I'm not scared but it's so sudden and I really want to.
2006-11-25 10:43:59 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if you don't want to have sex, simply just say no. Even he is your boyfriend, there should be a discipline between you and him. In case you have sex with him, make sure that you guys use condoms and don't exchange the body fluids to prevent HIV/AIDS.
2006-11-25 10:51:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men are usually always ready from the beggining to have sex. Its their first thought, not their fault, they're made that way. The important thing is that you are ready. As far as we men go, if we respect you, and he should respect you, sex is your call, and nothing is imposed before 'you' are ready. So you do not need to be forced into something you are not ready for or may regret, think it out, he must respect your decision whatever it is.
Sex is a wonderful thing though, so if you do it, do it right, dont jump into it. Make it safe, make it special. Sex isn't all about jumping into bed and making each other feel good, make sure you are well informed of things like contraception, protection and risk factors like STDs and unplanned pregnancy and how to have 'safe sex'. Make sure you know your partner's full sexual history and that they do not have anything they could pass on to you.
2006-11-25 10:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
All guys are ready for sex.The point is if he is pressureing u for it then u really need to think about this relationship. Do not do it for him.If he loves u he will wait forever.When someone truely loves a person they can't live without them.So his test is if he sticks around when u say your not ready.If he doesn't then your lucky u didn't give in.Because he would of sooner or later left after he got what he wanted.Good luck hon.This is from someone older and has expriences these things.
2006-11-25 10:53:00 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction was to tell you not to give in to your urges and desires, but then I figure you aren't going to listen to that because conventions nowadays are a lot less restrictive. Now, having said that I do want you to promise yourself NEVER EVER to have unprotected sex . There is so much misery out there which will haunt you forever . Disgusting diseases to give you a lifetime of pain . Getting pregnant is also hard for a women not married and illegitimate children are still a big burden as much as we love children, to have them prematurely is very hard .You didn't tell us how old you are so I figure you are both quite young . PLEASE make sure you take care of yourself it takes only one small misstep and you have a noose around your neck at your young age it is a disaster .
2006-11-25 11:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep in mind he is your boyfriend, not your husband and he could easily move on without you. Dont go whining how you thought he was so in love with you. He isnt married to you and just because you sleep with him doesnt make him owe you a thing. And if he does stick it out with you for a while dont whine how he refuses to marry you. He will have no reason to if hes getting what he wants already. There are literally hundreds of women posting questions in here about how they slept with their boyfriend and now hes gone. Or they movied in with their boyfriend 5 years ago and why wont he marry me? You women need to wake up and smell the coffee.
2006-11-25 10:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to have go it... but take under consideration that things can go wrong STD's are a problem these days, if you don't have a condom you can end up with a baby... you both should talk it over and make sure it's the move you two want to take...
2006-11-25 11:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by Mexican Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both ready to have sex, you make you that you have a condom at the ready, and give yourself enough time that you can do this unhurriedly.
Do understand that this will change the dynamic of the relationship
2006-11-25 10:46:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
...do you love eachother?
I dont know if I was raised "old fashion" or not, but....
I didnt wait until I was married to have sex- I did wait until I met my husband tho...I knew I was going to be with Josh forever (then, boyfriend) so we had sex when I was 17....married when I was 18.
I dont think you should just have sex to be having sex or because you "want to." Only if you love someone should you consider sex.
(this is hard to say)- Its special...something you have that others want...but they cant unless you let them. If you have sex with just anyone for any reason, its not special anymore.... see where im trying to come from? =) I cant think of exactly how to word it.
2006-11-25 10:47:58 · answer #8 · answered by da_nikkster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is are you ready? You say you really want to, but are you ready to? Do you have protection?
This is a tough and very personal decision. Good luck.
2006-11-25 10:45:46 · answer #9 · answered by happytone365 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are both of age and you feel that you're ready, then go for it. Just make sure that you both are truly ready to have sex, and don't forget to use protection to avoid pregnancy or any diseases.
2006-11-25 10:46:50 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋