I am 5' 2" because of a health problem when I was little; I am almost bald at the age of 36 (also from early childhood health issues) and have never even dated. Women have never taken a romantic interest in me, though I have had a number of female friends and get along with women fine. I just don't have a lot of confidence; I don't believe women want me. I sincerely believe my short stature is an issue. Am I wrong? What can I do to overcome this, internally and relationally?
2006-11-25 12:02:39 · 14 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are plenty of women who are shorter than 5'2". Even if that were an issue for you, there are also plenty of women who don't care about physical height. I can tell you exactly what the issue is: confidence. Women like it when guys have confidence in themselves, in their actions, etc. etc. Even if you don't feel it, act it. Walk the walk, talk the talk. Trust me, you'll have women coming to you if you have confidence in yourself.
2006-11-25 12:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by italia_azure 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
About the height thing, there's nothing you can do about that. THAT is a confidence thing. As far as the hair goes, just shave it! That way, it's a personal decision, and you may look good with a bald head. *shrugs*
I believe that you HAVE to take the initiative if you want to be in a relationship or even get laid. What's the worse that could happen if you asked someone at a bar to go out with you? Have them say "no" to you? Well, you just move on, then.
2006-11-25 20:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think your lack of confidence is a bigger issue than your height. Accomplishing things, mastering hobbies, being involved in worthwhile pursuits are a few ways to build confidence. If you consider yourself the short, bald dude no one wants, women are going to pick up on that vibe.
Maybe you should learn to dance- with proper lessons. There's something about a man who knows how to move that's impressive.
2006-11-25 20:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is someone for everyone in this world. It sounds to me like your bigger issue is your lack of confidence. If you don't believe that women will want you, they won't. Try meeting women who share common interests so that it doesn't have to start with a physical attraction, but a mental one. Don't beat yourself down about something you can't change. You can't change your height, but you can change your outlook. I can tell you for sure that most women would say that a man's confidence and ability to have fun is more important than how tall he is.
2006-11-25 20:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by char_boogie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone out there are looking for a short guy. Get your confidence build up and forget about women not wanting you.Just be yourself and try to relax and be friendly with all, you never know who is standing around.The right woman will appear when least expected.Also bald is sexy to a lot of women
2006-11-25 20:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by bettys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to work on your selfesteime first....Self confidence is one of the most important aspects of any attraction....You need end any negative feelings you have for your self and try to convince your self that no matter what you are the same as everyone else....Physical apearance doesnt always play a role, for me its mainly to do with logic...If you are logical and are able to hold an intelegent conversation with a girl then you should not have a problem....Learn to love your self as you are and build your confidence up, you would soon see the reaction you will get from the girls with just these small changes.....Good luck
2006-11-25 20:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by Spellbinder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, everyone is talking about self esteem, "get your self esteem up", blah blah blah. But I am like you, I have horrible self esteem, and everyone says that I need to improve it but what do they know? It is one of those things that is easier said than done. If you truly feel bad about yourself, it takes a hell of a lot to build your self image back up. This is what I try and do, I try and focus on myself more than on trying to get the opposite sex to notice me. I take my extra money and do things to make me feel better, get my hair done, get a manicure, etc. As a guy, you can do these things too. Maybe take some extra cash and get a nice new outfit, something you feel comfy in. Maybe try to use an online dating system. A lot of people knock these, but they are useful in that people dont focus on looks right off the bat, they focus on who you are as a person. If you are a good man, you will find a good woman. She might not be a super model, but shell be a good genuine woman. I wish you all the luck!!!
2006-11-25 20:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that women can be shallow, as can men, but it can be overcome. I would try a dating service because its based on personality, also, do you have high standards? In my experience, men who have trouble dating are sometimes very shallow...
2006-11-25 20:06:59 · answer #8 · answered by good golly! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is someone for you . everybody loves somebody.
you will have your girl and the love you want.
get confidence and start looking
Your Short stature means nothing .
you just haven't found your girl yet ..
2006-11-25 20:07:40 · answer #9 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about whats on the outside (yea u mite hear this alot but im telling the truth) its whats in the inside that counts. ok listen im goth and i use to hate everyone cuz they thought i praised the devil and **** ok? and then there was this one guy who stopped all the picking and asked me to a danceall on his own and he made me fell special. he told me he didnt care about what i looked like he said he cared if i liked myself for who I was. i told him i didnt and he told me he did. he made me fell so special i never wanted to let go. he helped me out in a lot of things he was my friend and my lover but he never lied to me when he said i looked bad one day i didnt take it personally cuz he was telling the truth. he loved me for WHO i was instead of WHAT i was. so yea ur gonna hear that alot but yea its true.
2006-11-25 20:20:22 · answer #10 · answered by hottiger_spain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋