We're actually getting along a good bit better than usual it seems, but for whatever reason I seem to constantly get the feeling that something just isn't right between us. We both love each other unconditionally and I would do anything for her, but there are certian aspects about our personalities that seem to always clash and make me feel akward, and I can't explain it. It's probably just the fact that we're so different in that area, but it really bugs the crap out of me because I feel like I'm never gonna feel completely comfortable around her. And if I can't fully be myself around her, how are we gonna be able to get married and do all this other stuff that she's been planning for for the last two years we've been together?
2006-11-25 11:50:15 · 2 answers · asked by Michael 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes we are in a good relationship for the wrong reasons. It sounds like she has more control over the relationship than you realize. Why is she planning and you two are not planning together? The present is a good indicator of the future and believe me marriage is not the place to realize your differences. Take your time but talk to her about how you feel and give yourself the right to feel the way you do. Your senses and intellect are telling you that something isn't right for a reason. Please listen because if you reslove it the relationship could get better and if not then it could get worse and the problem could resurface later. Everybody desires to be loved for who they are and it seems like you are having a problem with this. Communication will break or make a relationship so go for it and have a talk! Consider talking it over with a trusted friend who knows you both who can help you figure out what the problem is. Most importantly talk to her!
2006-11-25 12:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by shuntae28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o.k. you have a lot to think about... there definitely has to be a spark, no doubt about it, but you should try to focus more on what you love about her, focus on the good and everything you have in common. that way you don't focus so much on the bad and ruin something good... and if after focusing on the good if there is still a problem, let her know, be honest.
2006-11-26 02:55:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋