my nephews are twins they are 4 year olds. well heres the deal my brother is filling a divorce for my sister-in-law.this happened because we found out she had been smoking weed for some time now (shes a 4th grade teacher!)anyways the judge told my brother he has full custody of the kids.my brother and the boys are living in my house with my husband and i(i have a baby girl 2)how can i help them?my brother does have a job (hes a fire fighter) but how do i explain all of this to the boys?they are already crying for their mom!(she is getting some help)
ps:my brother wont talk to her because hes very ashamed of her smoking weed (my bro dosent even drink alcoholic beverages!!)
please help i feel really bad for my nephews! thank you:-)
2006-11-25 12:40:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i will let them see their mother once she gets help..my brother is just acting so childish he dosent want to even hear about her. hes very depresed its not just that she smokes weed its that he has always noticed the smell and everytime he asks her she would say she didnt smoke..then one day he walked in on her smoking..so she lied...a lot
2006-11-25 12:54:46 · update #1
if they ask why mom isnt home just tell them she is getting help right now and she will be home as soon as she can. tell them that she loves them and wants them to be strong and good while she is gone. hold them and love them and tell them you know they are good kids. as far as i know thats all you can do. just be patyient and kind and loving. they will be ok in the long run. im sure you have already done all the things i have suggested...you sound like a very loving and kind person. take care and good luck to you and your family.
2006-11-25 12:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell the the truth because in the long run if you keep holding it off then it will just hurt them more. Never let something like that go like that for a long time. They will slowly understand what you are saying when they think about it for awhile, but be prepared they will be asking a lot of questions. Show them that it is wrong and never to do it and that their mother made a bad mistake and now she is paying for what she did.
2006-11-25 12:46:00 · answer #2 · answered by Cutie Cute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother has been married two times and the two women have had toddlers. I considered them as lots my nieces and nephews as my sister's toddlers. A certainty that my sister's youngest got here across not undemanding some years in the past. My brother married his present day spouse and her daughter as we talk grew to alter into my youngest niece. A place the aforementioned sister's youngest had before held. She did not like the thought she wasn't my youngest niece any greater as quickly as I wasn't blood regarding the interloper. I patiently defined that her cousins (who she completely customary as suitable cousins as they have been around formerly she substitute into) from the 1st marriage had the comparable relationship to me as her new cousin. My view is that my brother's relatives is my relatives and no difference could be made, quite the place toddlers are worried. I did have a nephew-in-regulation. He substitute into the guy one in all my (former) nieces married. regrettably, it substitute into not a competent break up and my brother desires to forget they even existed. even nonetheless i could choose to have had them stay as nieces and nephews, i'm unable to.
2016-10-13 03:00:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can help them by letting them see their mother, who raised them for four years. If she's not living nearby, let them talk to her on the phone. They're too young to understand about weed or divorce, and they need their mother. Also, get their dad to talk to them and explain that mommy isn't gone forever and that she still loves them very much and that they'll be able to visit her very soon.
2006-11-25 12:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by Natalie H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg your brother is dumb he is dumping his wife just cause she smokes weed! if he loved her he would help her get through it you are both dumb!!! let the kids see there mother if you were my aunt i would hate you and run away your family is really messed up!
2006-11-25 12:47:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that you need to have a talk with your brother, not your nephews. it is up to him to speak with the kids about what is going on not you or anyone else.this is something he really need to do.
2006-11-25 12:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋