My boyfriend broke up with me and i can't get over him...what should i do?

Question

it's been a month since my bf broke up with me and i'm still struggling through this breakup because i loved him, well actually i still do love him which is why it's so hard to get over him...i think he will always be a part of me no matter what but how can i move on with my life? what should i do? should i talk to him? he said when he broke up with me that he still wants to be friends but i can't handle JUST being friends with him cause ever since i met him i liked him so i've NEVER been JUST friends with him..when he told me he still wants to be friends i said i can't handle being friends with him. what should i do? everything reminds me of him i still have the corsage he gave me when we went to his semi-formal and i have it in my room and whenever i look at it i can't help but think of him and cry. the first time he kissed me the song Lips of an Angel was playing on the radio and whenever i hear it he's all i think about i really need your help! please no mean or rude answers!

Answer 1

just keep on living...someone new will come along

Answer 2

Been there done that.I'm sorry you feel that way.
Well first you need to have a cleansing Get rid of this crap. Actually no, don't. Stuff in all in a box, and shove it somewhere. Someday you will be cleaning, and you'll find it, and you'll look back at with nostalgia.
Be social. Go out even when its the last thing you want to do. Throw yourself into your hobbies and interests.
Thats what I did, and I ended up with a passion for something that changed my life, and now whatever is going on in my life I can go do it, and feel better. I would have never discovered this hobby/career if I had not had my heart broken. So you never know. Beautiful things can grow out of rubble.
Its kind of an old album but have you ever heard the friends song from the Cake FashionNugget CD? Sounds applicable to your situation.
For me, coming for you
Friend is a four letter word
End is the only part of the word
That is I heard
Call me morbid and obsurd.....
Good song anyway

Answer 3

Oh darlin, I know exactly how you feel! The exact same thing happened to me, when I was in my early twenties. I loved (notice the PAST tense) him so much that my world fell apart when I discovered that he didn't feel the same way. I was physically sick for months and everywhere I looked I saw him (in my head). Since then I have been with a few other men, even married one of them but there has never been one like that first one. If I saw him again I dont know what I'd do. But that's not really a possibilty I don't think.
What should you do? Well, when I eventually stopped crying and throwing up, I just had to push it all behind me and that, love, is what you must do. I know you think you're dying right now, but it will all get better with time. It will never be totally out of your mind, but it will get much easier. I'm so sorry, love.

Answer 4

I am so sorry that you are going through this heartache. Breaking up is never an easy thing and you are now going through the pain of withdrawal from someone you loved. I know that this is a cliche, but time will heal. You will love again although I am sure you would find this difficult to believe feeling as you do.
Here is something you can try to do: First, although he wants to remain friends, I think it would be painful for you to just be friends at this point. Best to pull back. Don't allow yourself to dwell too heavily on him because you will just suffer. When you feel yourself focusing your thoughts on him, tell yourself...STOP and try to distract yourself. Do things that get you out and thinking about other friends or meeting other people. Also, you might want to keep a little journal so that you can track your progress each day. Allow one time during the day where you sit, reflect on him and write down your thoughts. This will be therapeutic for you. In time, trust me, you will be feeling better. Tell yourself, it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved.

Answer 5

First of all, anyone who thinks that they could be friends after a break up....well, it just doesn't work that way. You should talk to him. Let him know how you feel about the whole situation, don't let him gang up on you and blame you for anything either. Stand up for yourself. Don't back down from him, cause like most guys he's gonna think he's all that cause he broke up with you. If he still refuses to see things your way, however, let him know that it will be a long time, if at all, before you can be friends with him again.

Answer 6

breaking up is one of lifes harshest things. there is really no cure for this other than time. time will soften the pain, truly it will.

What you NEED to do, to help yourself move forward is; put away the items that remind you of him, put them in a box and hide in somewhere in the house, or have someone else hide it for you, turn the station when those songs play. Tell him that you would like to be friends, but that you need time to get to that point, and you will let him know when that is. Until you are comfortable being in his company, stay away from him.

I hope you mend soon.

Answer 7

well you need to let yourself cry and eat a gallon of ice cream and not want to get out of bed, but after that you need to get out there and hang out with friends and go to the mall and ultimately move on. i kno that break ups can be very difficult but after a certain amount of time u need to start taking steps in the right direction and i am sure you will move on. you may need to wait a while until you get back into the dating scene, but in time, you will recover and he will know that he lost someone special. Good Luck and i hope that things work out for you

Answer 8

I was in the same place before. First find someone else you like and flirt all girls are good at that. If you and another guy are going out be friends with him so he doesn't think you need him. You need him to know you are strong. You need to believe in yourself. When ever you see him try to avoid him. AVOID AVOID AVOID. believe me it really works. Get a new boyfriend and try to move on and a week is hard to get over him. I know it is very hard to do so please try to get over him it will be good as long as you try.

Answer 9

get rid of the corsage. I had to relationships similar to this. I tried so hard to get them off my mind when we broke up but it seemed like it would never happen. So I got out of the house, I hung out with my friends more, I stayed busy constantly and I also hung out with other guys (but I felt bad bc it felt as though I was using them but I really wasn't, I just needed them to get my mind off 'him'-if you get my flow). So don't think about him as much (at all).

Answer 10

Time will take care of the hurt. Just go on your life without thinking too much and someone new will come into the picture. You will get over it over time.

BTW...Ice Cream and Comedies help in the early days

Answer 11

ok i didnt even read all of this but i know your problem exactly.. this happend to me .. i cryed and i cryed and i cryed.. like *** .. we didnt even go out for long only 2 or 3 months ..and i thought i loved him.. that sh!t was bullsh!t.. ugh! i cant believe how stupid i was.. but my point is that you will get over him soon trust me and you will realize that he wasnt worth ****..but just try not to listen to any music that reminds you of him.. do what i did.. burn every little thing he gave to you.. just throw it in your chimney.. and then sooner or later that right man will come to you.. that one that you know is perfect for you in everyway.. your best friend.. your everything.. and you will know trust me..


i hope i helped