Im 13 and i have a boyfriend..and Im not allowed to date...?

Question

k..So ive been seeing this guy for maybe a month and half. hes really nice and sweet...but the only problem is that im not allowed to date until im 16 or 17 and im 13 right now. last time i had a boyfriend and he called my home phone my mom answered it and she wuz really mad at me and that happened about 3 mmothes ago. i get along with my ok...but I really really like him...how should i tell her?
And he gave me my first kiss and he wants me to tell her asap. he said if i dont he will and yea

Answer 1

You are too young to be "dating" but maybe you can talk to your mother about having a male friend that you can talk to on the phone. Providing you keep the phone calls to time when you are not doing homework and keep the calls brief, I can't see that parents would mind, especially if you present it to them in this way.

You might want to ask parents if you would be allowed to have him come and visit you when parents are around to supervise. Good luck.

Answer 2

If you don't, he will. And just who does he think he may be to threaten you. Tell him he is kicked to the curb as you can get another. I think it is OK to have a boyfriend ay 13 if you see him at school dances and at lunch and talk on the phone. If your mom or dad wants to take the two of you to a movie and they go with you that would be OK too. But that is about it for 13. You have to be a lot older for more. But, if as you say, your mom says no, then it is time to get an aunt or uncle or someone like that to talk to her for you.

Answer 3

Im a teenager, but im 16 and i think that 13 is way too young. Dont listen to the other answerers. Keep it a secret till you turn 16 and then tell your parents.

Answer 4

i dont think its really that your parents dont want to start understanding the world from a more grown up perspective but more that they are afraid what the world can do to their sweet lil girl. dont tell your mom that you currently have a boyfriend but do tell her that there is a guy you like and see if he can come over for dinner one night. your parents are afraid of the unknown its not that they dont trust you. they are just scared. as they should be, they are parents and thats their job. i would just sit mom or dad down.. who ever is more easy to talk to about this. or if not do you have any cool aunts that live near by? see if you cant go over there. that way the boy isnt scared off by looming mom and dad but instead can still be supervised just under a calmer setting. understand? any more and e-mail me. just a cyber-big bro to help.

Answer 5

Just be like mom, I know how your standards are and I take that into consideration. Ive been having these feelings and its something i can't control this boy really cares about me and we have been friends for a lnog time. I want you to be understanding that I like him too. He wanted me to do the right thing and ask you if we can go out. Hes very nice and respectful and he wouldnt do anything to hurt me. So can you please understand that im getting older and really want to date.

Answer 6

Hey girl!
Well first off, i am 13 years old too.
I think if you truelly like him then go behind ur moms bakk and date him. if he seriously is gonna tell ur mom then lie to him and tell him u told her.
But love is something worth fighting for and never let anyone get in the way of that no matter what they say. And like the other girl said, "YOU GO GIRL!!!!!"

Answer 7

well... i'm 15. and i was not able to date, but i was able to walk around in the mall with my bf, but i also had to have a friend with me. what i think u should do, is have a sit doen talk with her, and tell her that u know u cant date, but ask her if mabey u could walk around the mall with him and a friend, and tell her that u are 13, and u think u are old enough and mature enough to do something like this.... i did exactly what i am telling u now, and it worked! good luck!

Answer 8

why did you do it again in the first place? now every things gonna be screwed up and you'll have to break up... just say you got your first kiss and that you want to go out with the guy and your mom may feel happy for you or whatever

Answer 9

I think dat you should just sit down wit your mom and explain to her dat you can handle a boyfriend and skoolwork at tha same time.........By showing her you can it means to keep ur grades up and dont let him distract you but yall can still talk after everything important iz done...........If your mom doesn't lyke dat idea I think you should have enough respect for ur mom's choices to break up wit him and not sneak around..........GUD LUCK, and consider this advice from a sis..........you can e-mail me any time at [e-mail]

Answer 10

hi,
i hv been through this before. It happened to me near 7 years ago when i was 14(a yr older than u) my family was very strict towards me esp due to R/S. I am not allow to hv a date or nt even a guy fren to go out with. But, i got to know this man who is 2years older than me. We know each other (the guy n me) through my classmates, we started chit chatting secretly on the home phone (bcoz i do not hv a cell phone). I am the one calling him bcoz i cant afford to let him know my hm no. incase he happened to call n my family will know. This kind of life/ R/S hv went through for abt 1 n 1/2 years before i agreed to meet him for the 1st TIME! We met up and find that its ok.. fine.. and he finally voice out that he wans me to be his gf. I do not agree as i was only ard 16? My family definitely wont allow. But he said he will wait for me.. can u imagine, till now, we only met each other for less than 5 times and its hv been like 6 years already!! he wait for me for 4 years and recently got himself a gf.. as we lost contact for the past couple of years. This is wat i called.. "true love" and he will wait for u no matter wat. Till now, i still hate myself for being too obedient at that point of time and ended up i lost the person whom i love. I shld hv just go for it all the way(as long as u know wat u r doing and do not do WRONG thing..) I guess we (the guy n me) shld be even more lovely to each other.. or maybe we already married!! haha.. gal, think wat u wan and all the way. Do not regret, do not turn back. Show ur mum that u know wat u wan n make her trust u n that guy.