ive got a twelve year old boy and he really wanted to have an ipod this coming christmas, he's been telling me how much he likes it. the problem is i am really broke this fast few months and struggling with my finances. it really gives me sleepless nights because he seldom ask things from me because ive always been strict to him. shall i tell him my financial situations? shall i just ignore him again??? he is always jealous of his 2 small bro.
2006-11-25 10:11:46 · 29 answers · asked by NOSREME 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Right now all his mates are bragging about what they're getting for Xmas and some of them may actually be telling the truth. He will be feeling this pressure as well as wanting the ipod for its own sake. He probably means the ipod not shuffle so you are looking at 189 pounds upwards. Not many families can afford that. But an ipod has advantages. Unlike the mounds of plastic most of us buy for younger children it will be used constantly and hooray, it will not clutter up the house. At 12 yrs old he is old enough for you to tell him what he knows already, that some kids just get everything that's going, especially when the parents have loads of cash and feel guilty about always working. But most kids - and adults- are like him and have to save up for the big things. If he really has his heart set on an i-pod then tell him you will give him money towards it and ask relatives etc to do the same. Older relatives in particular may be relieved as choosing for a 12 yr old boy is not easy and if you have a big family the fivers will soon mount up. He will be happy on Xmas as he opens the envelopes and gets nearer his goal. But make sure he also has small surprises and stuff to open as he is still a kid inside. You could also help him add to his ipod fund by paying him to do chores - point out the other two are too young to do this and it may even help a bit with the jealousy thing. He sounds like a lovely boy who deserves to have his dream come true.
2006-11-25 22:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by judipod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel because I am still living with my parents and they cant always afford the things that my friends parents can. I would tell him about ur finances but dont say too much.. say that you are a little bit tight with money right now and that he will get an ipod eventually but maybe not right at christmas. you could also suggest an mp3 player instead because they do the same things as ipods but they are just cheaper.. theyre are some great deals on them now too.. u can get a 2G one at The Source for $70 that is a great deal.. well good luck!!
2006-11-25 10:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One Christmas I was walking through a park after a row with family, as you do. and I saw a little boy with his vagabond parents, he had in his hand a piece of string attached to which was a handmade wooden boat. He was happy, the thing floated in the pond and he was happy, his dad, mum and grandad were all happy. Me on the other hand got every thing I wanted as a kid, and you know what, I'm in therapy after being such a spoilt brat. tell him the Ipod is so last Christmas and give him an action man or something, he's 12 when you were that age what did you get at Christmas? probably an old hand me down pair of socks, don't know. or just tell him it hasn't been delivered yet and get it after Christmas, their bound to be cheaper.
2006-11-25 10:20:04 · answer #3 · answered by ANTJOHN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Defenitally don't ignore him, tell him that it is a small christmas this year if he doesn't get what he wants this year not to get to down that you will try to get it for him at a later date maybe a birthday or next year. It has been hard on everyone I know it has been on us too and we had our 14 year old daughter ask the same thing.. It is hard I know not to get them what they ask for I always said that my girls will have what they want because I did not get what I wanted when I was growing up because of financial situations and now here we are!
2006-11-25 10:17:31 · answer #4 · answered by iamcarrie77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a financial problem? well ipods r only $200. well actually i have one and it is not as kool as he would think it is. hmm. well brake the news to him. say " son, look i am really sorry but well, i am having a bit of a money problem and if i bought it for you then i dont think we would have food to eat for a while. so what i am saying is that maybe you should earn it for yourself." He is 12 he can get money. raking leaves, shuveling snow, moeing lawn, even lemonade stands. he can do it. before you tell him this hug him and try not to be so strict 4 a few days. then tell him, and with your love and support he can earn 200 easily!
2006-11-25 10:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should mention him the financial problems you're going through. But don't get too into detail because he might get worried. Just explain him we can't always get the things we want because of different reasons. And tell him that if it was in your hands, you would get him that ipod he wants so bad, but you can't for now. I'm sure he will understand
2006-11-25 10:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by Yuri 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ignoring would not be the best thing and in the long run it will even hurt him more. if he's the eldest he should be able to understand more than his brothers and you should share with him your situation rather than keep him distance. it will be good to tell him that you will try your best to get him one when you can afford it later on but however, be very careful as well and not make empty promises. if you ever promise then you must fulfill it. it's nothing better than sharing and communicate as it will also keep the bond stronger. hope you are more stress free.
2006-11-25 11:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your best to get him the IPOD. maybe ask friends and family to help out if they can? Or if you have a Wal-Mart, I know they sell IPODS and that you can put them on layaway if that is an option for you.
If worst comes to worst and you absolutely cannot get him an IPOD, talk to him about it, and tell him you will do your best to get it....maybe for his next birthday, etc. Ask him what he would like instead that might cost a little less.
God Bless and Merry Christmas!
2006-11-25 10:15:38 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.Gaddis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him of your financial situation and explain that you would love for him to have the Ipod but you just don't have the money for one right now. Tell him that you love just as much as his brother, but he just needs more attetion from you more than the 12 year old right now.
2006-11-25 10:15:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why an ipod? Why not just any other MP3 player? They all work the same. With any other MP3 player (mostly) he can put any songs he wants on there from the PC (doesnt have to buy them with the ITunes card)
Ask him about other MP3 players- theyre also cheaper.
2006-11-25 10:14:07 · answer #10 · answered by da_nikkster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋