I have my suspicions that a child I know may be being...?

Question

sexually abused.I have heard she is adopted.There was another child in the home who had died before I came to live here.I have heard screams coming from the house,the girl was shouting leave me alone,just let me die,just let me die.I heard it when I was just about to take my dogs for a walk a few months back.I stood stunned waiting for someone else to appear,but nobody did.The cries went on for what seamed ages and then stopped.I see her out playing ,she is always dressed like a boy in football attire,the father is an ardent football fan and when she talks to me,it's always about the team she supports.I've never once seen her in a dress or anything girlie.I felt guilty doing nothing before.Last night,I did'nt, but my brother heard the girls cries again.I've been told he did have another child of 4 in the bath with this girl last year.He's really strange.I dont' want to accuse wrongly.But the thought this child may be being sexually abused is unbearable,what shall I do,I could be wrong!

As I have said he is really strange,his teeth are aweful and when I have spoken to him, he is very evasive,it's obvious he and the wife don't get along,and both times she has been out and the girl has been alone with the father.The little girl of 4 who I talked about being bathed by him last year came from a bad family,as the mother was an alcoholic,she did nothing about her little girl ending up in the bath,but I've been told she was totally drunk that day and just took her home. If I'm wrong and I accuse this man of abuse I could break the whole family up,but if I'm right, I will never forgive myself for not doing something to help her. Is there anyone out there who has reported a similar case, or anyone who works for childline who can give me advice as to what do do?

Answer 1

You ABSOLUTELY must tell someone. The fact that you've heard screams like that is a serious worry. There could, of course, be a totally innocent explanation, but you must not risk it.

Call the NSPCC's helpline. They'll take the info (you can stay anonymous) and refer it to the right people. Please don't hesitate.

Answer 2

You need to report this immediately. If something happens to this girl, it's going to be on your conscience. Children are helpless and they have to depend on adults for everything. Go to her school and tell her principal, call child protective services (the number is in the blue pages of your phone book), call the police when the child is screaming, do what ever it takes to get someone's attention. Something has got to be happening for a child to be screaming to die. If a previous child died in this home under mysterious circumstances, you can't take any chances with the same thing happening to a second child. At this point you can't worry about being wrong. What you're doing is saving a child.

Answer 3

This is a sticky situation. If you accuse wrongly, then you will obviously face a big mess. But what if something is happening, and no one ever steps forward? Sometimes however there is something severely wrong with the child. I saw this on an episode of Law and Order: SVU, it's the exact thing you just said, including saying "let me die, let me die". It turned out something was wrong with the girl not the parents. But still, what if something really bad happens to this little girl, and you could have stopped it?

Answer 4

The same thing happened to me, I lived in a flat for about 2 months and I once heard the little boy screaming like really screaming and I told one of the girls in the flat about it and she said she had met his mother and she was funny with her like she didn't even want to know and I found the same when I met her. Any-way I regret now not doing anything if that is any help, I am sure you could report annon but be careful...

Answer 5

This is very difficult, because of several things. Children in foster/adoptive homes, specially if foster/adopted later in life tend to have a difficult time adjusting to their surroundings and try to cause as much disturbance as possible. The first thing that you should do is tell someone at your school what you and your brother have heard coming from the house, like a school counslor or one of your teachers that you trust. If no action is taken than the next time you or your brother hear it call the police and file a noise complaint. If you talk to her often enough than she may start to feel comfortable enough to disclose information to you about what is happening to her. Good luck and remember that you can only do what is safe for you to do, maybe even you and your brother talking to your parents about what you are hearing and sking them to take action.

Answer 6

this is an unlucky incident and that i'm sorry. inspite of the undeniable fact that, you ought to remember 2 issues: first, she did carry out the service you gotten smaller her to accomplish (below the table or no longer). 2nd, you're no longer likely particular what occurred. nonetheless what you describe is popular habit whilst a newborn has been traumatized, it rather isn't any longer evidence that she spanked or otherwise assaulted him. which you need to to ask her first. She could or will possibly no longer tell the certainty. yet till you have surely evidence of an attack--and thank God you do no longer--it would be very complicated to have that arise in court docket.

Answer 7

You have no proof, and you didn't say how old the girl is. You can ruin lives by pointing fingers and today you're guilty in spite of being proven innocent - It brings to mind the witch hunts of old. Leave this situation alone unless you get some real proof. He could have been stopping her from taking pills, or cutting or who knows and your over active imagination could ruin lives.

Answer 8

Call the cops!!! The police will not tell the neighbors who called.
If nothing strange is going on, no harm done. If a little girl is being abused you can and SHOULD call the police so they can put a stop to it. You may save her life.

Answer 9

Report him!
He is evil! Nobody should ever touch a child like that. You must do what is in your heart. Sure, you will break up the family, but wherever those kids go must be better than that living hell.
Good luck, darl!
Nail the bastard!

Answer 10

I cant believe that your that concerned, your askin on here...You need 2 report these incidents immediately & if your wrong it will be proved but...if your right you have helped the child.

Now get of the computer & do somthing constructive!!