I asked another question a while ago and in one of the reponses a guy talked about this. So my thought is maybe promiscuity in a person shows that they have a certain level of confidence and a feeling of freedom to express themselves with others, at least in many cases. So now are the rest of us who arn't promiscuos just not confident or are we just more introverted?
2006-11-25 09:34:42 · 20 answers · asked by InvicibleStar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, quite the opposite. It means that the person is VERY insecure and is simply looking for someone to love them.. even for a short time.
2006-11-25 09:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by Audio God™ 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Promiscuity can come from either low self esteem or high self esteem or just because a person is plain horny. You can't just rationalize that all promiscious people are confident or are not confident. This is what is wrong with the world, PRE JUDGEMENT. Get to know a person before you judge them. Everyone does things for different reasons. I was very promiscious and it was because I enjoy my body, I enjoy other's bodies, I enjoy intimacy and the feel of a man. I could have been in a relationship but choose not to at that point in my life. Sex is a beautiful thing and it is so enjoyable - - when done right and safely, why deny yourself that pleasure.
As far as the people who are NOT promiscious, it could be for a number of reasons, only that person could know the reason. I have a friend that loves sex but never has sex with guys because she is afraid of them thinking she is a slut, but yet her true nature is one of wanting to share herself, I think the reason she can't get a guy is because she doesn't ever let her TRUE self show through, she hides her love of sex because she is afraid of being judged...the man in turn gets a feeling of a "front" being put up and he bolts. You have to be true to yourself no matter what and not worry of what other people say or think, as long as you are not hurting anyone, the problem is with the other people who have prejudeged and put a label on the promiscious or either non-promiscious person.
2006-11-25 09:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. You are looking at the symptom, not the problem.
Promiscuity can be an indicator of high confidence and sense of expression, but it can also be an indicator of low self esteem (seeking to find it through sex).
It's much like a light being off: The switch could just be off, which is a good thing because that means it is working as it should. The bulb could also be burned out which is a bad thing. One symptom alone will not answer your question.
2006-11-25 09:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by Aegis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only some people who are promiscuous are confident and comfortable with their sexuality. Others are seeking acceptance from others, some have low self esteem and having sex is their way of feeling special or important, some may have been abused when they are younger so they see their self worth through sex.
There is no universal explanation to a person's sexuality.
2006-11-25 09:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by misskate12001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Promiscuity can be for different reasons. Most people will not like my answer but I believe that people who are promiscuous are so because they look good and can have a lot of sex. Let's face it, people like sex. It feels good and we have a desire to bond with people. What better way to achieve this? I do not have a problem with people who have sex with different people except for the fact that most people have it not for the benefit of others but for their own pleasure. If they had sex for because they saw a wonderful human being who deserved to have it, then many more lonely people would not be so lonely.
I do not know that it is confidence per se as much as it is a desire to acquire as many pleasurable experiences that they can. It is no mistake that there is a LARGE number of people whoengage in threesomes, orgies, swinging, etc, etc. Also, many people who have it one on one will have it with many other people one on one.
2006-11-25 09:41:19 · answer #5 · answered by James 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
VERY confident and have a healthy sexual identity without all that nonsense the Religious Right tries to brainwash into other people.
Like all the people above who are just regurgitating all the crap that the religious groups have been beating into them.
If you are secure in yourself, and do not feel shame, or guilt, or any of the other stereotypes that society wants to label you, you will be much happier being able to express yourself.
2006-11-25 09:37:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, in fact, it tends to be the opposite. Women, at least, tend to be more promiscuous when they feel that they need to have sex with a guy in order for the guy to be interested in them. More self-confident women will only have sex if and when she wants to and is darn good and ready, and if the guy doesn't like it, too bad for them.
2006-11-25 09:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would seem like that, but in fact people who are promiscuous have deep psychological problems. They were often traumatized in childhood. Sex is all about winning for them and it is all about them, not their partners. This isolated and frightened ego builds a fantasy world of desirability around what is, essentially, a stunted and immature personality that can not have adult relationships.
2006-11-25 09:38:24 · answer #8 · answered by Isis 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think that they are promiscuous because the are insecure and feel that the only way to be liked is to give out the goods.
2006-11-25 09:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think it's the opposite. I think people who are promiscuous have lower self esteem. They are always with someone new because they don't think anyone would really like them for who they are and that kind of stuff.
2006-11-25 09:36:50 · answer #10 · answered by DressageGal 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋