because tonight I have discovered the extent taht a supposedly devout member of the Catholic church lied to me. I have composed an e mail confronting the person with my knowledge. We were in a relationship. Do I post it or not?
I have been very forceful in the mail and stated I wish that thought given to the consequences of playing with another persons mind.
2006-11-25 09:11:20 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I imagine you feel quite betrayed at the moment. The fact that you are waiting to send this mail is interesting, though. I think that if you wait a couple of days, you might find yourself able to think a little more clearly. Be patient, and you will be able to answer your own question.
2006-11-25 22:28:37 · answer #1 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what they did. You christians can be very judgemental and narrow minded.Many set high expectations of others while not really meeting their standards themselves.
Hold back a minute and look in the mirror. Could it be possible that you contributed in some way to their actions. If you still intend to go ahead, be sure of the consequences of your actions and that you are not doing it out of anger. Then if you still intend to do it, don't email, be a man, do it face to face.
2006-11-25 09:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by Nemesis 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its best to just put your feelings down on paper then tear it up, that way you have vented your anger and got it off your chest so as to speak, the person who its aimed at will never have the benefit of the doubt, move on from it as hard as it feels right now, you are a better person than them and will only be as shallow as them if you send the mail, good luck.
2006-11-25 09:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whatever floats your boat. You won't be even speaking to each other if you do mail it. If you can handle that then fine. If it relates to a church matter then why don't you find a mediator who can help you work through the problems. Everybody lies at some point in their lives even church members. Maybe they had a reason for doing so.
Go with a mediator is my suggestion see if you can work through this.
2006-11-25 09:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by lollipoppett2005 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is unclear to get a good idea of what the problem is based on the info at hand. However, biblicaly you should confront the accused and try to resolve the matter. If that doesn't work - you should then bring it to the elders/leaders in your church to try to find a resolution to your conflict.
2006-11-25 09:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by Stiletto ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront the individual and allow them a chance to explain. Then sit back and pray about what you should say to them or what your next move should be. Do not say anything that you cannot take back. Often words spoken in anger are the cruelest ones. You should never be afraid to speak your mind but use caution and wisdom when dealing with someone who is important to you.
2006-11-25 09:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
email is not the proper media for confrontation when one is in a "relationship". The lie does need to be exposed, however, and the proper form is vocal; on the phone or in person.
Please understand that even "devout" people are not perfect. I am not condoning the lying, but simply reminding you that we all "come short", and will be judged accordingly.
Good luck and God Bless
2006-11-25 09:17:20 · answer #7 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What you need to think is, are the consequences of sending this going to be positive or negative? To yourself that is.
Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is, write a letter, a proper letter, on paper, to whoever it is. Get all your feelings out, all your grievances. Then burn the letter. It can really help to get closure on whatever the issues are.
2006-11-25 09:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by Jude 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Posting it where? If you have a problem with a clergy member, you need to talk to their superior, and DO NOT BE SILENT - but do not spread gossip. Continue to report it until action is taken. If it is just a member of the congregation, confront them in love. Tell them they have hurt you. If they ask for forgiveness, give it freely, but they should know about their actions and how they have wronged you. I would not, however, gossip about it with anyone. You can talk to your clergy and ask them for help in resolving the issue as well.
2006-11-25 09:17:41 · answer #9 · answered by padwinlearner 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I always advise people not to do anything when they are angry
ANGER is a little MADNESS, Do not do anything when you are angry because what it will spoil may be more than caused the anger
when you are no longer angry revisit the issue and decide whether you still want to send the e-mail
2006-11-25 09:32:36 · answer #10 · answered by michaelobafunshopeters 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋