ive got a twelve year old boy and he really wanted to have an ipod this coming christmas, he's been telling me how much he likes it. the problem is i am really broke this fast few months and struggling with my finances. it really gives me sleepless nights because he seldom ask things from me because ive always been strict to him. shall i tell him my financial situations? shall i just ignore him again??? he is always jealous of his 2 small bro.
2006-11-25 10:14:45 · 14 answers · asked by NOSREME 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i would recommend not telling him about the state of your finances, think about it, you are losing sleep over this, how much pressure do you want to put on him at the age of 12, he will worry bout you, bout money and also feel guilty that he asked for an expensive pressie
2006-11-25 21:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by pink_angel_pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to get him a second hand one and explain to him the reasons why, it will not be long before he can get a paper round and save up for his own things. I would not encourage the jealousy by getting the two younger ones what they want if you cannot afford it for the elder boy. Christmas is a pain and causes a lot of debt and sleepless nights, has he got grand parents who could help out with the childrens presents, I spend a fortune on mine, and love doing it. All the best to you.
2006-11-25 11:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids these days are switched on... If money is too tight, explain to him that you can't quite afford it this year.
How about saving a little each week for it. Get him to put the money in a jar each week. So he'll look forward to having enough to buy one. Maybe family will help with small money gifts to put towards it.
As a child, I would have rather had have food on the table than an iPod. Don't go into debt for xmas.. so many people with no money make the mistake of borrowing to buy lot of presents.
2006-11-25 10:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by Nathan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you try to find a cheap one on Ebay?
Perhaps if you cant find him one, you should talk to him about your lack of money.
Having said that, if you cant get him this iPod for xmas, then i do hope you dont the the other 2 boys the things they wanted for xmas. Your 12 year old would have every right to be upset.
How far away is his birthday? Perhaps you could get him an iPod then?
2006-11-25 10:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by He moonwalked on my <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas always puts this sort of pressure on families.. My daughter has now decided she wants a PlayStation in pink.. My partner and I have already brought her presents.. So we have sat her down and explained that we have brought her some of her presents but money's tight and that we will try and see if we can get her one, but we are struggling. She understands we have three other children. I think that if you tell you son now he will come round to the idea.
2006-11-25 10:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell about your money problem,s and hope he will be understanding that,s about all you can do unless you have some family that might help out.I would not ignore him I think that would make thing,s worse.Treat him like an adult at that age and maybe he will act like one.I hope the best for you and hope all of you have a Merry Christmas!!
2006-11-25 10:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll really lose sleep by going deeper into debt by buying things that you cant afford right now. Your 12 year old is old enought to understand that it is important to live with your means and that part of grwoing up means sometimes putting off things you really want until circumstances permit. Be the parent and discuss with him. He may fuss, but he wont feel ignored..
2006-11-25 10:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by missourim43 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to live in the real world.................if there is no money, he has to know that..............................I had many years where I was poor and malnourished and it made me work all the harder to make sure that I got an education, married well and was able to provide the best for my kids.
How about upping yourself in this world so you can sleep knowing that you are putting forth all the effort you can?
Oh, how about your son cutting grass this summer and buying one for himself??
Your "question" sounds suspiciously like a plea for an Ipod and you will most likely be reported.
2006-11-25 10:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is old enough for u to explain the situation. Encourage him to open a savings account and save up for an i pod himself with u putting a bit in when u can
2006-11-25 11:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by rachel d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you get him a mp3 player they are a lot cheaper or try going onto ebay as you might get a cheaper one there
or you could explain to him about your financial problems, he is 12 so he is old enough to understand
2006-11-25 10:30:27 · answer #10 · answered by NOT TELLING YOU LOL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋