Do you think your first love is the one you were meant to be with or someone who taught you what to look for in "the one"?
2006-11-25 09:05:54 · 23 answers · asked by skichamonix515 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In reality almost no body marries their first love, and when they do happen to get married, they end up divorce. The right person may no be your first ove but that person will meake you happy.
2006-11-25 09:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by El Luigy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first love and I were together for 8 years before we were married. Two years later, we were divorced. That has been almost 3 years ago. Even with that and the fact that we have other people in our lives, we still talk and get along and are there for each other if we have a problem, just like best friends. She has apologized many times for not making the marriage work, but I still don't believe that we would ever be together again. So, I would have to say in a way that you don't get over each other, but in a way you do. If that helps any.
2006-11-25 09:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by robbybare364 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You do, but it never can be replaced.
It just fades to a nice or not so nice memory. The nice part is that new loves provide new opportunities and that you can learn how to love better with each person that you love.
Look at it this way...love is not a one time thing...it is a process of learning how to love someone else as much as you love yourself. And if it didn't work out it means that you need to work on yourself a bit more.
Getting over something is about growing...and you will grow, sometimes it just takes more time than you would like.
It took me a very long time to get over my first (over 4 years)...and I still think of him fondly. BUT, I don't really remember anything but the good stuff now. That is how you know that you can move on.
2006-11-25 09:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love itself is a learning and falling process. You think you have found it once, and then it drags you down, and then kicks you while you are down. You only get over your first love when you move forward with your life. You never forget them, but you are over them. You need to hold your chin up high and say "I am a (man or woman) and i deserve better!" This is the beginning step. ...... And then, you need to believe in this, with all of your heart! I think that some people are lucky enough to find "the one" in their first love, but most are not. Most end up heartbroken by their first, second, and nth love after, until they do find the one. The one for you (for each of us) is the one who shows you the way of love.........He or she is the one who elevates you from the pit that your first love (or nth love) throws you in, and makes you happy again. He or she is the one who fills your heart; fills it, warms it, and makes it glad to be living. He or she is the one who teaches you the way to true and unconditional love (the love without strings), and always makes you smile. He or she is the one who will never make you cry. He or she just loves, and he or she makes you feel and know within your heart that the two of you are meant to be!
2006-11-26 05:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by pilotmanitalia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my first love, he was the 1st everything. Time helps to heal, but I still think about how he is doing and wish him the best. Six years later I still run into him a Wal-Mart and places like that. My heart hurts when I see him, but I know that things just wouldn't have worked out between us, and yes I definitly learned what I did and didn't want in a companion.
2006-11-25 09:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by Audee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,as time goes on.It just take time for that person to heal.As days and month passes your heart start to mend,even when if you stay away from that person.It willl hurt for awhile trying to back off but in the long run ,it will all pay off.Another solution is prayer. That how i got over my first love.Two answer your second question,nope, i don't think so.To me the first love is just puppy love and the one that you speaking about is suppose to be your soul mate.
2006-11-25 09:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by deedybug50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you must define love. There is only so many definitions. Is it love or lust? Could it be an infatuation? Date other people and see what is so different about this person. Write down the do's and dont's. Compare. Love can be blind if you don't know what to look for. Love is patience, kind, unselfish, not rude, not boastful, giving etc................ I wish you the best.
2006-11-25 09:15:19 · answer #7 · answered by Ucan2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think there is a thing such as "your first love" and it is very hard to get over but sometimes it is the only way to move on because you aren't always meant to be with your first love. you do teach yourself what to look for in the one but that determines the first love in my opinion. i guess if it different for most everyone.
2006-11-25 09:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by letschose2makeadifference 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think u really ever will untill u meet that one person u r ment to spend ur entire life with because the first love is always the hardest and u will most likely never forget about them
2006-11-25 09:14:51 · answer #9 · answered by that one girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first love made me realize what i want in terms of "the one" and what i should be looking for...his mistakes made me miserable...but with a little help...i realized that he really wasn't the one for me...that i wanted different things...and that i have to look for the things i want in the person i love...
2006-11-25 09:09:46 · answer #10 · answered by Need Help! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋