i broke up wit my bf. He's back with his ex now, but we r trying to be friends. But the thing is i want to be more then friends, but i know he doesnt feel the same way. I delete him from my msn, but that only lasted a week, because i just had to talk to him again. Now my problem is: do i get him to block me so i can finaaly get over him because this way i wont be able to talk to him, but see i get really happen when i know i get to talk to him, and i dont want to get rid of it, because it feels nice, but this way i wont ever get over him! So delete him and be miserable or live in hope and happyness, which isnt real, but i cant let go, dont want to :(
What would u do? miserable but real or happy but illusion???
2006-11-25 09:58:15 · 16 answers · asked by Simone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would do the miserable but real. Illusional happiness is not an answer and will only hurt you BIG time in the long run. It is like a snow ball, becoming bigger and bigger, and then crushing you at the end. Also, think about HIS happiness little bit too. Wouldn't it be too cruel of you to torture him by not letting him go? Also, YOUR life is too precious to waste it on illusions. Be strong/
2006-11-25 10:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do is cut all communication with him. You feel one way, he feels another way. You want more than friendship, and he doesn't. You will only be leading yourself on by keeping in contact with him. It seems like you know that it is over, but are trying to hold on to the happiness that relationship gave you. That isn't good for you to do. No one else is respinsbile for your happiness, only you are. Find things to do that make you happy. Think of before you were with him. Spend more time with family and friends. Take care of you, and quit telling yourself that he is the only thing that makes you happy, because that is not true. Get involved in charity work. Helping others really can make you happier. If you are over 18 try contacting boys and girls club or big brothers big sisters. Most important, remember that it probably isn't a good idea to be friends with him as long as you are hoping for more than that. It really will end up hurting you in the end. Explain to him how you feel, let him know you want more than friendship but you know that isn't an option anymore. Tell him that it would be best not to be communicating on a constant basis, and that it is for your own good. Give yourself time to heal, each time you talk to him or see him is like reopening a wound that desperatly needs to heal. Let yourself heal and maybe when you are stronger, you two can be friends.
2006-11-25 18:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Misery won't last forever. It's better to cut him out of your life for a few months until you are over him. You can let go, you just haven't tried very hard. Delete him, and get busy doing fun things with your life and friends. Soon you won't even remember to be miserable. And your happiness will be real.
2006-11-25 18:06:05 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had your chance, now you have to move on. No matter how you want to rationalize it. it is over! Remember their are more boys in town, besides you ex. Start hanging out with a new crew of people, meet people, and have some fun!
2006-11-25 18:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does not feel the same about you as you do, then let him go. Why make yourself miserable, don't you like yourself, be real give yourself the best.
2006-11-25 18:35:20 · answer #5 · answered by dimple555 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you say you broke up with him and then say," You want to be mor than friends!
Sounds like you may be a little confused.
Do want to be with your ex again?
He choice to be with his ex again that means he wasn't over his ex! I Say Lets Be Happy With Moving On!!!
If you broke up with him then it wasn't meant to be!
Don't Go Backwards, Go Forwards!
2006-11-25 18:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by thinkpink4u101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if you keep pouring gasoline on a fire, it will just keep on burning, but if you stop it will STILL keep burning and after a long time the flames will subside. My point is, keep him on your mind and you'll keep hurting, let go and you'll hurt for what will seem like for ever but eventually it WILL stop! I promise!
2006-11-25 18:03:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You jussz pissed cause he doing fine witout u in his lifes & bLAH BLAh. IF you go wit him aqen, u prolly get bored & dump his aqen. && this whole thing going to happen over and over. If i was you, i say move on to another guy. & be happy for him.
2006-11-25 18:02:32 · answer #8 · answered by lala.fxckuhunnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on sweetie! Go do something else with your time, cry at night, and let time heal.
2006-11-25 18:00:41 · answer #9 · answered by Max E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to let go and I would go out and find someone else and find something else to do with my time.
2006-11-25 18:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by Source 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋