Okay...I have this boyfriend n we have been together for almost 2 years now. I love him but he knows that I am into girls also but I have never actually done it at least not while ive been with him. And I have just recently met this gurl and we have been talking over the internet and shes great n I would like to meet her n further our friendship. My boyfriend has never had a problem with my curiousity until now. He tells me that he never new that I was actually serious, but why would I play around like that. I want to do this for a reason becuz i want to figure out what i really want in my life and I thought he would be supportive but hes not! He thinks that I am going to fall in love with this girl n thats not the case. I like girls but I wouldnt date a girl.I want to marry a man n have kids n etc but I need to figure my sexuality out. But its like he doesnt accept it but if he wants to b with me 4va den ima end up neva doin it cuz he dont accept it or like it and i cant do that...
2006-11-25 11:07:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im really confused about what i should do! I want to b supported not put down about the way I am or how I wanna be. I have tried to control these urges but I feel like this feeling is uncontrollable! I mean I dont think every girl is see is sexy or nething u no? I want to be normal so bad but it just seems not to work everytime I try. None of my friends know that I am bisexual but I told my boyfriend out of all ppl becuz I thought I would be able to trust him n he wuld understand but he doesnt understand and now i feel like i cant trust to tell him anything about the way i feel. I really really need to figure my self out but he will not allow me to experiment n spread while I am with him and its not like I want my cake n to eat it too. Its just I dont want to break up n talk to her for it just to b a phase or to stay with him n have it fall apart...
2006-11-25 11:11:30 · update #1
And im not sick n im not retarded. I have had these feelings for a long time now and I have finally found someone that can relate to me and has gone thru the same things I am now. She is just another person to talk to about the way I feel. I need to do this but he makes it so hard becuz he doesnt like it. I mean he likes it but he doesnt want me to turn complete lesbian like leave him for another chick and fall out of love with him n in love with a girl u no but i wont do that i just basically want to fulfill my desires n get rid of my curiousity.
2006-11-25 11:15:05 · update #2
If you are in a committed relationship with your boyfriend but then have sex with someone else (male or female), you are cheating on your boyfriend.
However, if you and your boyfriend have NOT committed yourselves to each other, then he needs to understand that he cannot stop you from experimenting. He's jealous and most boyfriends would be jealous if their girlfriend wants to experiment in a potential lesbian relationship.
2006-11-25 11:15:24 · answer #1 · answered by nw_big_skies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to marry a man and have kids, why do you need to find out your sexuality? That sounds straight. If you're doing this just out of curiosity and KNOW that nothing will ever happen with this, then you're straight and theres no need to meet the girl. (confusing?) sorry if it is.
If you know what you want (marry a man and have kids) then why are you questioning it by meeting this other chick?
You're boyfriend could be a bit more supportive, but theres a chance he may lose you. Sounds like he loves you...doesnt want you to leave.
Do what you feel is right. Im sure you'll make the correct choice.
2006-11-25 11:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by da_nikkster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is something that you are going to do whether he likes it or not. Then just be honest with him, as you have been already, and let him know that you will move forward with seeing this other person. I think that it will be unfair to him to do this while you both are still a couple. Let him know that you two may need to separate while you are figuring this out. He should respect the fact that you are telling him this and being honest, verses going behind his back. Good Luck in what ever you decide to do. The main thing in all of this, is to be true to yourself first.
2006-11-25 11:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by LadyJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well internet relationships are always better online.say you dump your bf for this girl and she's not what you wanted.i understand you want to keep looking but maybe this girl isnt the right person. if my bf told me he wanted to break up with after 2 years of dating because he was gay and he is in love with his internet friend i would b really crushed..you should meet your online buddy and go out a couple of times before you push aside what you already have.
2006-11-25 11:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by =] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it truly fair to him for you to have the best of both worlds? Probably not. For you to want to marry and man and have kids etc but yet you haven't figured out your very own sexuality is not truly fair to him or to yourself. If you do figure out that you are lesbian, would you want to figure this out while you're married to a man or beforehand. The fact is, it's not fair to him to stay with him while you search as to what you are. I do support you in figuring out what you want out of your sexuality, but to drag him through it when he doesn't support I do not support. I hope your able to figure yourself out and definitely good luck!
2006-11-25 11:16:59 · answer #5 · answered by phoozball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have a sexuality problem its all in your head you say you want to marry a man and have children. that's the path to take you just have curiosity of wot it wood fill like to have sex with a girl and that in time will go away so your curiosity is only mental it is not real you like girls you just think that..
2006-11-25 11:15:57 · answer #6 · answered by alexandra r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a boy in your same situatiation, however my girlfriend is also into girls, it is hard to think that if you actually explore a relationship with the same sex you will lose your friend, and go through the outing process, but if you are so curious as i was, you will end up hurting someone in the end if honesty is not included
2006-11-25 11:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by curtis m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what "You can't fight that feeling" speaking from experience.....
I love women....thought it was a phase...and honey it's not
I love my man too....don't get me wrong....But trust me the more
they don't want you to have her....the more you will crave her....
To eliminate the problem invite him into the bedroom with you and her......I bet you he wouldn't have a problem then....
Good luck sweetie....and go get your girl
2006-11-25 11:12:10 · answer #8 · answered by girlegyrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't envy your position or his, best way is sit him down tell him that you love him and that you need to do this just so you can know one way or the other. if he loves you it may be hard for him but love finds a way to forgive and forget, don't forget that you have been his for 2 years and you are giving yourself to someone else. good luck.
2006-11-25 11:14:20 · answer #9 · answered by tashton2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, go to www.google.com and type in "lesbian quiz" and click
the fourth link down. That is the best quiz i found. You can take that, answer all questions honestly, and you'll have your answer!
Or... here is the link to that quiz, for a shortcut!
http://quizfarm.com/test.php?q_id=21272
that should bring you right to the quiz!
2006-11-25 11:14:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋