The other child is a neighbor who has behavioral issues, yet their parents really "put on a production" including a stretch limo and a trip to a concert. When our own daughter's 9th birthday party shortly came around, she just wanted a small group (5) of friends from her school that she picked herself. Things were going great until the other child's mother confronted our child's party and asked them to "go inside" due to the pyschologocial torment that could be caused to her little miscreant. She went on to rail at our 9-year old daughter about how disappointed she was in her mother (my wife) who had "excluded" her daughter. Her daughter can really be quite difficult -- mean, actually. Looking back, we probably should have graciously declined the other's invite, but our daughter is very social, and it was hard to say "no." It seems to me that the neighbor Mom's protective instincts for her daughter cause her to ignore bad behavior and punish us all. Where did we go wrong?
2006-11-25 09:25:20 · 13 answers · asked by Brad 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Seems like the daughter learned her bad-behavior at home. Of course, you already knew this - they are your neighbors.
Your original mistake, as you know, was accepting the invitation to the Big Event from your neighbor. Failing that, your next mistake was having a party in view of your neighbor, without reciprocating. This was correctly viewed as a slight.
Your neighbor erred by a) crashing your party and b) involving your daughter. She should have taken it up with you after the party was over.
2006-11-25 09:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm...he should invite every boy in the class but I don't think he would need to invite all the girls too! That is just ridiculous that it has made it as far as parliament. I'm pretty sure that boy didn't like those two kids, which is presumably why he "forgot" to invite those two children. The bigger the class is, the harder it is to include everyone. The child may only want to invite his or her closest friends. There is such a thing, you know, as mailing the invitations instead of giving them out at school. That just hurts other kid's feelings and etc. That happened to me so many times when I was in grade school, and sometimes I went home crying because another girl had handed out invitations to everyone else but me. To prevent this from happening, the child should just mail invitations. Hope that helps you!
2016-05-23 02:15:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Your daughter picked who she wanted to come, if the neighbor doesn't like it, then that's too bad. There's no reason why your daughter should invite someone just because they're little bratty jerks(you can see where she gets it from)... You shouldn't accpet any invitations from them either, that child is a bad influence and your daughter does NOT need the stress, you guys don't need the stress.
Don't even bother with them, there's no point
2006-11-25 09:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the neighbor mom puts on productions because its clear her daughter has no friends and she is trying to buy friendships for her child. As a parent it was your duty to confront the neighbor and inform her that your daughter does not have to cater to her daughter and that she is never to speak to your daughter about your wife. Then tell her if she ever tries bullying your daughter again you will call the police.
2006-11-25 09:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't go wrong at all. this is not your fault. the girl sounds terrible, and i know who she gets it from too! for a mother to rail on a 9 year old is disgraceful! The best thing to do would probably be just tell her that you wanted to keep the party small this year, and that the girls have been going they're seperate ways lately. you might want to have your daughter tell the girl the same thing, and hopefully the girl will understand. otherwise, that's one less person to worry about for christmas cards! just kidding.
good luck!
2006-11-25 09:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way in hell I would have allowed the mother of that bratty, spoiled little girl to "rail" at my daughter. At that point, that mother's behind would have been mine.
Like mother, like daughter. This little kid AND her mother should be nowhere in sight for your daughter's 10th birthday party. Being polite has it's place, but not to the point where you allow yourself (and those you love) to be mistreated.
2006-11-25 09:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by loveblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents don't discipline their kids enough these days. You shouldn't associate with people like this, they think that giving their kids all they want will appease them and prevent their children from going wild. But much like an addict, their kids will always want more if you keep spoiling them. Like the first guy said rotten kids do become rotten adults fast.
I believe Benjamin Franklin said, "Let the first lesson you teach your child be obedience, and the second whatever you wish."
2006-11-25 09:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by mare0705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first concern rightly was you daughter, it was her special day.I find the other child's mother to be quite rude, the only explanation if ask was that you had put a limit on the number of children your child could invite.
2006-11-25 09:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by pepsiolic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have done the same thing. I would not want the little heathen terrorizing my daughter or her guests either. Besides, your daughter picked the people she wanted at her party. On top of that, it was INCREDIBLY inappropriate for the mother to harrass your daughter.
2006-11-25 09:35:18 · answer #9 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the kids behavior is because of her parents spoiling her rotten. Bratty kids turn into really bad adults most of the time.
You should keep your kid away from these weirdo neighbors.
2006-11-25 09:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋