And no, he didn't send the stuff in an effort to win her affections. He sent it because he wanted to.
2006-11-25 10:50:18 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Women are completely messed up in the head. They only want things that they can't have. By sending stuff to them and being nice they realize that they can have you and that makes them feel like their nothing special. You must first show them that your'e special and get their attention by doing something funny, unique, or impressive all while acting disinterested. Then pay them some attention and then only start being nice to them after they agree to go out with you. Even then do not be overbearing just kinda act like theyre ok and then theyll be dying for attention and then in turn begin to develop an affection toward you.
2006-11-25 10:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
See, you're a man and men don't understand women. Okay - even if you sent gifts that were not intended to win her affections - a woman is going to get that impression or at least wonder about that and mistrust you as a person. In addition, if she doesn't like you - there is nothing you can do and no gift that you can buy that will change her mind about that. Just being nice doesn't mean a woman will like you - women make up their own minds and a guy can't change it. But, most women do change their minds at times so - you never know - she may change it about you. There is always the possibility that she has another man on her radar and doesn't want him to think that he has competition with you in any way. It's usually good for a woman to steer clear of other men while she is trying to get the attention of someone else specifically. I ignored lots of guys who were nice to me when I met the guy I ended up marrying - you win a guy by building his ego and making him feel like he's the best thing going in no comparison to any other man in any way. Isn't that how you'd like a girl to treat you? Time to move on for you I'd say.
2006-11-25 10:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your intent was truly to just be nice, she may have misinterpreted your gifts. Um, usually when a guy sends you stuff you like he IS trying to win your affections.
She may not have the skills to say thanks but no thanks politely, or she may just be on guard because of past experience.
Everyone looks at the world through the filter of thier own experiences, desires and world veiws, so we all see things a little differently. That's one of the things that makes relationships so hard.
If you're really being nice you'll respect her wishes. Maybe she'll realize what a great guy you are and come around.
2006-11-25 10:58:08 · answer #3 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe HE JUST WASN'T HER TYPE! Try not to take it so personally and just back off and leave her alone. Really nothing creeps a woman out more than a guy who just won't take no for an answer.
If you are a genuinely nice guy, as you seem to think, the right woman will come along and appreciate you. Don't waster your time on someone who doesn't! Good Luck
2006-11-25 10:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This much I know......a guy I've met here really liked me. We overlloked our age (he's old enough to be my grandad) and enjoyed each other's company, having fun and talking about many crazy things. But I turned away when some problems came up. I didn't like the cloudy status of his "divorce", nor the fact that he was so ambiguous about various things. I got over my shyness, found other guys, and began to avoid him. He's pretty nice otherwise. Always replied quickly and kept the ball rolling.
2006-11-25 17:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by Tet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although women are finnicky creatures the first rule still applies.
"They gotta like you!" Have you looked in the mirror lately? has any thing changed in your appearance? Be honest, have you been doing bad things with others? If not maybe it ain't just you.
Maybe the problem is hers. Sometimes women think they know whats best for everyone. Mothers instincts or something. Anyway talk to her and if it still fails, maybe it's time to weed the patch and grow other inspirations.
2006-11-25 10:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by spacekitty12345 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are some self-centered users out there, aren't there? Probably the greatest loss in all of this was his heart. You can always regret the gifts, but the feelings he had for her will be hard to get over. Some girls just don't know how to do "nice" and they are missing out on a nice guy!
2006-11-25 10:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not an issue of "woman" here. It's just people in general-- sometimes women OR men don't connect with someone else no matter how 'perfect' they might be for them. If the feeling isn't there it's not worth pursuing. That doesn't mean anything is the man's fault :)
2006-11-25 10:52:23 · answer #8 · answered by Christine4tw 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She may have felt you were stalking her. she was scared of any relationship or a relationship with you. she may not have liked you and wanted you to stop contacting her.
I am in the same shoes as you- sender. I started off giving stuff to a man because it made him happy. then I began to give him stuff because it made me happy thinking it could make him happy. He didn't respond after awhile, but I kept sending. What his reasons were for not acknowledge my stuff, nor reciprocating was not known to me. Nor did I ask. Sometimes we just don't want to know why the other person acts as they do.
2006-11-25 10:56:32 · answer #9 · answered by tiafromtijuana 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because she could feel smothered by it and want to get further away from it. Maybe she doesn't like money being spent on her or she feels insecure by it thinking now why would he send me this stuff?? I don't need it. Plus she could think it was a little creepy if you weren't going out with her.
2006-11-25 10:53:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋