problems. Usually if you leave them be for a few hours, a solution/resolution will come to you later.

3) Maybe you need a better support system. It sounds to me like you've got a rather self-absorbed set of friends. Try talking to a religious counselor, minister, priest, etc. Maybe someone who shares your faith could give you better pointers or advice on this. Maybe you have a sibling or favorite relative, like a cousin/aunt/uncle, that you could talk to. Maybe you've got a best friend that you could talk to, and if they are one of the ones that you have described, tell them how much it bothers you and how upset you are over this. If they are truly faithful to you, they will most likely completely understand.

4) If you need advice, ask around here... that's what it's here for after all. ;-)

I know what you are talking about because I feel the same way every now and again. Most of the people I rely on for help/advice are fairly self-centered, though they do help me. If you ever want someone to talk to, get advice from, etc. you can contact me. I know I'm only 17, but I'm a great listener and, if you asked anayone I know, you'd understand that I'm a great advice-giver.

Good luck. ;-)

Answer 2

You can always ALWAYS rely on God He will be there for you to the very end through thick and thin If you want to you can email me if you have a problem but im a complete stranger to you so i doubt that you would

Answer 3

Certainly been there.... I had to look at how I create my relationships - Since I'm the common denominator I realized I hadn't created in my relationships reciprocity. Do you ever share even little things w/ others in your life so that they have some way of knowing you better. I had one friend who told our pastor. I know one thing about her, she knows everything about me.
Bless you. Hope this helps a little

Answer 4

You know, Frank Sinatra sang a song just for you and me and other people in the same situations. This is the title: "That's Life"

Answer 5

I always feel the same way. I don't think there is too much you can do about it. You can try saying something to your friends and family.

Answer 6

Go to God! There is a saying, go to the throne, not the phone. God is there for you, through His son, 24/7. He always has time to listen and will always answer.

Answer 7

It's called "this is what you get for helping people". So have a cup of coffee or something ~O) on me.

Answer 8

email me. I will be glad to help if I can.

Answer 9

When the Buddha announced his impending exit from the sphere of mortality, his dear disciple Ananda burst into tears. “Lord, you have been the polestar of our spiritual path so far. Whom should we contact for guidance and higher instructions when you will not be there in the land of the living?” he asked.

The Buddha replied: Atmadeepo bhava - Be light unto yourself.

Your wavering, questioning self must be silenced at the still point of concentrated consciousness. Amidst the darkness of worldly delusion only the emanation of radiance from within - like the full moon - can bring enlightenment. Guru Purnima symbolises emanation of inner illumination, the awakening of the sleeping Buddha within.

In the Bhagavad Gita, Krishna advised his dear disciple Arjuna: “Lift yourself up with the help of your self ”. You are your best friend, philosopher and guide, at the same time you can be your worst enemy as well. Arjuna was never advised to seek refuge in a guru. Rather, he was advised to rise above all religious rituals and seek refuge in Him, the embodiment of eternal Being, the pure Consciousness, and real Self behind the apparent ripples of delusion.

The concept of seeking the light within is perfectly in tune with scientific spirituality. Whenever we sincerely seek intuitive guidance from within we create a magnetic pool to attract the requisite energy vibrations of infinite potentiality hidden within us. Each soul is potentially divine and we need to awaken this divinity through concentrated efforts and continuous aspiration. This is spirituality. No one else can make us gain the same; we need to source it from inside.

In the Mahabharata, when Dronacharya refused to accept Eklavya as his disciple, the boy made an image of Dronacharya and started practising archery in front of the image. Consequently, he mastered the art of archery as good as Arjuna who was the best direct disciple of Dronacharya, through assiduous practice and intuitive skills. The secret lies in intense aspiration leading to requisite release of the potential hidden within through the psychology of faith in a guru despite the physical absence of the guru in the learning process.

Aurobindo had an experience in cosmic consciousness due to his intense aspiration and soul searching. He never had a guru. Although he received instructions on yoga from Bhaskar Lele, he never accepted him as his guru and his teachings did not lead him to self-realisation.

A true guru can be instrumental in transformation of our ego into divine self and release of divine consciousness through the mechanism of faith. But the dogmatic claim of the essentiality of a guru in the spiritual path falls apart on closer scrutiny. The life of the Buddha, Christ, Ramakrishna, Aurobindo, Ramana Maharshi and others bear ample testimony to the fact. Guru Purnima, therefore, is an occasion for awakening of our inner illumination in full beam for manifestation of the divinity already within us.


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Satsang: Swami Sukhabodhananda

Commitment is the language of the wise; complaint is that of fools. Commitment is a responsibility and it includes accountability.

Our weaknesses result in disappointment. To overcome disappointment, boost your strengths. The greatest strength comes from the energy of commitment that brings excellence in all walks of life. Few people traverse the road of success without a puncture or two, but it is commitment to excellence that takes them through.

To be committed is not being ‘stuck’; it is an integration of one’s being. If you are committed to honour your word, the base self in you will discourage you. If your energies are low, you will succumb. If you follow the higher self, the lower self will serve you, slowly getting integrated with the higher. In such a state there will be integrity. Without integrity life is shallow.

You are both actor and thinker. Every time you lie, the thinker warns you that you are lying and the actor asks you to shut up and continue telling lies. It is like riding a chariot with two horses going in two different directions. With commitment, however, you are a person of integrity, and excellence is attainable.

Like an eagle, can we test before we trust?

Eagles lay eggs on a cliff or high peak in nest of grass and thorns. When the eggs hatch, the weight of the eaglets exerts pressure and the thorns start pricking the newborns. Then the female pushes the eaglets out of the nest. As the eaglets nearly fall, the male picks them and places them back in the nest.

Meanwhile, the female removes the upper layer of grass, so that the eaglets rest directly on the thorns that prick them. The eaglets are yet to test their wings. Now the male pushes the eaglets out of the nest. This process continues till such time that the eaglets are able to foresee the danger in falling and start using their wings. Slowly they realise their ability to use their wings and start flying.

Observe the commitment of an eagle reflected in the way it executes family responsibilities and the way it conducts itself while parenting. Bring similar commitment to all walks of life; be it in the family, at work, in society or in your spiritual life. Excellence happens when there is love that helps you to grow and contribute.

Commitment also involves dropping illusions. We do not see the world as it is; we see it projected through our verbose minds. Our minds are filled with thoughts and words. Words represent experiences. Words are also influenced by memory. From the past, we see the present. Hence we create illusions created by words, but we must filter them wisely.

The mind creates dreams. The aware self in you sees reality. Awareness without the ‘I’ is the higher self. The mind with its illusions is the lower self. Have the commitment to operate from the higher self.

Through commitment, balance all walks of your life... family, work, social and spiritual. Creativity is to balance all walks of life. Creativity is just not creating something new always. Creativity brings excellence in one’s life. It is a state of well-being. Well-being creates completion. When one is complete, one is alive and vibrant in all walks of life.