Even though my mom and dad are divorced, we all still spend holidays togeather and it always goes great. This year my mom went to see my Aunt in Texas for thanksgiving and so my BF's parents said that my dad and I could come to thier house. My dad is retierd, but had worked at a good factory for over 30 years after he got out of Vietnam. Things where going well until i overheard something. His mom and dad went into the kitchen to get some pie. After a few min i was going into there to help them out. when i was about to open the kitchen door i heard this " Her dad is nice, but frankly i think his family is not good enough" I ran back to the table, told my dad i was not feeling so well and we left. I did not tell my dad what they said because i did not want to hurt him. However i did tell my BF and he got mad at ME for spying on his parents. I tried to explain that i simply overheard what was said. I want to talk to his parents and give them a piece of my mind. should i?
2006-11-25 12:18:32 · 5 answers · asked by carriec 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I can't believe they said that...
And as for your bf being mad at you... you can't help that his parents have big annoying mouths!!
Don't you worry about them...they are just wanting to have the best for their son like every mom and dad, except they always think that he/she can find better... when the son is already happy.
My MILand FIL said the same thing about me... wanting me to be a diff race.. after about a year, they loved me and talked about how good i was for him and how nice i am...
They are just making judgements right now, they dont fully know you yet.
BTW, i think it was good of you to not tell your father...
I don't think you should say anything to his parents, it will make them look at you in a worse light. and it will cause trouble for you and your man.
and dont blame what they said on your bf... forget it and move on, besides, you probably think the same as they do right now, 'that they are not a good enough family for you' right? lol
2006-11-25 12:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by mamiworkn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, is this a longterm boyfriend? If you had a good relationship with his parents up until now and you have been together for a while I would bring it up. Chances are your boyfriend has already told his parents that you overheard them and they are stuck up enough not to appologize even though they know this hurt you. If this could be your possible in-laws I would try to make peace, but if not let them have it. Although you must realize that it already sounds like your boyfriend will stand with his parents.
2006-11-25 12:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by skittle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i will thoroughly understand the stress you're dealing with and how it could deter you from desirous to proceed traveling his family individuals. My superb suggestion would be to talk promptly along with his family individuals quite than attempt to have your boyfriend mediate the region because of the fact for sure that hasn't been working. the subsequent time you're all on the table and you come across that they do no longer look to be consisting of you in the communique by them conversing in Persian, then be polite and rather attempt to start a communique in even though language you realize each and every physique can talk very fairly in. And if that doesn't artwork the two, merely step aside along with his dad and mom later on and gently clarify which you will particularly choose to connect in family individuals discussions on the dinner table, yet can no longer as you don't understand Persian. merely be clean which you adore your boyfriend and his way of existence and make it clean you do no longer mean any disrespect, you merely choose to experience mushy and welcome of their homestead as you will lead them to experience. solid luck, I desire you 2 the superb!
2016-10-04 09:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bf should be defending you and talking to his parents about not judging whether someone is "good enough" for him. give him another chance by talking to him and telling him your feelings again, maybe he has calmed down and will be more logical. If he still blames you or does does nothing then he is not "good enough" for you.
2006-11-25 12:35:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They sound like they are straight out of a movie.
You know that there is nothing wrong with your Dad.
He is doing his best!!!!!!!!!
Maybe your family is too good for them.
They sound uptight and phony!!!!!!
i am surprised at you BF!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-25 12:46:47 · answer #5 · answered by purpleone726 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋