ok so im not a parent but I have a little sister who is 14 and still in 7th grade, she failed last year and is in danger of failing again. she just wont get up and go to school in the morning, my mom yells at her, I yell at her, I’ve even tipped her bed to get her up and nothing has worked. she wont tell us why she wont go to school. we have taken things away that she likes and we tell he that when she goes to school she will get them back but so far this hasn’t worked. now she’s on PINS (persons in need of supervision) and could be taken out of our home. we don’t know what else to do, any suggestions? PLEASE BE SERIOUS AND DON’T JUST NOPE OR I DON’T KNOW
2006-11-25 10:28:16 · 12 answers · asked by Sam 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok sorry I should have put this up there but she does have a social worker that serves as he councilor but she wont talk to her either any more.
2006-11-25 10:38:18 · update #1
plus my parents have had meetings with school to see what could be going on there too but they dont know either
2006-11-25 10:39:21 · update #2
she needs a friend to open up to , someone she feels comfortable with cus she's feeling lost and needs someone to be in her corrnor untill she finds her way back
2006-11-25 12:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by wilco254 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something must be going on at home or at school. First off you shouldn't be correcting her or taking things away from her that is your parents responsibility not yours, I'm sure she is very resentful about you interfering, I know I would have been had my older sibling tried to take over my parents responsibilities. Second if the councilor she's seeing isn't getting through to her then your sister doesn't like or respect her so another one needs to be found. She could have a learning disability or a personality disorder that hasn't been detected a more qualified professional might be able to help. She probably looks at the social worker/councilor as someone looking out for your parents not her. Just because someone is a good social worker does not mean they are a good councilor. Tell your parents to find a new one that will do the right kind of testing to get to the root of her problem.
2006-11-25 19:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is tell her that if she wants to stay part of your family (ie. Not be taken away) then she needs to get herself out of bed and off to school. Also, you could try homeschooling as an alternative. She would still get the education that she deserves, but be able to avoid whatever she's avoiding at school. She also needs therapy. Take her to a good counselor where she can be "opened" a little. I think that will help. Good luck!
2006-11-25 18:32:25 · answer #3 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ms; acouple of things if you haven't already done them is talk to her teachers & friends to find out what is going on at school. Could be where all the answers are. Try talking instead of yelling. You were her age once think back to the problems you went threw.
Good Luck.
2006-11-25 18:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has your parents tried talking to her teacher? It sounds like she could be the victim of bullying or intimidation. Failing that, a friend of mine's son exhibited very similar behavior and after much digging on my friend's part, she discovered her son was dyslexic but neither he nor his teacher had realised that and just thought he was suffering from lack of concentration and a little dumb. Another possibility, and I hope this isn't the case, but could your sister be involved in drugs? It does go on in schools. It sounds like your sister has problems but you also sound like a close and caring family so at least she has that much on her side. Good luck.
2006-11-25 18:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sue S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to her alone. DON"T pressure her just calmly ask what is bothering her. She may be emberesed that she is 14 and in 7th grade. Don't take her things away that just makes the situation worse. Also don't threaten her it will just make her more stubborn and she'll just rebel even more then she is now. Good luck and I hope everything works out.
2006-11-25 18:39:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is being bullied and threatened at school, or sexually abused. Something seems to be scaring her if she won't talk about it. Try really hard to get her help or to talk. It could even be a social disorder. Go see her doctor she might need meds
2006-11-25 18:57:05 · answer #7 · answered by lem604 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she won't discuss it with you, then have her discuss it with a counselor, but she needs to go back no matter what.
I think perhaps if someone went with her (maybe a pair of handcuffs is in order? lol j/k) to the school, accompanied her during the day, the reason she won't go may become apparent.
2006-11-25 18:35:35 · answer #8 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys have to take it up a notch. She might be suffering from depression and needs professional psychological help.
2006-11-25 18:43:24 · answer #9 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She May have depression or be BiPolar. There is more going on that people no about.
2006-11-25 18:34:14 · answer #10 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋