i babysit for a young family that i know. the couple are around 26 years old and i am 19. when the guy dropped me off home yesterday, he kissed me and we went a bit further (not sex!). what should i do, i really like him but do not wantto tear this family apart.
2006-11-25 12:02:26 · 16 answers · asked by jane w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my opinion, he's just taking control of his position... he isn't interested in you he just likes the thrill of living out one of the biggest cliches ever and he'll keep pushing it as far as he can cos he sees it as fun. But believe me when the wife finds out it won't be so much fun anymore!
He isn't gonna leave his wife and kids, would've done so by now. And he isn't gonna tell her what happened either cos he wants to have his cake and eat it to.
Please don't be foolish. Get out now why you still can and i suggest finding a new family to babysit for as well! You can't continue to work for him now! He is your employer and should act accordingly! Just make up an excuse as to why you can't work for them anymore but make sure HE knows the real reason is he's a pig.
Good luck!!!
xxx
2006-11-25 12:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by Fay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD....noooooooooooooooo.
This man is taking advantage of you, even at 19 you shoul be old enough 2 understand this is a married man(who u babysit 4) & that means that you dont go there!!
I babysat for years, all different familys & I would neva had done anything like that..I understand that u may have feelings for him but look at the bigger picture.
1. Your an ego boost 4 him
2. He would never leave his wife 4 u (no matter wot he say's)
3. He would deny any involvement with you
4. Could you really hurt the kids who you babysit 4
5. He will tell you anything i.e. he doesn't love his wife anymore, u understand him & so on.
Your only 19, go get yourself a bloke who is single & would not be sleeping with another woman when you leave him..trust me this will all end in tears & he really isn't worth your affections.
2006-11-25 12:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by bakebeanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey babe...you will tear his family apart if you continue to babysit for him/wife!!! He will continue to make passes at you and as the attraction is there, it seems you are unlikely to resist.
Tell his wife 'sorry, but have another job' and if he pursues you, then threaten to tell his wife.....he wants his cake and eat it!
This bloke sounds like a complete tosser and it will break his wife's heart to now that the person he's cheating with has been in her house, looking after her children!!!
It is not only the wife, but the children too who will be considerably affected by his infidelity.....if he wants to f*!^ about, let him! As long as your conscience is clear that you're not responsible for the breakdown and irreparable damage that this fling will cause!!
He is taking advantage of you, and you seem gullible and vulnerable to accept his advantages....you're a babe, be with some-one whom is into you and only you!! He will never give you the time you deserve and will constantly be making excuses as to not being able to see you.
Tell his wife now that you have a new job and that you'll be unable to babysit anymore and wish her luck in finding a replacement and that you're sorry to let her down, then if ever something comes up, you can deny that anything really happened!!
Do the right thing hun;o}
Good luck X
2006-11-25 12:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you aren't interested and if he does that again then you will tell his wife...if you didn't really want it to happen tho you wouldn't of went that little bit further so to be totally honest I would get another job if you really don't want to tear the family apart.
2006-11-25 15:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by debs1701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. You'll probably just get hurt if you don't. There's a limited number of outcomes - either he leaves his wife for you or he doesn't. If he does, you will have torn his family apart, which you said you didn't want to do. Also, if he leaves her for you, he could leave you for someone else. "If he can do it with you, he can do it to you." If he doesn't leave his wife, you'll just get hurt. You're too young to be with a guy with so much baggage anyway ;-)
2006-11-25 12:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by Tracey S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt do anything..wot gives you the rite? y cant you find someone whos unnattached or is that less exciting stop babysitting for the family or have some respect for his wife and stop messing about with her husband coz if i was his wife id knock ur teeth out
2006-11-25 18:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by greyhound mummy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never pull anyones family apart. He ain't the only man on earth, and what ever happens between you won't last. Don't be a fool.
2006-11-25 12:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by evs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you know yourself that it would be a terrible thing to do to get involved with that guy. if he wants to play away from home make sure you're not the one who has it on her conscience! not only would i NOT take things to the next level but i'd completely avoid being alone with him. i understand you're flatterred by his attentions but if you don't want to cause a great deal of unhappiness (and that includes yourself) go find a man of your own!
2006-11-25 19:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by new-in-town 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best tell him that you can't baby sit for him any more. Put a stop to it before it before it goes any further, the guy made his choice when he married his wife, no matter how much you like him , please don't break up his marriage , you wouldn't like any one to do it to you.
2006-11-25 12:12:43 · answer #9 · answered by Sierra One 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
doesn't sound like you could live with yourself if things went further , best not to babysit again
2006-11-25 12:08:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋