I am 30, not married and have no children. I like the fact that i have a nice place to live, a great job working with children and am able to do my passion (which is see the world) when i am not at work. The problem is that other people tend to " look down" at me when they find out i am 30 and not married. Of course i want a family one day, but i like where i am right now. I get looks when i come to a party alone ( sometimes i do bring a date) i have had people ask me when i plan on getting married because i am getting real old and have told me that i am selfish. I had one lady ask me what was wrong with me that i could not get a husband. I do not know how to deal with these people.
2006-11-25 11:50:51 · 5 answers · asked by carriec 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when i say see the world, i mean by going on mission trips. I dont want people to think that i think i am better than them, because God knows i am far from perfect.
2006-11-25 11:59:12 · update #1
Sounds as though your are having to deal with some narrow minded and jealous individuals. First of all it is none of their business. However, if you wish to say something I would simply tell them, I choose to be single, I love my life. And when I am ready to get married I will. Everyone knows a woman can always get a man. That is not an issue. They are probably just jealous that you have a life style where you take care of yourself and have the freedom to do as you please. I say God bless you and keep doing what your doing as long as your happy. It is not as though you are asking any of them to pay your bills. People need to learn to mind their own business, and if they did that they would be a great deal happier. I think they are just jealous and envious. Good luck and God bless****
2006-11-25 11:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are not getting old! Second, I wish I didn't succumb to the society pressure.
There is no specific time to get married and have kids. You are doing what you want to do and I say, Bravo!!! I have been married twice, bravo to me...the first time, way too young and way too young to be divorced too.
My parents and friends forced me into getting married only because that is what my family wanted and that is what society expected me to be.
I applaud you for not jumping into peer pressure and family pressure and when you are ready, you will know it.
2006-11-25 11:59:11 · answer #2 · answered by megabites42 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just say, "I have chosen a path in life that makes me happy, when I reach a place where a husband and/or children would make me happier, that is something I will pursue. Oh my god! Is that Cher?(at which point you make a getaway)"
2006-11-25 11:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by good golly! 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ignore them, you are single, independant, successful, and most important you love where you are at right now. It isnt anyones elses business what you do with your life. When they poke their nose into your business, tell them like it is. Tell them to mind their own business. Dont worry about being rude, because anyone who asks questions like that obviously doesnt care about being rude themselves.
2006-11-25 11:55:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's impossible to argue with them or try to explain or tell them you're happy- they won't listen. Just smile at them, as if you think they're joking.
2006-11-25 11:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋