Any advise on a out of controll 3 year old?

Question

She is in to every thing. dosent listen at all. Tantrus and screaming galore. Destroys alot of things as well (yes i know supose to be typical) Notihng has worked at getting her to calm down.. She has been like this since 1 1/2.. And seams to be getting worse...

we have stuck to the same one for a while and when it dosent work any more we try some thing else..

I also should of mentiond she painted her room with poop for over a year.. She always manages to go uring nap time.. and was quiet about it.. Got to the point i was afraid to put her down for one.. she never had a poop durning nap time when i did not put her down.. Potty trained now!!
She also pushed a slide over to the fence 6 foot and climbed over it... Slide in now located in a locked garage and gates to the yard have been nailed shut cuz she moves things over to stand on and unlactes them..

Answer 1

In my own experience this is really not typical behaviour for a three year old. Seriously, look at what you are feeding her, first; try removing all the junk like sugary treats, artificial colours and flavours, all those chemical things that make kids behave like idiots. It's not hard to do; you can find somewhere online a list of chemical additives in food that make kids hyper and badly-behaved. Just look up 'chemical additives in food' on Google.
Once you've cleaned up her diet to remove all those trashy stimulants, you really need to check into a CONSISTENT discipline method because if she's like this now, imagine how she will be in two years' time. It's not normal for a 3 year old to be like this. Take her to your doctor, explain your problem, and ask them for help - they can recommend a good book, or a parenting class, they will have some help for you.

And when you say she is 'into everything' - well, yes, they are at this age because they want to learn. When she gets into things, crouch next to her, explain what the thing is, how to use it, what it does, how it's made, and let her try it out for herself. After her curiosity is satisfied, put it up high if it's unsuitable for her, but let her learn about it first so she will be happy to leave it alone afterwards.
Good luck.

Answer 2

Watch Super Nanny,
No bs she has alot of great ideas. Like the "naughty chair"
You have to get down on her level and tell her what she is doing is wrong, punish her, and then make her to tell you that she is sorry, and why she is sorry. Alot for a three year old? Not really. Children learn at a really early age to manipulate us. Look at the baby that cries, until the moment you pick them up, smarter than you think.
Yelling is the first thing that you think to do, but kids love attention, even if it is negative. I'm not super Mom, but my kid is well behaved, it takes time, and patience.
Good luck.

Answer 3

I would NOT & will NOT allow ANY child to act like this or tear up my house.
My husband & I have NOT had to discipline our three boys since they were 3 or 4, because we didn't screw around with time outs & rewards for good behavior. When we told them no or what ever that what was we meant. Tantrums & not listening resulted in spankings. NOT beatings, spankings... THERE IS A HUGE DIFFERENCE!!!!
All three of our boys are smart, loving, caring, healthy, considerate, polite, well behaved & they are now old enough to discuss issues when there is a disagreement. My husband & I are more than willing to listen to their side & discuss options or compromise, but if they had acted like your child, they KNEW they WOULD be spanked.
Try some discipline!!! As long as she knows you are not going to do anything about her tantrums & screaming, it WILL get worse. Curb this behavior NOW, kindergarten & other teachers will NOT allow a disruptive child in their class, so allowing this will only hurt her in the long run.....
Show her that there are concequences to her actions, this will also help her in the long run.

Answer 4

She needs tightly noosed action and consequense and you have to be really detailed. If she is supposed to do something or stay somewhere as a punishment you have to drop what you are doing and make sure that you put her back where she is supposed to be or if she is out of control then bear hug her (for an hour if neccessary) so she cannot destroy anything. Your authority should be in your silence. No yelling, no tlking about boundaries. The first step is to establish who is in charge by taking charge and outting her where she is supposed to be and giving what consequense that you think she deserves with NO talking. Kinds can measure stress in your voice and many parents "whine" and beg thier children to do right. Just administer her discipline which is appropriate for the offense with no talking or explanation at first. After about 2-3 weeks you can start to slowly start talking to let her know why things are happening but you have to first BREAK her wild behavior and after making yourself the "Alpha Female" she will listen alot easier if you now follow up 100%.

Answer 5

When you say "nothing" I take it you keep changing how you discipline her rather than sticking to ONE method. That is WHY it is getting worse. She is doing these things just to see what you will come up with next. You have to be consistent in your discipline method. It has to be the same way every single time she gets into trouble and don't expect her to remember that she got into the same type of trouble yesterday and that you told her the same thing, her mind hasn't developed to the point where she can remember everything you said. She isn't going to remember that you "just told her" about that yesterday. If you ignore the tantrums they WILL go away, the reason she throws them is to get your attention...and obviously you're giving it. When you first ignore it they will worsen because she is trying to push your buttons and figure out which ones to push. Pretty soon she will figure out that she can't push them and she will give up. But again it's CONSISTENCY and until you get that through your own mind you're going to have problems straight through the teens.

Answer 6

Hi as a mother of a 2.5 year old i believe the best way is to tell her calmly everytime she throws a tantrum that she will not be allowed to watch t.v or what ever she enjoys doing for the day if she does continue with that screaming.If she does continue than stick to what you told her within limits obviously,and not in a harsh way.Show her by being indifferent when she screams and shouts that with that way you dont listen and you will only listen if she stops.Dont forget that children in that age group are far too young to be disciplined by arguing!I read somewhere that after 3 years of age their tantrums cease!!

Answer 7

This is what I say do... and this works, or this worked for me.. hold the child firmly, and talk to her sweetly.. She will resist, of course, and you are not to hurt her or even sound the slightest bit aggervated.. tell her softly that you love her, and that is why you must hold her still.. while you are holding her tell her that she needs to learn how to control herself, as well as the things that come out of her mouth ( like screams and such )... make this a consistent routine.. do it over and over and voer and over again.. anytime she she throws a tantrum go over to her and hold her.. let her get it all out with you there, dont try this unless your prepared to go all the way with it.. A 3 year old is learning that YOU set the limits.. and for some three year olds they might not take that as well...This approach is different and it just may work for you...

Answer 8

Is she feeling OK? Sometimes kids can have MAJOR tantrums because they are not feeling well & not able to find the words to say it. Could also be something in her diet doesn't agree with her - talk to your doctor just in case.... make sure you tell him about the poop issue.

Answer 9

She might be sugar sensitive. Try http://www.littlesugaraddicts.com

Otherwise just be consistent. Enforce consistent limits. And let her know she's loved. Discipline firmly but with love. Parenting with Love and Logic is a great book!