My 17yo brother was getting ready to inappropriately touch my 3yo son. He says its because he's gay and "it" was done to him. Being gay dosent mean being a pedophile. Im so angry,as you can imagine and so thankful he was caught before my son was traumatized but in a bit of shock. I havent seen him since,he took off and y husband and dad went looking for him,"talked" to him. I usually go over the edge when Im this angry but obviously I need to be careful I have two kids and a husband,I cant go to jail. Im thinking of what to do,the most I can do while avoiding a prison sentance.
2006-11-25 11:38:49 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're really lucky you caught your brother before he could do any serious damage to your son; especially while he's so young, because psychological scars are hard to get rid of. I would get a restraining order against your brother so that the 1) the police are aware of the kind of things your brothers capable of doing and 2) to protect your family. I don't see any reason for you to go to jail, you haven't done anything wrong. Also, your brother is in need of some serious help, because his rationale doesn't make sense, and he's capable of doing some really sick stuff.
2006-11-25 11:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by ♥amorvida 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your situation...it must be devastating that your own brother would behave so badly, but you must cut him out of your life and your children's lives especially. Sexual predators CANNOT be treated...it is a sickness for LIFE.
I would advise you to think hard about any times in the past that your brother was with your children that he could have molested them...unfortunately, your children may have already been traumatized
If that is what you suspect, do whatever you need to do in order to protect your family from him. He needs to be in prison. If he is not apprehended, it is only a matter of time before some other innocent child becomes his next victim. I feel confident that this incident with your son was certainly NOT the first time he abused a child.
DON'T BACK DOWN NO MATTER WHAT!
I'll be praying for you and your family--
2006-11-25 19:54:25 · answer #2 · answered by єЖтяα ¢яιѕρψ 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your not the criminal here. And you are right, it's not because your brother is gay--it is because he is a sexual predator. I think you need to call the cops and file a report. He might not do it to your son again, but that kind of thing doesn't just go away it needs professional treatment. He will do it to a neighbor or something. Look at all the catholic priests, for crying out loud! They were transferred again and again and they kept on doing it. You need to do something because to have it on your conscience will be a heavy burden if your brother does it to someone else.
2006-11-25 19:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm certainly glad that you realized what he was going to do before he did it and you are right, it has nothing to do with being gay. Have you considered turning HIM into the police. I know sometimes when someone in our family does something that's wrong, we seem to want to not report them to the police. This is different. This man is either already a pedophile or is on his way to becoming one. Maybe the "talk" that your father and husband had with him will change his ways, but don't count on it. ABSOLUTELY UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES SHOULD HE BE ALLOWED TO BE WITH YOUR CHILDREN, ESPECIALLY ALONE. If there are others in your family with children, I urge you to warn them.
2006-11-25 19:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by Juanitamarie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Cut your brother off. He has done the unforgivable.
If you feel you are strong enough, file a police report. He is only going to go after other children.
And you are right, being gay has nothing to do with being a pedophile. He is making excuses for himself.
2006-11-25 19:45:18 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's basically your word against your brother's if you decide to report him to the police since your son isn't old enough to say what happened to him.
Really, the only thing you can do (once you find him) is get him some psychological help and keep your son as FAR away from him as possible.
2006-11-25 19:42:54 · answer #6 · answered by Imperfect 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would press charges and get him some help, You are right children first. If a prosecutor doesn't seem to think that this will not lead him to help, get hubby and dad to kick his but that way you stay out of jail and there for your children. Messed up situation, I am really not alot of help with this, seek out a professional. Good luck.
2006-11-25 19:45:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow , ithink i'd already be in jail... my kids are my life... gay is one thing come on that doesn't mean you have to do something like that. this boy needs some help, i mean serious help for this problem. if this was done to him as a child, he may try it again.. somebody may want to get him help before he does somethng to some little boy... and he may not be so lucky next time
2006-11-25 19:44:57 · answer #8 · answered by tigger120788 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow.....that's sad....first of all your brother needs some serious help.....you I must say really contained yourself....because me....HOW DO YOU SAY PRISON...?
Just keep your brother away from your house and your children...it's sad that it has to be that way....but it does....because you already know what he's capable of....It's a good thing you caught him....so your son should be OK.....
Good luck to you sweetie
2006-11-25 19:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by girlegyrl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He might be your brother but you need to go to the police before he does this to someone elses child. Do not let him around your children alone, always have someone else around.
2006-11-25 19:45:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋