And he's only 8 years old. He said he's done it several times before. My parents don't know about this. He knows what he's doing is wrong because as soon as I discovered him doing it, he's been crying. What do I do??!!! (I dont want to bring my parents into this.. I'm 16, 8 years older than him)
2006-11-25 10:06:00 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
This is a big decision you are about to make. Think about how your parents will react. Do you think they will make a big deal out of it and make him feel really embarrassed and dirty for doing this. Kids are real delicate, you don't want to make him feel that a naked body is dirty and that sex is too. This could screw him up about sex and how he should feel about it. Part of me wants you to let his parents know and part of me wants you just to talk to him and say it's for adults only and he's to little for it now. Have him promise to not do it again until he's older and keep the communication open with him tell and let him know if he has ANY questions about what he was looked at he can come to you so you can explain it to him. I know this is a heavy responsibility for a 16 year old but maybe you'd be the better choice if mom and dad would freak out . If I was you and in this position I would keep it between me and my little brother. I think that would be better than getting him in trouble for being curious. If you see anything going on with him that seems abnormal later on you should tell your parents then. Use that as a way he'll stick to his promise tell him you'll tell them if he doesn't quit doing it. Good-luck sweetie!
2006-11-25 10:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
An 8 year old couldn't have discovered this by himself. Someone older showed him. Think about it, maybe you can think of who did it. Tell your parents about the situation and tell them that someone probably showed it to him. Talk to your brother nicely and explain to him the situation and why he's too young to be doing this. But you need to talk to your parents about this. If you go about it the right way, they won't get upset. And they'll be happy that you took something against it. After all, you don't want your brother to grow up a pervert. There are sick people in this world who had no guidance and now, they're sex offenders. Talk to your brother and take the right actions.
2006-11-25 18:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by xXPrincessXx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!But I have a little brother that is 10 and if I ever caught him looking at porn I would have a long talk with him about Why was he looking at porn? And What was he thinking!But I wouldn't go and tell my parents unless I caught him a second time! I think your brother learned his lesson because as you said as soon as you caught him he has been crying!Well I g2g for now, Bye!
2006-11-25 19:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by Baby Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell them. Exposure to adult images for young boys is often addictive and if allowed to continue he might have some dysfunctional problems relating to females as a teen and adult. While it is obviously sensitive subject, I suggest you two go together to your parents and tell them.
Not telling on him to get him buried but NOT allowing him to get away with it. He has tasted it so now he won't be able to stay away from it. If your parents will over-react you should let him tell them himself while you are there to support him and re-assure him that it will be better if they hear it from him first. If they are reasonable and rational I would tell the parents first and get some guidance from them on how to help your brother admit it to them and then everyone can work on it together. This is serious and shouldn't be ignored. Give him 2-3 days to tell them himself or you will tell them. That should motivate him and check to see where else he could have saw some porn (like at a friends house) and cut him off from that "friend".
2006-11-25 18:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by Magnus01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he really should not have been able to get hold of porn at this age, now that he has the way you handle it could have a big impact on him so id not make so much of an issue about it to him, but when he is in school or out of the house confront the person the porn belongs too and tell them to be more careful where they keep it, even if it is your parents they need to be told
2006-11-25 18:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by 0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to take a positive and mature aproach to this. He is 8 years old and in the curious stage.
It would probrably be wise to get your parents involved. maybe tell them youve noticed that hes looking at girls differently and maybe it is time for them to have the "talk" with him. but let your brother know first, so he knows that you did not tell on him. do not look at this as a negative thing or something to be ashamed of. good luck. remember that it is better to educate than to critisize or judge.
2006-11-25 18:19:11 · answer #6 · answered by Timothy T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, it's not wrong, it may be curiosity. If he was crying, something might have happened to him. Now he's your brother, don't yell at him or scold him, talk to him. Now a days children are having those feelings and it's ok, just as long as you let him know not to act on those feelings(kids are going to home for kissing another kid on the cheek)... I didn't know what sex was when I was little but I found a porn mag at my friends house and I thought it was sooooo funny, I showed my mom... my mom openly talked to me about it and told me it wasn't appropiate for me to view that, she laughed and that was that, we see animals doing it all the time.
Just talk to him, don't tell your parent if you know they're going to punish him without talking to him... Be his best friend, please find out what's going on, if he's having a problem tell your parents, if he promises you he won't do it again, let it go because you don't want him to not trust you!!!
2006-11-25 18:17:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is something you need to tell your parents. An 8 year old doesn't need to be looking at that kind of stuff. It is in his best interest if they know.
2006-11-25 18:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you put a password protection on the computer. I think you should tell your parents about it, but if you don't feel comfortable then at least tell them that you have heard kids of his age start looking around the Internet and you want to protect him.
Good Luck!
2006-11-25 18:10:15 · answer #9 · answered by Becky R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that even though you don't want to tell your parents this is is something they should know about. At 8 years old he most likely is just curious about sex.This is something your parents need to sit him down and talk to him about.
2006-11-25 18:26:57 · answer #10 · answered by blue_eyed_brat78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋