do you think teenage girls should have to tell their parents when getting an abortion?

Question

what do you think and why....i think that law thing is total crap if you have to. not everyones family is the fairy tale one where its all sunshine and rainbows....thats why i reeally reeally dont want that law.some people say that if you tell your parents they can help you go through it and its easier with parents to give you support and love....a lot are abusive and will beat you just like that. a long time ago my uncle was a prinipal at a school in china where a kid got a b on an test and his parents were sooo pissed they beat him till he died..it would probably be more dangerous for the girl telling her parents than not. i think most people who say you should tell are from the families where they will sit down and talk it out instead of yell,shout and hit. because anyone from an abusive family will know that telling your parents is not an option.whats your thought??

im not pregnant

Answer 1

i think they should definitely have to tell them they shouldnt able to go and do"stuff" and then get pregnant,abort the baby and no one ever find out because its wrong. are you one of these girls?

Answer 2

The answer to your question is complicated and difficult. First of all most I know from personal experience most teenage girls go through so many emotions when they find out they are pregnant. First thing that goes through your is is "OMG, what am I going to do?". Next is do I tell the baby's father or not? All that depends on what kind of relationship she had with the baby's father. Is he older or just a young kid like herself? Was it a steady relationship or just casual encounter? Can he help her financially or will she have to do it all herself? And if whether or not she keeps the baby, how will she find the resources and money to do that? Then of course there is the fear and shame of telling your parents. The parents will probably get really angry and upset especially if the parents are very socially conscious of what others will think of them as parents. There will likely be screaming, crying, interragating questions about how, who, where and why? Then there is sometimes the stigma of embarassment a girl and family feels about what people will think of her, what a little whore !, how could you do this to us? are you stupid? she should have been more careful, etc. The blame usually falls on the girl first. Another factor is how this can impact any future plans the girl may have such as plans for college, etc. meanwhile all this is going on in dealing with finding out the pregnancy if the girl has determined she wants an abortion , she will probably have to deal with more negative emotional issues. People ( including her parents, maybe the BF and even his family ) will try to convince to go with what they think is the right choice if they don't believe in abortion themselves. Although abortion should not be considered a form of regular birth control it should be every woman's right as an alternative to unwanted pregnancy. Howeever, the problem arises when the woman is still a minor until the law and her parents have to be responsible for her care until she is of age or emancipated. If the girl has the procedure and something goes wrong the parents make have to make some serious medical decisions regarding her medical care. And they will probaly be financially responsible for that care as well. So, in that case they should have the right to be informed of the impending abortion, be given counseling and information as to their rights in this situation. I don't think they should have the right to stop the procedure but to at least be informed. Parents are the ones who should be able to talk to their child so that they can help guide them in making intelligent choices even in regards to safe sex and birth control. Unfortunately some parents are very difficult to deal with and those cases the girl should be able to have a support person outside the family when the parents are informed of the situation if that is the case. This may be necessary to insure the girls emotional and physical wellbeing. Of course, she may be surprised by her parents reaction and find out that maybe they really are good parents and going to support her in whatever decision she makes about the pregnancy. Sometimes situations like this are what bring a family closer together. As a parent who herself lived through this problem and has also had the experience of having two of her own daughters become pregnant when they were teenagers, I can tell you my first reaction was fear and worry, then i sat down with them and dicussed the options they had. One chose to have the baby, the other chose abortion. both are now grown woman with beautiful children and we never looked back or placed any blame. We are all human and make mistakes, it's how you deal with the mistakes tha decide the kind of person you are.

Answer 3

Studies show that most girls who become pregnant tell their parents on their own. The small percentage who don't tell or don't want to tell generally have good reasons for doing so. They have known their parents for 15 years or more, and generally know what makes them tick. People who encourage a girl to tell, when she knows that the repurcussions are bad, are naive fools. Government cannot mandate healthy families or positive parent-child relationships--and neither can busybodies.

I remember reading in Dear Abby once how a mother counseled her daughter's friend to tell her parents she was pregnant, though the girl was very reluctant to do so. To the woman's horror, the girl did tell, and ended up in the emergency room after her father beat the ^&** out of her. Honestly, there are an awful lot of terribly ignorant even if well-intentioned people out there who have know clue what it is like to live in an abusive family.

Yes, I would like my daughter to tell. I don't think she will be a teen mother, but she knows that she can come to me if anything happened to her. I would NEVER make that assumption about the parents of her friends unless I knew them very very well.

Answer 4

I think they shouldn't have to because, like you said, every family is different. Unfortunately, some of those aborted babies are products of rape, incest, and other atrocities. It needs to be the girl's decision. However, I think most girls should tell their parents when they get an abortion. Even though it may seem easier to do it without your mom by your side, for many girls from good homes, it is better to have a parent who knows what is going on.

I think the main thing that needs to happen is better sex education. There needs to be a focus on protection instead of abstinence. We need to be realistic about the world, instead of pretending certain things don't happen. I don't think that teenagers should be forbidden to have sex. I think it should be their decision once they reach a certain age. But I think we need to protect them with the knowledge on how to be smart about it. Then we wouldn't have so many accident babies in the first place.

Answer 5

Most girls should tell their parents just out of general principle, because they're doing something that will have negative emotional repercussions, no matter how justified the abortion is and will need emotional and moral support. However, if the girl is afraid of her parents' reactions, then it's better for her to keep quiet. A teen in entitled to doctor-patient confidentiality, as much as an adult (except in rare cases) and the decision to tell her parents about an abortion should be her own

Answer 6

Well, if you're older, out of school, out on your own-I don't see it would be any of their business. Most responsible women use protection and wouldn't be in that situation. In that case, I would say,"no" you shouldn't have to tell your parents you had a abortion.
But if you're younger, still in school, still living at home, and they are responsible for you, yes, they have every right to know!!! I can understand why a young woman would be scared, but if you thought about what you were doing before you did it and the consequences, you wouldn't have to worry about this. There's so many forms of birth control out there it's ridiculous. And what about staying a virgin?! If you think about these things through enough-you won't even have to make such a horrible choice in your life. I've been lucky enough not to ever have to.

Answer 7

hm...so should the girl tell the parents she is going to murder her baby or should she not.....now don't me wrong! I'm pro-choice...the girl and the boy have the choice on whether or not they can un zip their pants...then they have to take the consquences like adults.

But i understand the fear that the girl feels...It has got to be an extremely scary feeling...esp. if your family has a history of abuse...and it just makes me what to hug all the poor girls that go through it...but i think the best course of action is to sit down with a counselor and the parents...then tell them that the girl is pregnant...the girl should confess that the parents are abusive...so the whole family can get help...or at least the girl and her baby can be taken to safety...I'm sure this is extremely hard...but I don't agree with abortion...its murder...and I'm proud of all the girls out there who say no to abortion.

Answer 8

i do not comprehend yet for god sake stay in college! you rather want those more advantageous English training as I even do not comprehend what you in simple terms suggested. ought to a teenage lady tell her mom and father that she will have a confirm and ask an abortion with the help of them? Do you advise do you ought to tell the people your preggers and want an abortion? if so then it really is your decision rather. tell your mom and father and take it from there. yet both way in case you cant help a toddler you ought to not be having unprotected sex.

Answer 9

parents, supposedly, are there for a refuged. they are there to take away the pain and make it better. but, i know what you are saying, a lot of familes are not there for when the pain gets intense. i think, they take it personally, like it's a mark against them. i think it's fear. it's a shame, we can all make the biggest of mistakes, even these people, we consider family. so, i don't think you have to tell your parents, that's why we do have so many outlets for children, that are having children. if family is going to cause more grief, at a time, you are feeling the biggest grief of your young life - no, they should not be told. i WOULD like to think parents are loving, understanding and be their for thier child they brought into this world. but, sometimes the child has to be bigger than them and make their own decision on what they are to do with their life - and, no one else can help them. but, i pray to God that they make right choices, they can make for themselves now and to get through life, in their future. Gods help all those that have to face these type of problems. HE is their for all. HE loves all. whatever, you decide in life, GOD will be there to walk with you. HE is OUR biggest outlook on life and our future. so even at the darkest of times and not knowing what to do, open up your heart and you mind to HIM. HE will get you through it. HE doesn't condem any of us and will listen to our biggest fears and problems. HE does it with LOVE.

Answer 10

unfortunately for teenagers, they are not legally adults, and hardly have any legal rights from their parents. i do think that if a child thinks that the parents will harm her, then she should request a social worker to come in and deal with that. teenagers are not mentally capable of running their own lives without any help. you learn that after you depend on yourself. its a tough world

Answer 11

I see your point. Why don't you just not get pregnant to begin with? There are so many forms of birth control available, the most reliable form is abstinence. Can you not do that?