My boyfriend and I have been together for four years.He is six years younger than I am. I have kids and had a tubal ligation six years ago. He doesn't have any kids at all. All he talks about is how he wants to have kids with me and how I can't give him what he wants. I tell him that I would love to have another kid but I can't.He's still young and I love him very much. We have broken up and got back together so many times. How can I cope with letting him go to be with someone else to have his own family?
2006-11-25 09:44:15 · 10 answers · asked by amber j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry your in that situation. Thats horrible. Letting go of someone you love hurts so much. Lean on your family, friends and your kids for support. Its going to take all of them to deal with that.
2006-11-25 09:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to let him go? Is your inability to have children big problem for him? Have you spoken about adoption with him? Would adoption even be an option for you both? I also had a major surgery that affects my ability to have kids. I had an emergency appendectomy 8 years ago. With my 2 week post op the surgeon informed me that I MIGHT not ever be able to have children. What a blow to me it was especially after a violent break-up with my ex-husband then 2 weeks later I had to have the surgery to save my life. After I was mentally able to move forward and start dating again I knew if I got into a serious relationship I would have to tell whoever I was dating about the possibility of never having kids. The guy I am with now knows it's not my fault and it's just something unfortunate that happened. Again I ask, why do you have to let him go? Is it something he wants you to do for him?
I would let him make his own decision about breaking up with you so he could find someone else to give him his own kids.Why should you be burdened because he wants kids?
2006-11-25 18:14:08 · answer #2 · answered by already_enuff_spice_in_this 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BUMMER!! That really sucks. 1St off all check on egg donors.... they have sperm donors.....I am sure they have egg donors. Then you could use a serrogate and it would be your baby.
IF that doesnt work, the hardest thing to do is to let someone you love leave, but that is the biggest gesture of love you could show him. Tell him you love so much that you want him to be happy & you just cant give him what he wants. Let him go. Time will heal your hurt. Unfortunately, you will probably never "get over it", but you will feel better knowing that you gave him everything he wanted by letting him go. Plus who knows......tubal ligations have been known to fail.....maybe some prayer is what you really need.
2006-11-25 17:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not sure how hes like. but if you have kids and he wants one that is his own. then its better that you dont have kids with him. mostly because he will favor his more then the others.
its really easy to let go of someone you love. just say "im sorry, but we cant be together anymore," then walk away, but no matter what you do. you can never stop loving him. its life.
how to cope with it. my best guess would be to find a rebound guy or a very good friend. not sure what else to do there.
2006-11-25 17:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this must be hard on you, but there are other alternatives like adoption or serrogate parent. But if neither of those are an option unfortunatly it is out of your control and he has to make his own choice whether or not to continue the relationship knowing that he might never have his own children.
2006-11-25 17:52:09 · answer #5 · answered by joker:P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you need to do is tell him you love him and you need to go your seperate ways because you cant give him what he wants. And also tell him he will be better with another girl and he can have his own family with someone else
2006-11-25 17:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by booBoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you don't think you can make him happy in that aspect and you feel he would be happier with someone else that can fullfill his desire for children. I would make sure to do this in the appropriate setting too as well as timing.
2006-11-25 17:49:26 · answer #7 · answered by Kami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you guys can be best close friends. If he loves you like you say he does then he should be understanding enough. What your doing is for his benefit and he doesnt realizes now but he will. Good luck sweetie!
2006-11-25 17:49:43 · answer #8 · answered by midnight princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,my name is Lori and iam sorry for u ,but is only natural that he wants kids.If u love him,but u can`t make him happy about this,is better to let him go.U both will be unhappy in time.SORRY
2006-11-25 17:55:11 · answer #9 · answered by tudosie_lory 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 points!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-25 17:47:53 · answer #10 · answered by natrual flirt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋