Do they have to be a married couple? Can you choose two separate single people? Do you need a godmother and godfather or can you have one or the other if there's someone you want but they are single? We have someone in mind but he's not married.
Do they (presumably) have to be baptised themselves?
Can they be family members from either side or do they have to be "neutral"?
We want to have our baby boy (due on 8 December) baptised but having a hard time thinking of who to ask to be Godparents. We thought of my fiance's best friend but he's single (and my best friend is a Hindu!!!)
Any ideas?
2006-11-25 11:14:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You are supposed to choose people you believe will raise them the way you would want them raised if you weren't there, It doesn't matter if they are single or married, but most churches prefer someone of the same religion
2006-11-25 11:17:34 · answer #1 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Choosing Godparents
2016-10-06 01:00:25 · answer #2 · answered by demuzio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two factors in this
1 What the rules say (ie. wether or not they need to be christian)
2 what you feel is important. If you feel the role of a godparent is to include christian teaching then that is important. If not then you are probably looking for someone to fill the role of taking responsibility for your child if you die, be a person they feel they can talk to about things (possibly more than they could talk to you when they are older) and that they have the same principles as you (no one wants their child to be brought up to believe the opposite of what you do (though most teenagers try this)
If religion is not all that important then choose the person you feel would make the best parent overall. This could even mean your Hindu friend (and why not I am sure they would understand that in many cases the title godparent is not nessercarily related directly to religion these days).
2006-11-28 02:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by MarcusHawksley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While many people would prefer that Godparents be a married couple around the same age as the parents who would be willing to adopt the children if both parents were killed in an accident or something like that, there isn't always a couple like that available.
The primary requirements for choosing Godparents is that they are moral people who have stable lives and who are close enough to the parents so that they would care enough about their children to fill in if something happened.
After that you can start a list of desirable qualities like being married, having the same religious commitment, being financially able to take care of the children, having a good aptitude for raising children, and being the type of friends who would become unofficial "aunts and uncles" during the children's lives so that the children would already consider them to be familiar adult authority figures who loved them.
2006-11-25 11:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by Martin S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I suppose that depend. Being catholic, the people my parents chose to be my godparents were my aunt and my cousin (her son) as they were likely to look after me: this is important, that the people you choose are those who will look after your kid if anything happens to you or to your husband.
At least in Catholic religion, there is no need of a married couple, but they at least should be Catholic as well. The whole thing used to be about the godparents teaching the kid about the religion, so, if the person was not catholic it made no point. But I suppose you can talk to the person in charge of the ceremony, telling that this is a friend who will be close to you when it concerns about the boy's education and make no difference if it might not be Catholic.
2006-11-25 11:26:51 · answer #5 · answered by GN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how it is for your church, but if you are Catholic you can have two single people and there is no requirement that you have both a godmother and a godfather for your child. They would need to be Catholics in goodstanding with a letter from their parish. Your parish would also have some baptismal preparation classes that you would need to attend before having your baby baptised. I would contact your church to see if they have this as well.
2006-11-25 11:28:19 · answer #6 · answered by anabasisx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and that i chosen our 2 ultimate friends to be the godparents. i'm Catholic, and that i substitute into continuously advised that one in all them should be a shown Catholic. So the godmother, who's my ultimate pal, is a shown Catholic. Zane chosen his pal, who's Baptist. in basic terms pick whoever you think of would be there for the period of the youngster's life.
2016-10-13 02:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has to be people you trust. I am the godmother of best friends 2 daughters. The god father of her girls is her brother. I never knew there were so many rules to choosing godparents!?!
2006-11-25 11:20:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They can be single and don't have to be related to any of you.Most churches will ask if they have been baptised but don't require proof
2006-11-25 11:21:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have a God Mother. My cousin has my parents as her godparents but they are divorced so it doesnt matter?
2006-11-25 11:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋