Usually, I would've said it right away. I have this big mouth, and I can be rude to my parents if I'm annoyed with them, or they're lecturing me.
But lately, my dad seems ready to die, or just faint- he's really unhealthy, but he's controlling my life practically. He says I can't play soccer because it's not "girly" enough, he controls the websites I go to, etc.
But if I say anything, he might faint or something. But if I don't, I won't live up my life to the part I want to. I think that he thinks I'm reckless- which I can be sometimes- and that's why he can't trust me.
But I really want to go out there and do what my friends do- have fun.
2006-11-25 11:05:07 · 5 answers · asked by UnexplainablyBeautiful 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm not legal of age to do all that stuff- but when I compare myself to everyone else, it seems they're living a life- a fun one. I mean, I don't really see what it matters with my dad on the people I meet- he knows all my friends, but he cares so much. Like a meeting place- he had to INSPECT it, as if there was going to be some type of murderer.
2006-11-25 11:13:29 · update #1
it would really help to know your age, or if you are still in school. As long as you live in your parent's house they make the rules. It's usually for the best. Unless you are being abused in some way at home you must abide by house rules. The soccer thing is really extreme. Can your Mom do anything to help you? Or maybe the coach could call your Dad about you being on the team. Also do you have a counselor at school you can talk to, or a good teacher? They can be very helpful. Best wishes to you. I hope you have a great life!
2006-11-25 11:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring the subject up in a normal, or nonstressful setting. Let him know you want to have a heart to heart and that you really need him to listen and that you are not trying to make him feel bad. Simply tell him how what he has been doing lately has been making you feel. Tell him you need to have some type of freedom and that you respect him as your father. Tell him that you value what he thinks but that you want to feel like he respects the fact that you want to make some decisions of your own and that he will trust you to do so. Tell him that you know this will make the relationship better because if he is sick he will want to know that he can trust you to be mature about the decisions that you make in your life. It may take some time for him to understand,give it time and be respectful.I hope it all works out for the best because we all need our freedom and I know how it feels to have it taken or to have a controlling parent. If you are a spiritual person prayer helps also.
2006-11-25 19:16:09 · answer #2 · answered by shuntae28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't sound like you are 18 , so you really don't have a right to take control of your life yet. sorry i know how it feels, but you will have plenty of time to make your own choices, just let it be right now, you will be an adult soon enough
i know because when i was a minor, i always said how i couldn't wait to be grown up, now....i would give something awful to be a kid again.
2006-11-25 19:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its sounds like he still lets you do stuff but he is tring to protect you like all parents should but what exactly do you think fun is with your friends?
2006-11-25 19:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by help please 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just say i don't want to live your life, let him faint sounds like he is milking it, if you can't do it faint a few times your self ..
2006-11-25 19:10:43 · answer #5 · answered by glitsyjewels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋