Does sex hurt if its your first time .. please help my wedding is in one week?

Question

Hello, Im worried about having sex (wedding night) for the first time as I heard that it hurts? What would you compare the pain too? Please be honest. If it hurts too much I may have to abstain for awhile. Im really sensitive to pain and am really worried. People say to use lubricant .. but if it hurts I wouldnt be able to go through with it...

I dont know if it would be worth the pain. I am the kind of person who avoids pain of any sort including injections ect.. I do love my husband though and am in an tough situation. Hes italian and a very passionate man .. and I love him.

Answer 1

First of all, congrats on your wedding! And also congrats for remaining a virgin until then...such a rarity these days. :)

It does hurt a little the first time. It's more pressure than pain. As long you and your hubby are patient and takes things gently you should be okay. Bleeding the first time is normal, but don't freak out about it. Just put down an extra blanket. Making love to your husband is an incredible experience...just try to enjoy it.

Another word to the wise....the pressure to make love for the very first time at the end of that long, pretty stressful day is a little intense. I would definitely sit down with your hubby-to-be and discuss your concerns.

Also, I highly suggest Astroglide lubricant. :-)

Good luck! I wish you a wonderful marriage.

Answer 2

First thing relax. it is not that bad and if your husband has anything going for him at all you won't mind it one bit.

Now Im gonna tell you a secret. Relax because the more you tense up the more it might hurt but many women have sex for the first time without any sort of pain at all. If you are really worried abut this here's a trick. Get some ora-gel, or ambasol, some sort of toothache gel, GEL OR AN OINTMENT, NEVER NEVER THE LIQUID OR YOU WILL BE SO SORRY CAUSE THAT BURNS.
but get some of this on your finger and rub it around the opening of your vagina. It will help to stop what ever pain but more importantly once you have done this you will feel a lot more relaxed and stop worrying about it which is what is really gonna help. Its a lot more fun than you think right now. You love him, don't worry and Congratulations.

Answer 3

First Time Sex Wedding

Answer 4

I've looked at your questions, and you keep asking this, over, and over. Then, you ask about handsome male actors. Do you just make up this crap to hear about wedding night BS ???? Start asking new questions, this one is getting OLD .......~~~~ Here's your answer to who you'd most like to f...K

1) Adrian Grenier from Entourage and the devil wears prada
2) Hugh Jackman .. Kate and Leopold and X1,2,3
3) Clooney .. I know hes old but hes still hot as hell!!
4) Orlando Bloom .. Love him as Will turner in pirates
5) Adrian Brody .. king kong
6) Raoul Bova .. Italian from under the tuscan sun
7) Rodger Fedder .. tennis star
8) Anyone from the italian soccer team
9) Christiano Ronaldo the portuguese soccer star


There you go I would be busy lol

I guess your wedding night panic attack is just a ploy for attention. BORING

Answer 5

some good replies to your question.
YES - it can hurt -but usually the "pain" lasts for a VERY short time (minute maybe); having said this however- if you are tensed & worrying about the experience then you body will try to reject your partner entering it & so increase the pain.
as someone else stated - too many people expect to make love on their wedding night - when in reality they may just be too tired from the excitement & pressure of the day & the best thing to do then is just to go to sleep in each others arms.then when you wake up you can begin the process of love making with lots of caresses all over the body ( both of you doing this) ; lots of kisses;take things SLOW & gentle & your vagina should become lubricated enough to accept pentration. you will know yourself when you are ready for this ; but your husband should still move slowly to allow you time to adjust to the new sensations happening in your body
as with childbirth no-one can really tell you what the pain or the experience will be like for you as it differs for everyone.
if I can remember back that far - for me it was ** OH** please keep going.
if you do start to feel any pain then ask your partner to stop his movement for a moment till you feel ready to continue; he does not need to withdraw his penis from you; just stay still
DO sit down with your fiance & talk to him about this NOW- tell him your concerns & then you can work things out together.
also see if you can get some books that you can read together- even from your local library.
the act of sex can be a wonderful experience when shared by two people who love & care for each other & take the time to enjoy the experience

Answer 6

If you get turned on, you'll be more lubed up for sex. Use lube if you are afraid. It only hurts a little, no big deal. You could always get a dildo and practice. The more sex you have the less it'll hurt. Trust me, with pain in life, having sex is the one that hurts the least. Remember, giving birth is supposed to be excruciating. Just be glad you don't have to do that.

Answer 7

Really it's not like a pain your thinking of its more pressure than anything. Not a sharp pain or bad pain. Just a lot of pressure, not to relate to gas or anything, but sorta, kinda like that presure, but it's somewhere else. Really it's not a pain you can't handle. He will be slow, he knows just let him love you. Start out with foreplay don't let him just jump in. The more foreplay the more ready "it" will be for the action! Their is a reason for foreplay! Congrats on the wedding! I wish you both a long and happy life!

Hear is your phobia
Virginity, losing one's- Primeisodophobia.

Answer 8

I'm sorry to say your husband is going to be REALLY annoyed if you don't give him sex just because it hurts the first time.

It's different for everyone. Use lube, make sure he is gentle and takes his time, possibly try starting out with fingers just to relax you. It helps if you orgasm first too, to get your own body ready for it since his certainly will be. If you stress out and tense up it will hurt worse, so don't think about it. It's inevitable, and worth it once you get past that first time.

Answer 9

Stomach cramps are more than likely caused from stress. You are worried you are going to get pregnant therefore the stomach cramps is your bodys way of letting you know you are stressing. Also a woman who is under a lot of stress will usually have trouble conceiving anyhow. I would wait a few more days IF you are really concerned go to your nearest Planned Parenthood you can get in for free and have a pregnancy test done. I would suggest also getting put on the pill!

Answer 10

Yes it does, but just tell your husband to take it slow. Use some KY and relax. The more you fret about the pain, the worse it will be because your body will be very tense.

Remember, this is a special time for you and your husband. It's the joining of two people into one. Focus on how much you love your new husband instead.