I feel bad sleeping with my new bf early,help!?

Question

I have been dating him for over two months now. I feel bad because i had sex with him about week 3. I wanted it to be special and wish i would of waited because i dont want him to think i'm easy. I didnt have sex with him yesterday,i told him i was tired. I was thinking of starting over and not sleeping with him for a while. Is this a good idea or will he think something is wrong?

Answer 1

You cant go backwards or you will destroy what you've started. Enjoy it

Answer 2

You don't mention your age or level of experience because that would be make a difference in the answer I would offer. Obviously you are a girl who does not want to be seen as someone who "sleeps around". I would think that your bf must know that by now and must appreciate you. Is there any other reason why you feel you want to pull back at this stage? If you had sex with him in week 3 but now are pulling back from him, do you suppose you may be giving him some mixed signals? If you feel that the relationship is moving too fast, why not tell him that and tell him that for now you want to avoid sex until you are more comfortable with the idea. Hope this helps and good luck.

Answer 3

The general rule (old school anyway) is that you wait until the third date to sleep with someone. If you figure a date a week, then week 3 isn't that bad. Sleeping with someone a day or two after you meet them or on the first date is usually when a guy doesn't call back because it was too easy. Not sleeping with him now probably doesn't matter. He is still there and it's been two months, so this might be more in your head then ANYTHING he is thinking about.

Answer 4

In the bible it says that you shouldn't have sex until marriage. Do you have sex every day? If you do then you are easy. And he just wants the goods and will break up with appox. 2 weeks. To answer your question not sleeping with him for awhile is a good idea and i would advise not to do so until you are married. And he will think something is wrong and you should talk to him about it! God bless and may you make the right decisions in life-Be safe and I hope you were using protection or else you might be preggers or have a disease. Also I wouldn't tell people you don't know that you are having sex problems. I hope this helps.

Answer 5

If you aren't comfortable sleeping with him because you think you rushed things, then by all means hold back for a bit. If it is just because you think he thinks you are easy, well, you should know in your heart if that is true or not. After all, it takes two to tango - do you think HE is easy? You slept together because you wanted to.

Talk it through with him and see how he feels about it. He might be feeling the same way and want to slow it down again. If he's happy with you and tells you that, then carry on. Don't be pressured by 'convention' and what is 'expected'. If it felt right at the time, it may well have been. He's still with you over a month later, isn't he? He can't think that badly of you. Don't take all the blame on yourself, either. It does take two.

Answer 6

You say it as if you have had sex with him every day since week 3. Which would be at least 5 weeks. If that is the case he doesnt care about you to begin with. He is only going to find another girl who hasnt had so much sex, to get serious with. Sorry but you should have waited. But if he really cares about you he will stay with you and sleep with any and everyone else who will let him have it. Also, he must not be very good at it or you wouldn't be wanting to stop now.

Answer 7

You can't start over with him. Talk with him about your feelings and see if you two can just cuddle with no sex. Get to know each other for a while. If you move on to another bf, remember this and don't do the same thing. Sex is the least important part of establishing a relationship.

Answer 8

If you are planning on having a long term relationship with him you NEED to talk to him about this. Tell him how you feel. If he is understanding and is willing to wait a while before becoming sexually active again then he is worth continuing this relationship with. Communication is a key part of a strong relationship. A boyfriend should be a friend and a lover. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 9

just tell him that you want to take things slowly cos you want ever moment to be special and that you want him to respect you. if he cant understand that tlk to him properly and tell him the things you think you should be oing before getting so intimate...else he may think youve gone off him, so show him youre crazy about him
alternatively talk to him and see how he feels and see if he has any insecuritites also. the more you confide in each other the stronger the relationship will be
unfortunately you cant just change things as the deeds been done. maybe you could go away on holiday or something and communicate on phone for a bit. i hope it works out for u xx

Answer 10

most relationships start great for 6 weeks, have good bits for six weeks, then tail off or start going into the partnership phase

doubt me? well check you relationships in your life and measure it against my theory as 12 weeks = 3 months

Here is an idea tell him you have something special planned and would like him to wait till next weekend 1st / 2nd Dec 06

If he agrees then he cares, if he whinges like his best toy has been stolen from his pram then you have a boy and not a man

want that for the rest of your life?

Men love intrigue, suspense and the anticipation

Answer 11

The fact he is still with you says he wasn't using you and doesn't think you're cheap. 3 weeks isn't so bad. Don't play games now, as stopping sex for a bit would be, just continue the way you have been and things will go however they are meant to go.