i was with my ex for 16months some good times some bad but i feel like i cant let go!!! this new man has a good career an seems really keen but i dnt want to hurt my exs feelings can anybody help me?????
2006-11-25 09:38:51 · 20 answers · asked by sharon h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NEVER GO BACK ALWAYS GO FORWARD, IT ONLY WORKS OUT FOR A SHORT TIME, AND YOU ARE BACK TO SQUARE ONE......even if it doesn't work out with this man , there will be lots more............just enjoy yourself, life is toooooo short to let anyone bog you down.
2006-11-25 09:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Let me tell you from experience. When you can't let go of an ex it is because you don't want to or you feel partly responsible for the relationship not working out. Well, you have to learn to forgive yourself for whatever part that you shared it in not working and then you move on. You already know what the old flame is about and people don't change only circumstances do so if I were you I would go for the new man. If you don't you may regret it later.
2006-11-25 09:43:49 · answer #2 · answered by Sexcchick 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
choose. one or the other
someone new..who you can build up memories with.
or your ex who has memories but also broke your heart. i think youre hung up over your ex anyway as the main quality you write about the new bloke is his career...which implies that your looking for security and stability..something the ex possibly didnt provide you and you also care abpout hurting the exes feelings implying you still like him..yep i make one lousy shrink but you know what if you love your ex you should find that out whether you do or dont and what he thinks back as you will always be thinking what if you dont do that
but if you know deep down he isnt the one - banish the demons - do what you have to do such as a final meeting etc and move on.
but if he is the one let him know that if you want to you can move on and if he can provide you wit what you need ask yourself whther he is worth taking back - he is your ex for a reason, but everyones reason is different
keep in mind moving on is NOT looking back so deal with anything that may ear its ugly head in the future NOW girl.
2006-11-25 09:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by DesertRose 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hi this is a hard one you have had good times with the old one but could have better times with the new one. Who dumped who if he dumped you then thats his lost and the other mans gain dont worry about hurting the old one if he dump you because some times men do this so they can have a fling and not feel bad. If you dumped him then why go back cos there must be your reasons for doing it in the first place. Any way take care and be cool.
2006-11-25 09:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by frozone1 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Depends how old you are..
As women get older they realise their true needs. Invariably these "true feelings" are that women want a "provider", i.e. money.
What women want is a mix of both, they want "love/lust" of a fit, fun type of man, but they want the security of a slightly boring yet "solvent" man.
This is why so many married/taken women have s l u t t y affairs. They marry the "safe bet", but the sex is naff and they are boring, so they have an affair with a "fun/sexy" guy to make them feel young and "free" again.
The decision to be made is based on your age and what you want, are you ready to settle down with Mr Safe?
2006-11-25 09:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by Im a killer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Which could you love for the next 40 years, I think if you have feelings for this ex its best not to drag the new guy into it because you could cheat when you are feeling low, just make sure you decide and cut ties with the other forever!
2006-11-25 12:01:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
your ex is your ex for whatever reason u and your ex didn't get on in the end it is sometimes better to move on and set up a new relationship with a new partner.....
...although some exs do get on better the 2nd time around it all depends on wot u want only u can answer the question
best way to answer is deep down what do you want and who do u think is likely to give it to you
2006-11-25 09:53:17 · answer #7 · answered by ck 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He is your ex for a reason. remember that! Move on, be friends with the new guy, and have some fun. Just tell your ex, that you want to move on with your life, and that you wish him all the best.
2006-11-25 09:43:12 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think that because you have doubts about your ex, you need to move on, at least for now. Tell your ex you still are not ready to make a full committment to him other than friendship and that you want to date someone. Good luck.
2006-11-25 09:42:31 · answer #9 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
move on! u broke up 4 a reason so its usually best not to go back. try this new guy out & if it doesn,t work then if ur ex really loved u he,ll still be waiting
2006-11-25 09:43:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋