a guy was flirting with my gf, a few weeks ago ..since that moment on, she is very distant with me and have excluded me from her activities, she wanted to spend more time with the other guy ...she doesn't return me my calls anymore, and she was very cold and brief with me when I speak to her ..she keeps on telling me about the other guy ..and compare him to me ..after a while, she told me she feels better with that guy ..and that was the moment, I decided to leave her ...but, after that decision, she wanted to keep friendship with me, and beg me to not hate her and don't disappear from her life .... Do you think it was , what she really wanted ? she wanted me to leave her , so she can be more comfortable with the other guy ..? if she wants to stay my friend , do you think I should talk to her like a friend now and then or not ..?
I must say, since I am acting as her friend she seems pretty cool as before now ..!! what is the best strategy to apply here?
2006-11-25 09:33:21 · 11 answers · asked by bobby s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let it go. If you feel like you can be her friend and not expect anything else, be her friend. If not, move on.
Good luck.
2006-11-25 09:36:43 · answer #1 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stated that the title to the property is in the ex-GF's name, however you did not mention whether or not you signed the mortgage note or any other debt instruments. If you signed both the mortgage and the note or even just the note, you are obligated jointly and severally on the mortgage indebtedness. Apparently there were not writings to memorialize the transaction. The Statute of Frauds requires all agreements with respect to real estate to be in writing. It appears that you are not legally obligated to continue to contribute toward the expense of the mortgage or other expenses related to the house. Under the Law of Equity, there is a possibility that you may be able to recoup some of the money that you advanced toward the purchase of the property. However, Equity jurispudence is complex, and you are best advised to hire a lawyer to guide you.
2016-05-23 02:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would move on with my life,and begin a new one. It appears your "ex gf" was looking for a way to end your relationship and the other guy had "perfect timing" which may have been better for your own benefit that you know right now. I would be polite to her when I see her out and about,but as for being her "friend",I wouldn't,but that is me. She didn't take too long to "change her sheets" so let her lay in that bed,and you go and find yourself a more comfy one. Good luck.......hope it works out for you in the future.
2006-11-25 09:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by grbarnaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say she probably really likes you as a person and maybe dating you was a way to get you closer, but after dating she realized that you were just better off friends.. she might have used that guy as an excuse to get out, but then again she might have just wanted out and she didn't know any other way because she truely does like you, but doesn't see you as more then that "a friend".. i would let her try to keep your friendship alive, that way you'll know what the truth was behind her ways. good luck to you and best wishes..
2006-11-25 09:38:25 · answer #4 · answered by ~broken~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as if she has moved on, but wants to still string you along. So you move on too! find you someone who will want only you. You can still speak, and all to her, but you do not have to call her all the time. Find you some new friends to hang out with. Forget her! You will find someone, start having some fun!
2006-11-25 09:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough situation, my advice to you is to hurt her as bad as she hurt you. if you got really hurt by what she did to you then hurt her the same way, you could do this by getting a new girl and being really touchy-feely with her around your ex-gf, if you don't want to hurt her then just be friends with her but if you think that you'll develop feelings for her again then stay away from her. if she asks you why you can't be friends with her tell her you're afraid that you're gonna have feelings for her again...just be honest
good luck, i hope this helped
2006-11-25 09:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think she wanted to remain friends to let you down easier, she knew you would probably be hurt because she moved on before you did.I would give her space and maybe call her every once in a while to say hi, or even wait for her to call you.
2006-11-25 09:37:11 · answer #7 · answered by joker:P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to stay "friends" just in case things dont work out with this other guy. She wants a backup. She got you to dump her so that she could go out with another guy........dont you think you deserve better than that?? I dont even know you and I think you deserve better than that.
I will tell you what I tell other people in similar situations.......you deserve someone who wants to be with YOU, someone who wants to call YOU, someone who wants to kiss YOU!!
Someone who is looking for someone better.....isnt looking for YOU!!! MOVE ON!!!
P.S. Since she got you to dump her........she isnt the bad guy, but
she should be........so MOVE ON
2006-11-25 09:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it sounds like thats what she wanted. i would keep on being friends with her if thats what you want but if it makes you feel weird than you dont have to. im am friends with my ex bf and we have a pretty cool relationship, i go to him when i need help and he comes to me so it defiantly can work.
2006-11-25 09:39:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN in the opposite direction from where she is! And stay there!
2006-11-25 09:38:20 · answer #10 · answered by Topez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋