If so how did you deal with it? I am asking because i believe my boyfriend of 4 yrs has it. I am not psychiatrist its just that i have read alot of books about it and it seems like my boyfriends has alot of the symptoms and behavior of BPD. I mean one min he cant stand me the next he doesn't want me to leave him. He says awful things to everyone who cares about him. Its like a no win situation with him. He is soooooooo sensitive. He blames everyone for his problems. Yet he says he is a failure. I once told him that maybe he should see a counselor and totally flew off the handle saying i am the one with the problem. He claims nobody loves him and everybody leaves him all the time. Even when you do something very nice for him he quickly forgets it when you do something that he doesn't want you do like going shopping or something. His mother is fed up with him and doesn't know what to do. What can be done?
2006-11-25 10:43:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
ok - first of all he needs to be in treatment if he isn't. if he doesn't start getting help - leave him. and when he tells you he'll kill himself if you do - tell his parents that you are breaking up with him and he is threatening suicide. i spent years dealing with people with BPD - they can be the most engaging and the most infuriating people you will ever meet. take care of you. you need to protect you. borderlines will suck you dry and leave you an emotional wreck. you might also want to see a counselor and deal with this in there. you are right - with borderlines you are either good or bad and if they continue to manipulate with their threats and emotional drama - you will be the loser. not them.
2006-11-25 11:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by firenice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Borderline Personality Disorder is very difficult to treat especially when the person suffering from it really is not ready to acknowldege there is something wrong. He won't be able to modify his behavior on his own and if he has violent tendencies, he may even need psychotropic meds. I have never been emotionally involved with someone diagnosed with BPD, but I worked in mental health for over ten years and those patients that had BPD, really showed very little prgress without intensive therapy. I encourage you to assess your relationship with this person and decide if it is worth staying in this abusive relationship especially if he refuses to seek some sort of therapy. Many times BPD can escalate so think about it.
2006-11-25 19:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by spababy606 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-26 09:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by LIz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't put up with that crap. BPD is pure selfishness and childishness.
2006-11-25 18:51:50 · answer #4 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DBT therapy would be a breakthru for him.
2006-11-25 20:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by catzrme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋